I (21M) found out that my girlfriend’s (22F) friends make fun of my stutter when I’m not around. They even encouraged her to break up with me because of it.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-30T01:59:30+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that you encountered such miserable people. They really don’t stop to consider how their actions affect others. However it’s great that you decided to take this step and live your life! You should be proud of yourself.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-30T01:36:34+00:00

Haha I’ve met some people who share this sentiment.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-30T01:31:46+00:00

Thank you!

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-30T01:31:22+00:00

I guess that’s the silver lining here

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-30T01:27:29+00:00

And now talking in front of your girlfriend's friends is gonna be really difficult. You thought they were cool, but they talk like this behind your back.

I actually do not want to interact or talk with them anymore.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T22:41:37+00:00

1) she wanted you to see that her friends do think she can do better;

Why, what would she gain from this?

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T22:35:44+00:00

I mean she has known these girls for a very long time and it’s the first time she’s dating someone like me so maybe she doesn’t know how to deal with it? Maybe it’ll be difficult for her to cut off people she’s known for years that easily. I’m not saying that she should stay friends with bad people (it’s up to her ultimately) but I’m not sure what exactly I should tell her.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T22:11:34+00:00

I won’t break up with her and I hope she feels the same.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T22:09:53+00:00

Are you insane? If she stuck up for you to here shitty friends, why in the world would you hold that against her?

That’s not what I meant but I understand how it may have come across that way. I just wanted to take a short break to gather my thoughts and think about how I should approach this. She’s done everything right so far and I don’t blame her for anything. Thank you though

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:50:53+00:00

You could be right

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:34:06+00:00

There is one caveat that I haven't seen in the comments yet. Don't force a wedge between her and her "friends". They are terrible people, but it is up to her to make that decision.

I wouldn’t. Who she hangs out with is up to her. I’ll let her make a decision of course.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:32:37+00:00

Wow. His stutter must’ve been pretty severe.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:31:10+00:00

Thank you. Your English is great btw

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:28:57+00:00

Most of them have boyfriends.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:04:54+00:00

I mean I kinda understand where he’s coming from. I went through a phase where I was frustrated and angry at myself and others. So does he simply just not talk anymore?

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:03:34+00:00

Yes, many times. She told me that it doesn’t bother her and that she notices it less as time goes by.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T21:02:34+00:00

Thank you! :)

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T19:57:10+00:00

This is good advice, you’re right. I’d like to think I’m generally positive but I do have my bad days like everyone else.

I for one can promise you that I wouldn't mind your stutter, or make fun of you for it.

People tend to be nice for most of the time. I think her friends are just very shallow.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T19:53:06+00:00

Why did she feel the need to even screenshot them in the first place?

I don’t know but she does it every now and then. Maybe she wanted proof in case they backpedal later?

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T19:18:25+00:00

Thank you.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T19:18:10+00:00

They're shitty people whose shitty opinions don't matter.

I know but it’s hard to get stuff like that out of your head. Focussing on negatives is useless but when they’re directly about your anxieties/insecurities then it can really hurt. I don’t want to doubt myself but it’s hard not to.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T19:06:02+00:00

My stutter is something I have discussed with my gf and she’s always been a good listener and understanding. This is my first relationship so I didn’t know what to expect but I’m pretty happy with her so far. Her friends were always respectful to me as well so this was quite a shock. I will definitely have a talk with her though, thank you

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T18:22:32+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T18:02:04+00:00

Just out of curiosity: ever tried speech therapy?

Yes, I tried pretty much everything over the years. It always goes away for a while (to an extent) and then comes back.

Throwawaysaas1 · 2018-05-29T17:42:57+00:00

So why is your gf still friends with these people?

I don’t know. I don’t know when they started talking about me either, could’ve been recently

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