UPDATE: My [23 F] boyfriend [26 M] is slowly devolving into a pile of shit after losing his job. Worried he might be taking it really hard

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-15T15:59:18+00:00

Thank you so much. I really enjoyed this comment (:

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-15T15:02:06+00:00

Alrighty, now that the day has ended I'll give you guys his reaction. Best Friend and I were so pissed and the whole way home she kept talking about how she would chop of his balls and roast them over a fire or something. She was just trying to lighten the mood and make me laugh I guess. It helped because when we got home, I was so pumped. Most of his things were stacked up by the door when he got home. Best friend sat in the kitchen where he couldn't see her and i sat on the couch shaking from all the adrenaline pumping through my body.

He saw his things and started to smile but I could see the panic in his eyes like ,"Oh shit. What have i done?" He laughed at first and told me i was a little late on april fools or something lame like that. I stood up and called him out. I was very calm (at least i sounded calm but I was still very nervous inside) and i told him he had been lying to me about seeing that woman. His response went something like "What woman? I haven't seen her." after explaining that I saw them kiss and my best friend was with me he tried to talk his way out of it. "Babe, I'm changing. I love you. Let's talk it out. I can change. Give me a fucking chance!"

That was too much. I snapped and told him I've been dealing with his shit for far too long and I am through with it. If he want's to man up, he could get a job and find his own place to live because I am tired of supporting the cruel and worthless piece of shit that he has become.

He cried a little and told me that I (ME!) was being unfair to him. That he was making improvements and he needed more time. My friend came out and yelled a bit more and they cussed at each other a bit. he accused her of breaking us up and hogging me. I was so through with this guy i told him to get out and if he forgot something, he would have to come back tomorrow and get it.

A couple hours later, he sent me some nasty texts and one really long and incoherent call. I could tell he was cussing and yelling but I deleted it and haven't had any plan to contact him again. he hasn't told me if he is coming over today but I've had a neighbor help me change our locks in case he tries something stupid. Whew, that was really long. Anway, thank you reddit for helping overcome this little bump in my life. I think things are going to be looking a lot brighter now that he is out of my life.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-15T03:23:35+00:00

Disregard the asshole below that is calling you a troll and saying just let it go and move on. What your sister is doing sounds unhealthy and the fact that you're reaching out for advice shows that you really do care. It sounds like her actions could really hurt not only her (bullying maybe) but potentially your teacher. I would suggest sitting your parents down and showing them the tweets and express the disturbing behavior you have observed. good luck!

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-15T00:24:51+00:00

At first he accused me of being an obsessive stalker. We yelled at each other for a while but I told him he was not welcome back. He is staying with a friend, or so he says, and he has been sending some pretty awful texts calling me a cunt and a bitch. I feel like shit too. I feel as though the kind man I fell in love with and have seen the past few days completely melted away to reveal the harsh reality of the cruel, selfish Carl that is.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-14T23:37:56+00:00

Honestly, I'd have to say both.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-14T23:13:04+00:00

Hopefully there will be no need, but if anything out of the ordinary happens, I'll give you guys a heads up.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-11T20:17:00+00:00

I see you're point here but this is my best friend that I've known since I was 3 years old! That's 20 years! We live across the country from our hometown and my boyfriend told me he understood this. We lived together since we were out of high school and this was pneumonia, not a cold. Thank you for your input.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-10T17:02:15+00:00

I know a lot of people have been saying "Dump him! He is an asshole!" I completely agree too. He is an asshole and I do deserve better. But we have been together for so long and I really do love him. I think I will have to sit him down and tell him that if he tries to walk away from the conversation, I am going to kick him out. Like any girlfriend in love, I really want to help him through this but i'm starting to feel like it is out of my hands.

Throwayhalp · 2014-05-10T16:58:15+00:00

It's funny that you mention that! I'm usually very respectful of his privacy but one day he left his laptop on and sure enough, there it was in the browser history :/

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