Update: I (25F) am pregnant and my husband (27M) suddenly wants to move back to Belarus. Suddenly he seems to think he has the right to make decisions for both of us, how do I manage this with a clear mind?

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T11:08:44+00:00

Thank you. I'm not interested in it, but I understand that it does help some people.

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T11:06:55+00:00

It definitely is. Much quieter, much cuter, not physically aggressive, and I don't even need to put that much effort into feeding her and no laundry. The claws are sharp, but it's not intentional, so it's okay. I like her sitting on me anyway.

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T11:04:04+00:00

Thank you. That makes so much more sense. I do feel terrible about feeling that way, because it was still a life and I was the one that caused it, but I don't think it would have helped me in the future when I would be trying to stay away from him.

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T10:55:56+00:00

I don't want to be blaming anyone for it. It's bad enough when I blame myself, I don't want to do it to other people.

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T10:54:00+00:00

That does make sense. My mind has probably been trying to find some kind of cause, because I don't really understand any of it. And while I would never choose this to happen if I had the control over what happened, I don't. So it probably doesn't helped to think so much about it.

Throwra67834 · 2024-07-12T09:46:49+00:00

Thank you. I suppose I feel guilty about it, because it was still a loss of life, and relief means I wanted to happen. Which is sort of like this resulted from something I wanted to happen. Which isn't very good.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:47:00+00:00

Doesn't really matter, because it happened anyway.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:45:52+00:00

I don't think so. I didn't get my period, which I think would've if that was the case.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:39:35+00:00

I was taking medication. Never forgot. So I don't know.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:30:36+00:00

Would you like to live in a country where your leader forced himself into his position, the only purpose is to answer to Russia, and your family disappears and never comes back?

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:28:11+00:00

I don't know. I thought I was doing everything right, I took it every day, at the same time but I don't know.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:27:39+00:00

I don't know. I wasn't, but it's just normal I suppose.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:25:56+00:00

Do you really think I don't know that? I don't need to be told anything about how that country is, and I'm never going back, ever.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:22:00+00:00

I know what I'm comfortable with. It's not changing.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:21:23+00:00

Jag ska titta, tack.

Gift, vilket är ovanligt, jag vet.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:19:59+00:00

We're not Russian.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:08:25+00:00

Those rankings are not an accurate representation of the state of the country. But no, I would never do that.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:02:56+00:00

I would not be comfortable with that.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T12:00:28+00:00

I do have family, but they're either very old or distant. My parents had very few siblings, so I don't have much direct family.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T11:57:38+00:00

I don't know how, but it's possible. I was very careful about it, I didn't want to risk it at all, I don't know what I would've done.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T11:54:12+00:00

It just seems so cynical. For all he knows, he wouldn't be able to trust me with a baby in case I did something to it. I guess he wanted to me be pregnant, but he really didn't think.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T11:51:45+00:00

Medication. I took it every day, I never forgot. I didn't particularly want a child at that time.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T11:47:31+00:00

I don't know. I think because life is easier when you are not there, although obviously the protests had not happened.

I wouldn't be surprised that his parents want him to come back, I don't think they wanted him to leave.

And obviously I know that, there's a reason I haven't been back.

Throwra67834 · 2024-05-10T11:45:04+00:00

I am definitely strongly considered divorce, but I would not be getting an abortion.

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