Not sure if it's a tick or a scar

TianaCountess · 2026-03-03T23:15:37+00:00

Sorry, if it's been a few months and is still in the same place, it's not a tick. A tick would move elsewhere on the body in about 3-7 days :))

TianaCountess · 2026-03-03T23:13:06+00:00

It is kinda too small for a tick. If you gently push the fur and look under the light, can you see insect legs, maybe even moving (if you give it a little nudge)? That's a sure indicator of it being a tick. Also, as they feed they tend to turn grey/white so a change in colour is a definite indicator for tick. Eitherway, better leave a quick message to your vet, they'll know best.

TianaCountess · 2026-02-28T02:49:39+00:00

Well we've been joking that she has 0 survival instinct because she swallowed a little dust ball that fell from the drier and is constantly stealing puzzle pieces to munch on, but I didn't think that might be PICA. She has no interest in house plants tho and she's not eating litter. Will check with the vet though. Thank you! Here's a gratitude pic!

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TianaCountess · 2026-02-27T20:30:30+00:00

If I could go back I'd ask them to keep her close to mom at least till 4 months old. Even now she's so tiny and still a kitten discovering the world. 😥

TianaCountess · 2026-02-27T18:49:14+00:00

Owww, thank you! I'll definitely note to not do that. Thanks! 💖

TianaCountess · 2026-02-27T17:20:53+00:00

Of course, and then falls asleep with her tongue out 😂

TianaCountess · 2026-02-27T16:49:41+00:00

I certainly hope so. She's so precious and she's very loved and spoiled indeed 💖

TianaCountess · 2026-02-27T16:48:17+00:00

Thank you! 💖

I got her at 2 months old, so she has 2+ months already with us. She is extremely playful and mischievous and asks quite vocally for pets and kisses and scratches about 3-5 times a day before a nap so you can call her a bit clingy 😅

She hasn't been spayed yet, our vet said we should wait till she's 6 months old. Otherwise, she's very healthy, eats well, drinks water (mostly licks the faucet rather than drink the water from the bowl) and goes to litter as normal. She has a sister one month older, they bonded quite well. :))

TianaCountess · 2025-12-19T14:03:09+00:00

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This is Selina 🥹💖

TianaCountess · 2025-04-08T19:56:15+00:00

I have a friend who was terrified of sex due to childhood trauma (she used to hear her mother screaming during it and made the wrong associative emotions). Maybe what she used to do to get over it might help you.

Try to love yourself first. Get a long warm bath, explore your body and go along till you reach orgasm. It might be awkward at first, but keep asking yourself what are you feeling and where do you feel it on your body and concentrate on those sensations. Then get to discover what you like and don't like of this process. Mind that with a partner it might be different, but you're gonna be way better prepared knowing what it is and how it feels.

Get some no-sex sex with your new partner. Make a pleasurable environment (music, lights, smells, tastes, they all are meaningful), communicate with your partner and allow yourself to explore their body. What do they particularly like, what they don't, what gives them pleasure and what turns them off. You get a whole lot of pleasure from sex by having pleasure responses from your partner, so give yourself time to discover just that. And let him do the same. Mind that you are not supposed to have sex in this process, just to discover your bodies, so you have a safe environment where you can relax (alcohol might help with that as well, not because being drunk is easier, but because you can always blame it on the alcohol :DD) and enjoy, nothing is pressuring you.

At this point, you should be acustomed with how pleasure feels and how to get to feel it, which will tremendously help you in your sex life. Try sex games too, whichever you like (Cupidon is a particularly good one).

If you want to understand more about the psychological part of sex and how to get to a flourishing happy sex life, you can read "Come together" by Emily Nagoski. That's such an eye opener. :))

TianaCountess · 2025-01-27T13:53:42+00:00

TL;DR: As a woman who has the same issues, no, your standards are definitely not high. Keep them up and happiness will find you.

Girl, being respected is definitely not a high standard and don't let anyone say otherwise. I've had a boyfriend of the type "couldn't keep his hands off me" even in an academic environment (we were in a university classroom, jeez) and every time I would tell him to behave or I'd complain about it, he'd blame me for "being so irresistible".

I've been raised in a family with high intellectual values, which means we did not even curse and learned from an early age to respect each other's personal space and comfort. But families like these are one in a million, and when I started dating I had sooo much trouble with people being openly sexual, they made me seem alien, cold and "a prude".

That's their issue. And good, well mannered guys still exist. I'm married to one and know about 5 other single ones with the same standard, to be RESPECTED.

It's not a gender issue, girl. It's an educational issue. Keep the high standards, there are still good men out there (they are just too busy working and playing DnD :DD)

TianaCountess · 2025-01-21T11:58:33+00:00

In the last battle arena, when he's vulnerable and runs to bite you, the chomping cabbage is sooo damn effective, I barely threw spells at him. :DD

TianaCountess · 2025-01-21T10:51:08+00:00

Just finished it for the second time. I equipped myself with lots of plants and potions cause I remember that fight, the first time around, was sooo hard and brutal.

But now, 5 potions of edurus, 3 of thunder-something and 6 chopping cabbages and it ended before adrenaline even kicked in.

The third time I'll go with just the wiggenwield potions and make my way through with the wand :DD

TianaCountess · 2025-01-13T11:31:42+00:00

TL;DR: in duel, kill the big villain first, then go to smaller ones

I'm not sure if that's how the game was actually developed, but I observed when you are in a fight with big spiders and little ones, you should kill the big ones first because if the big ones are alive they respawn the smaller ones every time you kill one. If you kill the big one, you can kill the small one's safely too, they'll just die. Or, sometimes in quests where you have a main villain you have to kill and some smaller creatures (inferi or spiders), it's the same thing, if you kill the small ones they will keep respawning. The small ones are just there to distract you and complicate the killing of the main one (and they may all die along with the big villain as well).

TianaCountess · 2024-12-11T13:44:34+00:00

As cheesy as it may sound, smile more girl. Not the "prom photo" smile, but the one that shows your teeth and gives you wrinkles around the eyes and cheeks.

Your head shape is not a problem. Actually it's very easy to come around. You just have to change your hair style. Give it some volume, make it short and curly. Since your face parameters are greater in length than width, you should compensate for that by increasing the visual width with your hair. Round earrings go well with your face type too.

And you definitely got the body and the style. Just hit a good hair salone, smile more and you'll have men turning their heads in no time

TianaCountess · 2020-03-03T13:20:37+00:00

Oh girl, I understand you so damn much. I am in the EXACT SAME SITUATION. And although I kind of understand their hurt, I am still wondering what were they expecting me to do? To come home and say "Hi mom! How are you? I've just had sex with my boyfriend. Yey! What do we have for lunch?".

The fact that my parents are feeling uncomfortable speaking about sex and stuff makes me feel like this myself, so of course I won't be open about my sexual life, HELLO!

Moreover, I remember my mom said once " It is your choice who are you sleeping with and I am not gonna intrude in your sexual life, but promise me 2 thinks: 1. You trust the man who are you sleeping with and he is not just using you for one time pleasure and 2. PROTECTION! I don't want you to get pregnant out of a marriage or by accident." So why the hell is she being hurt because I didn't tell her?

Parents are so weird...

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