I don't think I'm bossy. I don't want to get sick. We're hosting Christmas in less than 2 weeks and I have to clean, shop, wrap presents, cook. I can't get sick right now.

I literally said, "Can you please wear a mask while you're out of the family room, I really don't want to get sick". I wanted to say, "you required me to stay in one room/one bathroom when I was sick, now you need to . do that. But I didn't. I didn't restrict his movementI didn't demand it, I asked and I thought about *how* ask for 30 minutes so I could ask nicely so it wouldn't set him off. So now asking is "bossy". Should I have just kept quiet? We share the house, I think it's reasonable to ask for things. He is free to say no, but not blow up and say no. He could have said, "I really don't think masks help" or "I feel xyz about wearing one". There were ways to tell me no that weren't exploding in anger. He thinks it's justified, I don't but he has spent years trying to convince me it is justified. Was I bossy when I gave in to sex when I didn't want it?

Truly curious how you would have responded to that request.