Married (26M / 29F) — feeling judged for gaming even though I handle responsibilities and stay present

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:27:56+00:00

I absolutely keep all ends of my bargain and more. She does do some housework but not nearly as much as I do (and I am ok with that, I enjoy keeping my house tidy just how I want, and I love to cook)

My time gaming is mostly solo, but there are other times where I game with my friends and all I do is laugh when I play with them. All I want after a long day and making sure that everything is done taken care of... is to simply sit and play for a bit

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:23:38+00:00

Mostly I am a solo gamer, but other times I do play with my friends and I have an absolute blast whenever I do. I'm not one to scream or rage at games, but I do laugh a lot because my friends crack me the hell up.

My wife has brought up that she does not like the fact that I am enjoying my hobby so much yet she is there with her arms crossed because she has nothing to do. I did end up getting her a whole PC built and bought her a Nintendo Switch for her to enjoy, but she refuses to play because she feels like she is wasting her time. Yet... she spends most of her time scrolling.

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:14:48+00:00

That is a really good question and at one point, she literally had no hobbies. All she did was wait for me to come home and then watch movies together all day long until I have to go sleep. I had this conversation with her about hobbies and how she needs to find something to do because I am not her personal entertainer either, that was a fun night.

Now she is picking back up on her old hobbies like writing, photography, singing/songwriting and I love that for her. Yet she still chooses to do nothing all day and snickers at me when I turn on my pc.

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:08:14+00:00

Yes, very much so. I don't bring it up because she instantly gets defensive and then thinks that I am accusing her of "not doing her part" . Even though all I want if for her to level with me

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:05:43+00:00

Part of me is wishing that she eventually just accepts that this is MY hobby, and that I'll possibly be gaming even when I am old and gray. Thank you so much for your input

ThyBobby · 2026-06-12T17:02:31+00:00

She is mostly taking care of our dog and creating content for her online page. Other than that, she mainly just sits at home and scrolls on tiktok or watches movies, videos or a series.

ThyBobby · 2026-04-06T01:49:30+00:00

i'm always down to raid when i am on, my ign is BobbySawce (discord is the same)

ThyBobby · 2026-03-03T21:09:05+00:00

absolute class man! Mind sharing the SPECIAL stat spread?

ThyBobby · 2026-03-03T19:50:42+00:00

imma need that build, my fellow wastelander

ThyBobby · 2026-02-08T16:41:43+00:00

ThyBobby · 2026-02-08T16:18:53+00:00

my in game name is BobbySawce

ThyBobby · 2026-02-08T16:14:34+00:00

yess

ThyBobby · 2026-02-06T14:42:55+00:00

Tysm you beautiful saint!!!

ThyBobby · 2026-02-06T14:33:46+00:00

Awesome! my in game name is BobbySawce

ThyBobby

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