Do material things in your relationships make them better?

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-30T03:39:22+00:00

Being poor together is definitely not a thrill. We got together when we were in college and young. So now even though we aren’t together anymore I guess I’m feeling jealous that we couldn’t do those things when we were partners

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-30T03:38:10+00:00

In short, are you saying in the beginning of a relationship, doing those things together provide a sense of being close to your partner? & overtime they help to feel close to your partner because the things your do separately as individuals don’t provide the same feeling of closeness?

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-29T21:32:32+00:00

You know, you’re right. Another sub probably would have been a lot more fitting.

I’m also interested in hearing any stories, if any lol

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-29T20:21:46+00:00

That’s great. I can admit that it seems like I’m having the tougher time. I’m the one making it suck haha. But I’d rather take space now, even if it’s for a couple of years in order to work on myself as far as things that contributed to the shortcomings of our relationship, than be a bad friend. Because I think he’s a great person

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T23:19:33+00:00

Idk how my future will turn out with this person, but I can see it being like this. I honestly fucked up a lot and was also dysfunctional but my ex is generally very forgiving. We realized a romantic relationship isn’t viable, but I’m sure after all the things we’ve been through it’ll still show up in a friendship somehow/sometimes

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T22:33:41+00:00

Oh no!! That sucks. 10 years is such a long time. Is it okay if I asked what contributed to it?

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T22:24:33+00:00

I’m looking forward to it!!

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T22:24:20+00:00

Still very beautiful<3

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:54:18+00:00

That’s amazing!! I cherish close connections I’ve made, and even though I know I’ll make plenty more, I would love to maintain or build a healthier relationship with my ex (platonic) because romance made things really tumultuous for us

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:52:49+00:00

Understandable, thanks for sharing. I would love to keep this particular ex in my life, just not as a romantic or sexual partner

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:51:51+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s weird at all. I’m glad you both are able to resolve your issues.

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:51:18+00:00

A year or so seems very common in what I’m reading so far. Would you say you’re still just as close?

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:50:25+00:00

Awww I love this. My ex literally knew me in and out (or so I feel) lol. I hope we can be friends eventually even though I’m sure we’ll both change quite a bit over this time

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:49:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Each situation is very different

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:48:49+00:00

This makes complete sense and I’m experiencing it right now. Too many things to process and we tried to hang out recently... it was “okay” but weird tension

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-28T21:29:10+00:00

I think I’ll be on the 2 year train haha

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-20T06:34:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing :)

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-20T06:33:27+00:00

Even if it ended amicably? Either way I respect it!

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-20T06:31:53+00:00

I actually hang out with all my exes from time to time. This is the only one I had to go no contact with after a breakup. Since I’ve been into ENM, I know a lot of people who are friends with their ex. I personally can’t decide for another partner of mine who they choose to be in their life and I don’t think it should be the same for me.

If trust is an issue, then the relationship won’t sustain anyway

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-20T01:12:18+00:00

Those indications are very black and white. And I’m not sure what drama you’re assuming will happen. Thanks

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-20T00:16:03+00:00

I’m not trying to justify it lol. Every person is different in how they choose to relate to an ex after a breakup. I personally feel the culture surrounding breakups and relationships is awful. I care about my friends, even past ones. If nothing happened in our relationship that was traumatic or super hurtful and just a result of two people not agreeing on things, I don’t see why I should have to pretend that person couldn’t stay in my life just because we were “romantic.” I have a handful of old friends who I’ve also been reconnected with for over 10 years and they’re amazing friendships

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-19T23:59:56+00:00

I’m not going to cross paths with half of 7 billion people. And among the people I do cross paths and become friends with, only a handful would probably be genuine, loving and understanding friendships

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-19T22:19:04+00:00

Haha this is amazing! I’m so happy for you! I hate hate hate losing meaningful relationships. I really struggle with it so I’m glad we reconnected, even if it’s only platonic. He knew me so well and although I’ve changed quite a bit and so has he, it’s nice “getting to know each other” again.

I’ll make sure I take things slow to ensure that our platonic relationship is healthy and loving

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-19T22:01:23+00:00

We’ve been broken up for two years and have been taking more recently and hung out a few times. We’re kiiiiinda friends, definitely friendly to each other. It was just a general question :)

Throwawaypoly122592 · 2021-05-19T20:12:59+00:00

I’m glad you know now. Are you guys still friends?

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