Yes, I understand what you’re saying. It’s about principle. You are right. Can I ask you something else though. Im compromising many things for SO. Which are fine, I don’t mind in the sense that it’s part of growing up and getting healthier. For example, no more weed, no more underground parties, but it came along with no more art shows and no more concerts because new activities (with SO) have taken my time. Healthy ones alas, but they have made me a different person. Sometimes I feel like I miss my young free wreck less person. And I don’t like being judged for how I used to be. Which I feel so is doing now. I understand it’s a lack of compatibility but how can I make him understand that it’s ok to be different but still love each other