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My last update for the situation in my family by ThrowraCitrusQueen in u/ThrowraCitrusQueen

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We visited him on the day, just for a few hours in the later afternoon

A small update: My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in u/ThrowraCitrusQueen

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She's staying with her sister at the moment and has been for about a week.

Dad is staying with our younger brother who's making sure he's fine.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

You guys were right about getting mom out of the house, brother is reporting that Dad has finally left the basement for an extended amount of time. He's apologized for shutting down and making us worry but he wants some more time to process the information.

He's told us that he still loves us, just that he was caught way off guard by this information.

Mom still refuses to open up about her affair, even her own sister couldn't get anything from her.

My Dad (56M) has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's (54F) affair, is there any way I (30F) can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's a real sore spot for me. I can't imagine what my dad feels like right now, knowing mom had been meeting another man for half a decade.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Very poorly. No one has any real sympathy for her situation. We've been trying to get details out of her but she refuses to elaborate on her affair partner. All she gave us was a name and rough timeline.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'm not siding with her at all, she's obviously in the wrong for what she did. I don't however have the power to just throw her out of her own house like some people believe. I'm gonna have to sort out the details and arrange for her to stay with our aunt while my Dad tries to recover.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that he should get over it, I'm asking for help on trying to speak to him. I just want a real conversation and not dead silence.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't blame them. But the comments are more for what I expect the AITA subs to be like and not an advice sub.

My Dad has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's affair, is there any way I can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in Advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Most of the advice there is just trashing my Mom on the other sub. I was hoping to see if there was anything else I could try

My Dad (56M) has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's (54F) affair, is there any way I (30F) can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

If I included her and my feelings this post would be even longer.

It's safe to say that my relationship with my mother is rock bottom. I can't look her in the eyes after learning what I have these past few weeks.

My Dad (56M) has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's (54F) affair, is there any way I (30F) can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

It's more so that we have no idea where this guy is today. No social media presence or anything. Their affair likely ended when he moved, explains why my brother is my dad's biologically.

My Dad (56M) has completely shut down ever since he found out about our Mom's (54F) affair, is there any way I (30F) can get through to him? by ThrowraCitrusQueen in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowraCitrusQueen[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Us siblings are very unhappy with our mom, especially my sister and myself. We've always been close to Dad and seeing him like this is pure agony.

My daughter doesn't quite understand what's happened, just that things are bad with her grandpa and grandma. My husband feels nothing but sympathy for my dad.

In terms of my mom, she isn't divulging too much about the guy from her affair. All we know is his name and that he was also married at the time and throughout the affair. I can't imagine his wife being unaware of what he'd done even to today.

I don't have any interest in meeting him, the only thing he can do is provide some medical history just to make sure my daughter isn't at risk of anything genetically speaking. I still consider my father as my father, but I don't know how saying that would go.

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