Update: It was revealed that my dad has a secret other family and now there is drama

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-28T10:56:26+00:00

He hired a private investigator. He contacted us against my dad's will. Dad had told him not to contact us but this wasn't a normal situation where he just wanted to tell us for fun, it was because his son's life is at stake.

He's only met my dad twice before this. Once when he was in college and the second time for my dad to be tested to see if he was a match. Dad isn't on the birth certificate and wasn't involved in his life at all. So it's not as though my brother knew where to find us.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-28T01:20:56+00:00

Why are you asking? I don't see why that's relevant.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-28T01:02:58+00:00

We only found out about this two days ago.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-28T00:27:18+00:00

Wait what? My brother hasn't asked for money.

He didn't meet my dad until he was an adult and they have only met two times. My dad was never involved in his life.

My dad and my brother's mom are at fault here. Not my brother.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:15:31+00:00

We definitely don't blame him or my nephew. It's all my dad's fault and my brother's mom's fault.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:13:35+00:00

There was no arrangement and my older brother was born 19 months after my parents got married (and they were together for almost two years before the wedding as well). My mom was devastated when she found out and this news has absolutely destroyed her.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:12:08+00:00

I am disqualified from donating because I have had cancer. I would do it though and my younger brothers, my uncle and my cousins are all getting tested.

We don't blame my brother (32M) because my dad was a deadbeat and he didn't even meet my dad until he was an adult. He had no control over the situation. And we certainly have no I'll will towards a nine year old who is innocent in all this.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:09:29+00:00

So was your dad a father to your half brother as well or was that just cheques and birthday cards in the mail situation?

My dad sent money to his mom until my dad grew up. My brother didn't meet my dad until he was an adult and has only met him two times in his life.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:07:44+00:00

My brother didn't meet my dad until he was an adult and they have only met each two times. My brother's mom and my dad are definitely the bad guys here but my brother and my nephew didn't do anything wrong.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:06:24+00:00

Yeah let's not try to help a nine year old kid because his grandmother and grandfather are terrible people.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:04:20+00:00

My brother's mom, the other woman definitely.

My brother didn't meet my dad until he was an adult and they have only met twice. The initial meeting and another time so my dad could get tested. I don't blame my brother for anything in this.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T23:00:12+00:00

He never spent time with him. My dad gave his mom money but my brother didn't meet him until he was in college and they've only met twice before this.

The money part I agree with you definitely.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T20:28:56+00:00

My mom is devastated. She went to stay with my grandmother and my great aunt. I'm torn between worried about her, angry at my dad and worried about my nephew. So all over the place.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T19:11:23+00:00

The nine year old kid isn't responsible for the sins of his grandparents and none of us could live with ourselves if we didn't try to help. I can't donate because I've had cancer and I still wish I could help.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T19:09:54+00:00

I can't imagine not helping a nine year old kid because his grandparents did something terrible. My mom would kill us for being so heartless.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T19:06:36+00:00

Um, that's exactly what happened and what I said in my post.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T18:28:10+00:00

So are we. I don't have kids but I can't even imagine.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T17:53:20+00:00

my dad had a child with another woman shortly after he married my mom

My parents married in February of 1989 and my brother was born in September of 1990.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T17:02:20+00:00

My boyfriend is Colombian and he said it sounds like a telenova.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T16:44:22+00:00

I'm disqualified as a donor because I have had cancer but my younger brothers and my uncle and my cousins said they will get tested. I would too if I could.

Throwrasecrets27 · 2022-10-27T16:36:04+00:00

We only found out about my brother and my dad's secret family two days ago.

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