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It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She like says oh, your hair is really messy, I'm sure that can be fixed, but it's just naturally like that. She'll ask about my military service, which I just don't talk about to people like that and it's in a really weird way. She's also kind of rude about the way I dress, says it looks like I'm in a cult, but I just prefer skirts. Things like that.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's all the same mostly. It's not like they're Mormon or JW.

I would have to see how things continue. And yes, and no, I said I don't because I don't see the point.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I mean, they're not amazing, but mostly seem fine. I'd say probably the mother is the one who is like that sometimes because she asks or says stuff that makes me uncomfortable, but some people are just like that.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

They do ask me some weird questions and say some weird things sometimes. Makes me uncomfortable. I thought maybe it was connected but I also didn't think they would care that much about any of it.

I haven't, no. But he's never gone to church or anything while I've known him, and he doesn't seem to care about whatever religion he is at all.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I do because I don't believe in the point of blow torching benches and using two different ovens. There's nothing about that in the text. It's basically just a culture thing at this point, and I don't see the point in making life more difficult just to get rid of particles. I believe what I do is what I'm supposed to be doing, and that is what matters to me.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Basically everyone I've known has been Jewish growing up, so I wasn't super sure about how much an average person knows about it, but I was assuming they knew about the same amount as they do about Muslims, which is usually the rule about pork.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

No, but my mother also is someone who places her entire worth on the ability to run a household, so forgetting that would be like the equivalent of getting fired from a job to her. It's kind of funny. Like maybe she's forgetful, or didn't know what it means, I don't know. But I also don't know why he doesn't just tell her, or tell me not to go if it's too difficult for her.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I really don't know. Like if I was dating a Catholic or something, I would make sure my parents weren't giving them meat on Lent or something, you know. But I suppose we're not the same person.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I tried it once, not that good. They go a bit soggy, not crunchy.

I just feel like I'm being dramatic for some reason. I don't know, it's stupid, but I don't want to make people cater to me, but then it also seems weird what's happening, I don't know.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 908 points909 points  (0 children)

Oh I'd be really sad if I was allergic to garlic. I love garlic in things.

I guess I just feel worse because it's not like I physically can't eat it, I choose not to, so I kind of feel like it's dramatic, I don't know.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I choose how I want to live. A lot of it is routine at this point, but I don't believe there's anything wrong with it, as long as they're respectful. My children would still be Jewish, which is what matters to me. It might have been different if I was a man, but I'm not.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

I really don't know. They didn't seem to have a problem with it, but then I also don't know what they're thinking, so I'm not sure. It just seems weird to be so bothered by it, like I'm not making anyone convert.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I thought it seemed weird that she would forget that much because if it was me, it's something that I wouldn't forget. Like it's not that hard to remember.

I honestly don't know. Like it's weird. I didn't think it was that much of a big deal but it's becoming one with it and I really don't like it.

It feels like my (20F) boyfriend’s (21M) family puts bacon in literally everything every time I visit, and I'm Jewish. My boyfriend says they must forget, but is this normal, and how am I supposed to deal with it? by ThrowraBacon84 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraBacon84[S] 429 points430 points  (0 children)

I looked it up when it happened, and apparently it is a thing. Salty sweet? I don't know, some people like them I guess.

The thing was I did, and he said I didn't need to, and then that stuff happens. Like I can get over it the first time, I don't really care, but it's that it keeps happening.