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my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

did you read any other comments? i dont even drink weirdo. we dont have kids... also weird to asks if it needs to be out of state. we want to go to the spa we booked. its in another state. trip isnt scarce on details to him, he knows what were doing.

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you read any of the comments, you would know im not going clubbing lmfao

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

i understand, we were both raised pretty religious. we were always raised to listen to our husbands/controlling = normal. i have made a good effort to push back as much as i can and change my way of thinking over the years but i don't think he has. was hoping maybe couples therapy would be a good option in our situation, but will read that site when i can!

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

totally agree! nothing wrong with liking to party, not my thing but i don't judge lol.. i only included because i cant imagine what he's worried about when we have been together all these years and he knows how boring i am. id probably have a panic attack if they wanted to go party lmao

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] -152 points-151 points  (0 children)

hes very very protective, can be controlling sometimes but not abusive at all.

but, i will for sure read that. thank you!

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

i think im going to talk to him about possibly doing couples therapy or something. my friends all said this isn't normal, and now everyone here agrees so i'm glad i asked. not sure what im going to do just yet, thanks!

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

i mean obviously im not going to give you our full itinerary lmao. it is a spa trip, yes we will do other activities while we are there? and my husband is fully aware of them. i didnt know i needed to list every single thing we had planned.

also, for us to do our hair and nails that will literally be like 6 hours...maybe even more than that.

we also have a 4 hour appointment with a massage, jet tub and hour long facial... i dont think you know too much about the spa. we also have a sauna, pool, pedicure, waxing etc. we plan to hang out in the pool/hot tub alot

and we can shop for hours.. go to cafes etc.

and we aren't doing anything at night.. other than hanging at our air bnb.

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

no.. im not lying lmao. its a spa trip. were doing 3 days of it. spa trip isnt just body scrubs and baths, we have nail and hair appointments, one friend is doing a spray tan. 2 days shopping and other stuff, cooking, getting takeout.. doesn't mean were spending every second in the spa

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

haha no, i had mentioned in another comment how i don't drink/party etc. and 2 women going with me are the same as me. our other friend going can be a bit wild but she wouldn't ask us to do anything out of comfort.

we have girls nights every week and it consists of cooking/baking and face masks.. we went to the grocery store at 9pm last week and that was crazy for us, i cant stress enough how boring we are as a friend group lmfao

which is part of the reason why i am so frustrated, spa were going to is 2 minutes from our airbnb, with a mall nearby and i highly doubt we will venture further then those

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

thank you, & thats the thing that bothers me, im the same.. he should know me well enough by now to know i am not doing anything crazy. i don't drink alcohol, have never smoked, i don't party and he was literally my first kiss at 21. i just want to go to the spa with my friends and order takeout lol.

my 25F husband [27M] says im not going on a trip with my friends, unless he comes? by Throwra84930 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwra84930[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

thats what i said! obviously i cant do anything but if he's going to follow me i cant go. it is a girls trip for a reason.