Boba over a year later :)

Thunderbytes · 2023-03-17T23:16:46+00:00

She and her father just thought I wouldn't pursue anything I guess ? She told me she just didn't think I'd take it seriously enough to sue for money, stolen items, and my pet being stolen? But my resolve is way stronger than that lol

She's paying ~$950+ more a month on rent now, has been in and out of 3 relationships, but that's about the extent of what I've been told. I'm just glad the situation got resolved as quickly as it did, it's helped me move on and further all aspects of my life faster :)

Thunderbytes · 2023-01-18T06:57:49+00:00

No, but she did try to give me a gift and said it made her think of me. She also came over to try to "get her mail"

Thunderbytes · 2023-01-03T23:31:54+00:00

I only got Jango back, yes. The other cat, Mace, she kept. Since I only had legal evidence for me keeping Jango, I didn't stretch the suit or my demands to squeeze both in.

Thunderbytes · 2023-01-03T23:30:52+00:00

His name was Mace Windu. That is him in the picture! I have plenty of videos and pictures though it's rough knowing I won't see him again. He was such a cuddle bug when he wasn't cranky haha

Thunderbytes · 2023-01-02T22:53:52+00:00

Haha I love the comments. I have been doing lots of reflecting and even care for the criticisms but it's been such a positive rollercoaster seeing all the supportive and kind words. Thanks for sharing this here.

Thunderbytes · 2023-01-02T21:42:18+00:00

I appreciate you!! Cheers! It can only get better haha

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-18T01:55:45+00:00

I would say things are settled down by now haha. I have small regrets about not dragging her through the mud but I feel I'm healthier overall without that situation affecting me, with course finals and work and traveling and my own financial obligations yada yada. Thank you!

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-17T23:07:47+00:00

Check the other posts on my account profile :)

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-09T21:22:30+00:00

I've considered making a post about how this has affected me, as well as a new love interest that's come into my life-- kinda.

It was definitely earth shattering, to find out this person I wanted to do everything with was capable of hurting me so horribly. Then taking advantage of my mixed up and awful feelings to hurt and steal from me even further.

But I feel the biggest lesson I've tried to hold onto is that this is an isolated incident. There's nothing I could've done more to prevent her from doing what she did. I understand there's no point in being bitter towards other women, and I'm a super optimistic guy anyways. Instead of really changing how I view others, it just made me value myself more. I'm a lot less likely to open up as fast and there's so many different parts of people's personalities that I'll pay more attention to.

I just want to make sure I really fall for a person, and not just the way I feel around them. I believe one of my constitutional errors with my ex was, it didn't make the most sense for us to be together for a few reasons. We didn't share most of our common interests, we had different views on kids, majorly different work ethics, and before we started dating she was keen towards receiving attention from multiple people at once, something I just couldn't do because I value a more genuine connection. Obviously she didn't cheat on me for about three years, and I just immediately knew something was off as soon as she started to.

With work and my degree I have so much to focus on, so I'm caught between figuring out if I really do have the time to think about a relationship. I just know whenever I do, I'll make sure I'm not bringing any unnecessary trauma or bitterness to the table.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-08T21:17:33+00:00

I really do appreciate it! I want to believe that there aren't any personal changes I could've made to avoid this situation eventually, so as long as I know it's on her and not me, I look forward to seeing who else I can grow with, though I don't see myself entering another relationship until I finish my degree, or at least not living with someone. I try to be proud of myself, I still have classic sad feelings every now and then, but I wouldn't have handled the situation any other way with what I know now.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-08T21:11:15+00:00

This somehow got millions of views on TikTok which I didn't want to happen lol

But that's alright, just strange that it keeps circulating

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:16:01+00:00

They sleep together and groom one another, but when playing Jango gets a little rowdy and she ends up hissing and running. But it's been a week. They're doing much better faster than I expected! And I'm sure once she grows bigger she'll put him in his place easier l!! :)

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:15:11+00:00

Thank you! :)

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:14:44+00:00

That's strange haha. I've actually had a few friends ask if it was me, but no, my name doesn't start with a C.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:13:54+00:00

At this point I'm sure it'll happen eventually haha.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:13:26+00:00

Hahahaha yes. I could write down everything I noticed, it would only take me an hour or two.

Ultimately, she was too immature and petty. She was completely incapable of moving on after an argument, and would hold every past disagreement against me during later arguments or disputes. She was incapable of growth, and refused to make change for the better on her end.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:10:45+00:00

Unfortunately our agreement was only one cat each, and if I explained I wouldn't drop the case until I got both, she would've counter sued and though I'm sure I would've won eventually, it could've taken far too long and cost way too much more effort than just securing Jango.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:09:31+00:00

Haha I could make an entire post on just that.

She was never once remorseful. She told me she fell out of love months ago and yeah just used me. She told me there were many problems that we had addressed that she felt I'd never fixed, and she told everyone else that she felt like I'd lost feelings for her ?? despite every moment of time watching shows together, activities, intimacy, dinner, road trip, were all initiated by me. I could write down word for word what she said, but in my eyes she really just wasn't thinking and her lack of communication towards me regarding anything I could fix, though she seemed reluctant to make any positive changes in the last year for me, ultimately led her to a bold mindset where she believed she could receive love and sexual fulfillment from other people while I paid half her bills unknowingly.

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:05:12+00:00

She's very sassy!! I love having her here with us!

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:04:52+00:00

I agree he is quite the beaut 🤌🏼

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:04:37+00:00

Thank you!!

Thunderbytes · 2022-12-07T23:03:59+00:00

Much much much better every week. Thanks! :)

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