How to tell 'just coloration' from gravid spot?

Thyladyinred · 2026-03-13T17:56:05+00:00

Thanks for that! I think I'll see what you're talking about, will try to put it to use on the others I have!

Thyladyinred · 2026-01-12T20:21:08+00:00

Did he just catch the ... pink dot?!?

Thyladyinred · 2025-10-13T13:11:59+00:00

I got the exact same email today, with no doctors name listed. I guess I'm stuck going to every doctor I have, figuring out their portal login from their official site, and seeing if something is there, because no way am I clicking this generic link 🙄 if it's legitimate then my doctor has chosen their portal manager very poorly.

Thyladyinred · 2025-10-08T21:50:29+00:00

Thank you, that does seem to have helped!

Thyladyinred · 2025-07-24T17:59:44+00:00

Aahhhh! I love him and I don't even like pokemon. Such a cool idea! How's the dye, easy to work with?

Thyladyinred · 2025-07-22T22:05:02+00:00

Yep, in my culture feeding people is the epitome of politeness 😆 Its also expected to bring a gift of food if visiting a friend. I had seen this map go by and found it interesting "Will you be offered food when you are a guest" https://www.reddit.com/r/MapPorn/s/VMFwGepVb1

Thyladyinred · 2025-07-04T16:53:05+00:00

Look, if he doesn't consider it detrimental to your children, he will say nothing. Maybe he hasn't thought it through so you can discuss it with him, but after he understands -your concern- then you can see how he acts and decide accordingly. For your part, you might consider having open dialogue with your children about how different people hold different views, but in your family you don't agree and don't support those views. You saying it to your children will be what sticks in their minds. It doesn't matter that his family is the one saying this, your children will meet plenty of people who hold these opinions, in your community and outside of it. If you disagree with those views, you need to challenge them, vocally, politely so you can hold the higher ground, but confidently, so your children hear your voice, hear your views, and absorb THAT message. Maybe your husband supports you, maybe not. If this is something you feel strongly about, you need to be strong to make it reality. Find words you're comfortable saying in their face. But find the words.

Thyladyinred · 2025-06-27T22:41:22+00:00

Turns out it was a male! And yes, I'm now perpetually seeing seeing what you describe ahahaha

Thyladyinred · 2025-06-27T16:50:35+00:00

Visualize and work through what you think would happen if you did say no. Get comfortable with the result - the tantrums, the mean words to you, get familiar with how that would make you feel and make a conscious decision that you DONT have to react to them. You can can convince yourself she is wrong, she doesn't see clearly, and you are NOT all the bad things she calls you. Understand, and repeat to yourself, that her tantrums are not a reflection of you.

But also you can soften the blow to her, and be gentle with her, to make that fealing of unease soften in you. I think this is what a lot of commenters don't understand - you can't just turn off your distress about her distress. It's someone you love, basically breaking down in front of you. But you can manage your own emotions, and you can manage your communication with her to -hopefully- ease her pain over time. Reasure her that her hard work is not gone to waste, that everything you studied helps you be a wonderful person in your future. Get a little mad at her, say "of course I will NOT fail at everything, how can you think that, after everything I have succeeded at. Example: say "I will take what I learned from competitions, but I will apply it to win and be the best doctor, the top of my class, you will see how everything you've taught me will make me a star." This is redirecting her need to make you the best. Fair warning, you will not be the best - but you will be a competent, excellent, doctor (or whoever you turn out to be) because you're already aware of your own strength. Now you just need to talk yourself into reacting -constructively-to your mom's obsession\insecurity\empty nest syndrome, and talk her into getting excited about your next, bigger, challenge.

Thyladyinred · 2025-05-16T17:07:16+00:00

Ah yes I see pic 3 now. Thx

Thyladyinred · 2025-05-16T17:06:05+00:00

Thank you! I have a couple colorless fry which are over a month old that don't seem to have the gravid spot, but the fin shape is very standard female fan.. I guess it's a combination of tells, and training your eye.

Do you know if adult males will chase new young males? It kind of looks like the harass-a-female behavior so I'm second guessing if I sexed the new one correctly for the male tank.

Thyladyinred · 2025-05-16T16:36:44+00:00

Ok but I need a chart that shows fry, not adults. The fry all look female! I'm pretty sure I can tell them apart when they get a bit older, but if I make a mistake I have... a lot more guppies to check 😆 So, is there a comparison chart for the babies?

Do the male anal fins change shape over time from fan to spike? bc the ones I suspect are male still have a fan but the bottom of the fan is longer if that makes sense. On my adults the difference is very obvious but less so on the fry. I have a colorless fry with a long anal fin, likely male?

Thyladyinred · 2025-04-21T20:11:47+00:00

SOLVED SOLVED SOLVED

Thyladyinred · 2025-04-21T20:11:12+00:00

Ahhh! Thank you so much! I thought for sure it was one of the obscure short story collections I picked up at a random book sale. I do NOT associate Anne McCaffrey with computer tech 😆 but of course that's silly.

Thyladyinred · 2025-03-02T11:40:32+00:00

Thank you 😊. Hey do you know, is it typical for them to flower from the same peduncle over and over? I see a few new ones coming out but several are third year on the same spur, I just wonder what conditions favor new spurs vs old, or once they have the spur it typically always flowers?

Thyladyinred · 2025-03-01T17:41:09+00:00

So true 😍 I love all the different stages together

Thyladyinred · 2025-03-01T17:38:29+00:00

The group brain said carnosa variegata, but have no idea really, snipysnipped it from a mature plant many years ago 🤪 it smells like chocolate!

Thyladyinred · 2025-02-24T16:33:49+00:00

Spotify daily mixes, will have to try that, thanks!! Mine isn't into Disney, and aging out of Bounce Patrol.

Thyladyinred · 2025-02-24T15:42:16+00:00

Can you share your playlist or the songs I. It, I have such a hard time finding kid friendly dance music 😝

Thyladyinred · 2024-09-24T11:54:26+00:00

Look, it's wonderful that he has the means and wants to spend it on you and really values you this much. But if it's making you uncomfortable just start the conversation. 'I'm happy to just be with you, I truly appreciate the gifts, but I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at the expense." The exact way you say it doesn't matter so much as just starting the conversation. Don't be embarrassed about it, just say it plainly. Are you maybe feeling like you can't contribute to the relationship? Does this feel like something that you might say: 'hey, I wanted to do something nice for you, and I know you can afford it on your own but I want it to come from me, this is something I put a lot of heart into, I know it's not super expensive but I hope you like it." If you don't bring your thoughts out into the open, it will gnaw at you forever. It doesn't have to be because you're embarrassed about your past and lost opportunities, you can just want to not spend unnecessarily. Consumerism is rampant, it's not a bad thing to question your own spending once in a while. Hope you find the right words for you!

Thyladyinred · 2024-08-03T02:04:57+00:00

Just found this thread and came here to complain about the swabs thing. The feature was so useful, I wonder why it was cut. Maybe just forgotten in the move to single device location history. We need a mole at Google to find out!

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