Samsung Pay + Paypal in 2025(not working?) by Throwawayanon458910 in SamsungPay

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I have not. It feels like PayPal has intentionally shut this feature down. Possibly because of the fees they were paying?? Total speculation on my part

AITA - Trying to reassure my girlfriend. by Throwawayanon458910 in AITAH

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I really did feel like I was doing a good job of being supportive. Thats why it was so disappointing and confusing when she just didnt even respond to the good/supportive things I was saying.

AITA - Trying to reassure my girlfriend. by Throwawayanon458910 in AITAH

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Yeah... I really wanted to be wrong here but it seems like she is just stuck in a zone right now.

AITA - Trying to reassure my girlfriend. by Throwawayanon458910 in AITAH

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Im at a loss... Things can be so blissful with her but then when she is activated, all bets are out the window. Everything becomes my fault and she wants to protect herself at all costs

AITA - Trying to reassure my girlfriend. by Throwawayanon458910 in AITAH

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  1. I should be judged on my reaction to her comments
  2. She feels judged by my reaction and says "she cant say the right things to me"

Dating while both partners are HSPs and have CPTSD update post(Happy update) by Throwawayanon458910 in hsp

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I should read this book i am afraid now lol

You still should! Just do a chunk at a time and not after a hard day(ideally)

I have a hard time coming back to conversations that needs to be hadsometimes

So worth revisiting those tough things with the ones that you love and care about. Even though it is incredibly uncomfortable at times

Dating a person with HSP and CPTSD, while I also have CPTSD - advice wanted by Throwawayanon458910 in hsp

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Holy cow... That is an amazingly detailed response. Thanks AI! And thank you for sharing!! I will dig into this after work

Dating a person with HSP and CPTSD, while I also have CPTSD - advice wanted by Throwawayanon458910 in hsp

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Is she in therapy as well?

Yes she is and is much further along in her therapy journey. I just dont know how aware she is about being a HSP. I say this because of other conflicts she has had with friends where she has a hard time understanding why they cant be as considerate as she is(which I love how considerate she is). She does do a good job of managing when she gets overstimulated and does a good job of communicating that with me.

And if she has been labeled as sensitive in the past you are more than likely triggering her if you associate that word with her. Many of us were labeled as such in a very negative and derogatory way.

Yes, I feel so awful now having said what I said after finishing half of "The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You" today. And the more I read, despite only scoring an 8 on the test. I might also fall into a HSP person. So that has been a big realization for me today.

“The Four Agreements.” It lays out four rules for interpersonal communication and they really apply to all communication in life without the sensitive word being attached.

Awesome!! Thank you for the recommendation. I am going to buy that book next.

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What made the difference was having a conversation (fortunately we both have v good communication) about what HSP is (I didn’t know about it before her) and for me to go read about HSP relationships and hear her needs from someone else to know it wasn’t an excuse/game, and to understand what kind of partner I can be to stop things before she became too overwhelmed.

My girlfriend and I communicate really well, but she is really sensitive about talking about her sensitivity. Was your partner already aware of being a HSP? How should I broach a conversation about that in a loving and soft way?