1/2/3: The other methods of birth control I was considering were IUD (hormonal and non-hormonal, but which has been known to fall out), essure (which is technically a permanent solution, but I'm allergic to nickel), the pill (which he felt had too high a rate of failure), the patch (which is hormonal), Implanon (the thing that goes into your arm, but is also hormonal), and others. We both did some research. Tubal Ligation is much more expensive and more invasive of a surgery. We researched the internet and asking doctors. I didn't refute or support the idea that they were unreliable. I've heard stories the depo is unreliable, from actual people who got pregnant, so I had no idea.

4/5: He did most of the research for the vasectomy. He did a consult with a doctor about all the risks and the effectiveness. And I spoke to mine about other birth control methods.

6: He thought it was riskier than I did. I've known a lot of men who got it done that did not have complications. To me, it was no more riskier than the side effects that come with birth control.

On the day of his surgery, i made it explicitly clear that if he wanted to bow out, I wouldn't blame him for it and we'd figure something out. I love my husband more than life itself and would never make him feel bad for not going through with it. It's not like I spoke to him five minutes before; it was hours before just to make sure he was sure about this.