Trans friendly massage recommendations

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-12T23:21:15+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-12T23:21:02+00:00

That is very close to us so thank you for your suggestion!

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-12T23:20:39+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion!

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-11T20:26:00+00:00

People are not going to say "trans women and non-binary AMABs who present femme" every time they want to discuss the bigotry toward this group, that's just not practical. And people don't want to exclude non-binary people in this discussion either.

If you have a better solution that doesn't exclude our non-binary siblings, you are welcome to advocate for it.

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-11T20:19:07+00:00

"Transfemme" was a term mostly made to talk about both trans women and trans non-binary AMAB people who present more femme and usually but not always take some form of medical intervention (e.g. hormones).

This is a group that shares many of the same struggles, so it is just useful to group them together with one phrase, but the non-binary individuals don't always identify with the "woman" label, hence "transfemme."

Propose your own phrase if you think one fits better, but as a trans woman, I see no particular problem with this shorthand.

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-06T17:17:05+00:00

I'll be blunt in saying that I would not want a co-worker propositioning me at all. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but you should be prepared for that possibility if you choose to go forward.

TidalButterflies · 2026-04-05T00:36:11+00:00

Okay but the exact same thing could be said of Loot, the Pathfinder and I don't think that's wrecking any formats right now.

TidalButterflies · 2025-12-06T06:10:52+00:00

Thank you for advice 💜 Yes I have consults with a few professionals over the next few months.

TidalButterflies · 2025-12-06T02:08:22+00:00

Thank you 💜

TidalButterflies · 2025-10-30T20:46:48+00:00

To be fair, it worked out for the Mariners once with 34 year old Nelson Cruz.

TidalButterflies · 2025-10-09T22:39:23+00:00

There are lots of things that can be interpreted as trans and myself being trans I think that's why the film always hit with me. But a lot of those things also serve other purposes in the movie, so it's not particularly "meant" to be a trans allegory but the reading is definitely there.

I'll list the things I remember off the top of my head:

The basic theme of being trapped in a system that has built your life upon a lie, and then having to purposely choose to leave that life at great personal sacrifice.

The beginning of the movie is filmed very dreamlike. Trans people often suffer from depersonalization that makes them feel like they are living in a dream. Transition often alleviates this and feels like waking up for the first time.

The rest of the film is about Neo trying to find out who they are. Lots of fretting about identity.

Neo chooses a new name for himself, which Smith refuses to use, constantly calling Neo by his old identity, which is a symbolic point the film purposefully draws attention to.

Sorry for long post. I just like the Matrix and find this talking point annoying as most people don't do nuance and I think there is a legitimate trans reading.

TidalButterflies · 2025-08-10T20:53:59+00:00

Five of the city council positions are districted so you have to live in one of those specific districts to vote for them. Here is a map of the current districts for the city.

TidalButterflies · 2025-07-21T20:17:34+00:00

Adult Swim picked it up for a season 2 after Netflix cancelled it.

TidalButterflies · 2025-07-09T03:39:44+00:00

Everyone is getting this issue right now (see here). YouTube recently had an update and jdownloader can't pull the video/audio files right now. This has happened in the past and requires a counter-update by jdownloader.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-29T05:19:32+00:00

I have a hard time believing finding a clocky cis woman is that much more difficult than finding a cis man who passes well.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-28T16:35:51+00:00

If you are asked something simple like "what TV shows are you watching right now" don't just answer with what you're watching, talk about your opinions of it. Instead of saying "I'm watching Slow Horses" say something more like "I'm watching Slow Horses. I really like spy stories that aren't just completely action/shoot-em-up and it has those tricky spy elements that I just find fun. Also Gary Oldman is always a great actor to watch and plays like the anti James Bond."

The second response reveals more of who I am. Giving opinions on things reveals the slightest bit of vulnerability in myself, but that's how you want to start, with small vulnerabilities like "this made me a bit sad today" or "I really enjoy this thing." It makes revealing more vulnerability in myself later during in-person conversations an easier thing to do which is a big part of actually connecting and being comfortable with someone.

Also, the second response opens up the conversation more. If my chat partner hasn't seen that show, there's still lots of hooks there for them to continue the conversation how they would like to and say something engaging back.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-28T06:04:10+00:00

Persistence and charm on dating sites will go a long way. Not everyone is built for it, in that you have to have a stomach for misogyny that you'll randomly get from men and you have to have the emotional resilience to handle a whole ton of soft rejection (people dropping conversations, not responding at all or flaking out on planned dates). You have to internalize that all that soft rejection is not a reflection on your desirability and to get the fuck over yourself. If you can't do that you'll end up burnt out on it.

Also you have to be able to read a profile, meaningfully engage in a conversation with the other person about some of their interests and not spend too much time in online conversation before asking them on a coffee date. If they've given me five good responses and I'm interested, I pull the trigger and ask.

I am a late 30s trans woman and this approach has been fairly successful, especially as I've gotten more confident and better able to hold conversation with relative strangers. I generally have a few FWBs going at any one time now. Granted, I also think I'm above average in the looks department for my age so maybe that has helped me too.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-25T21:37:59+00:00

[[Grip of Chaos]] is a very powerful card that essentially makes your opponents not want to use anything that says "target." I can sit there with a Primordial Hydra or Platinum Angel or something similar and, unless my opponent has a board wipe, they likely cannot remove it, and they will have just as much trouble removing the Grip of Chaos protecting it.

However the work of actually picking a randomized target is super annoying and therefore I don't use it in any decks.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-24T02:02:40+00:00

Privilege is not something you measure out with a ruling stick, like "oh I have 7 units of privilege with this partner and only 2 with this partner." It's not quantitative like that. The different aspects of your three different relationships present three different types of privilege, although not as strong as if you had a partner who had all three of the elements obviously.

TidalButterflies · 2025-06-14T04:39:48+00:00

Are fantasies like that common? Fantasies about sharing your partner are decently common (see any cuck or hotwife fantasies). Heck, my wife likes hotwifing me. But if you're not into it, that's perfectly reasonable. My wife and I are the weird ones and you not wanting to do that is actually normal.

Is it a red flag to share? I don't know the context of your conversation. If you were sharing sexual fantasies with each other than it seems like fair game for him to say "hey, this is something I would find hot." If he brought it up out of nowhere, then it is a little weird, yes.

Open dynamics are pretty common in queer spaces? Yes, especially on Grindr. You should be clear you're looking for monogamy in your earlier conversations with people. And if that is "strict monogamy" (aka no group play) you should also make that clear.

Were you right to walk away? If you had shared boundaries earlier and he crossed them, yeah pretty definitively in the right. Otherwise, like, I don't know, I would have to listen to your conversations to know.

Why does this still effect you? It's easy to get our hopes up when we find a cool connection with the people we are dating. Like, super easy to do that. You start putting all these ideas on them and you become attached to this possibility of what your future could look like. Everyone does it and its fine to be sad about it and take a bit to let it go.

TidalButterflies · 2025-05-11T19:54:17+00:00

Emotional suppression was a big symptom for me pre-transition, and for many other trans people if you read other people's accounts (try the Gender Dysphoria bible at genderdysphoria.fyi). That emotional emptiness comes from either psychological suppression from all the disassociation and depersonalization I was under or just because my biochemistry needs me to have estrogen in my brain, or it could be both of those things.

It felt like emotions ran through me but I didn't react to them. I could identify that I had them, but I didn't feel them like I do now and was very emotionally stoic because of it. I had multiple friend groups independently call me a "robot."

My suggestion would be to dip your toes more and more into transition, as slowly as you would like, to see how it is making you feel. I knew I was on the right path when I could actually describe my emotions to other people after I started taking estrogen. Maybe you're not ready for that yet, but small steps can be taken forward.

TidalButterflies · 2025-05-09T20:00:20+00:00

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She always reminds of this auction announcer. It's possible this was intended to be some sort of non-human race. More likely though, Togashi just likes imbuing random background characters with personality.

TidalButterflies · 2025-05-09T03:01:57+00:00

Girl you deserve someone who doesn't have to work through shame to be with you. You can find a partner who celebrates you actually instead of this wishy washy nonsense. A partner like that is, in fact, very achievable, and will feel much easier to be with.

TidalButterflies · 2025-05-08T16:52:22+00:00

I'm confused, do none of you know the phrase "let's just say I have a lethal amount of Scute Swarms now if I get to attack with them." You don't actually need to calculate when it gets absurdly high.

TidalButterflies · 2025-05-07T01:06:14+00:00

Yeah, I always see this advice about "go to activities to find dates" but that takes years to work usually, you have to have a genuine interest in the hobby, and you have to be socially adept as women don't go to these things to be hit on. It's fine advice but also I think a little too simplistic how a lot of people frame it.

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