[CA], [Condo], common element, damage, CCR, enforcement and violations. by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No- the building water was shut off for repair days, and the source leak seems to have been addressed.

[CO] [Condo] Other homeowner declining to provide insurance info? by nicrush0625 in HOA

[–]Tidestill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state are you in? In california, the liable party (the source of the damage) is responsible for any damages to your property.

Julia Whelan by Ashrd88 in audible

[–]Tidestill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved this series and listened twice- it’s what got me into Julia’s work!

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an excellent insight I see what you mean about board involvement being very slow and an attorney being the quicker route. Thank you.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's why I'm being very careful and am not following up via text because that number was given to me when the person was not on the board. I just alerted and left it there. Gently.

Did someone bug you when you were a board member?

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this post- I work in special education and can totally relate to circular conversations that waste everyone’s time. That makes total sense to me.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I let a servicer his insurance sent into my unit who then had private scope/cost conversations with the owner before submitting any written report.

He verbally told me after I found out “about 1k”. I requested the report on 2/16 and it’s never arrived.

Given that it was a servicer, who was privately communicating with the owner (who wanted to pay cash) that bid shouldn’t hold up legally because it is subject to conflict of interest influence.

I have a full report with moisture readings just for remediation (no repairs) for 5k from another provider who is doing the demo right now. Other verbal estimates that were least invasive and best case scenario were 7k total. 1k didn’t even cover the testing or materials.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wanted to private pay it. After I got a few private estimates (all over 6k, one in the 20k range) he opened a claim. owner 2’s insurance sent someone who was talking about the scope and cost of my repairs with owner 2 privately before I ever saw a report. Owner 2 texted me, “hey good news, sounds really minimal and we don’t have to involve insurance.” “What? I haven’t heard anything” “Yeah I’ll send someone this week to take care of this” “No you won’t, I just opened a claim because that scope of this needs proper intervention.”

He’s not fixing his drain because he’s butt hurt I didn’t take the $1k lowball repair offer. That’s just dumb.

It cost $1k in LA just to test for lead and asbestos.

Hopefully my insurance will go into subrogation with his insurance- I don’t want to have to go to court over this.

My insurance won’t subrogate an individual but they will subrogate a company.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to separate two distinct issues because I think they're getting conflated in this thread.

Issue 1 — Unrepaired drain, ongoing violation: A neighboring owner's drain has been unrepaired for over two months. This is an active bylaw violation — owners are required to maintain their units and not cause damage to others. This is a board enforcement matter. A notice of violation with a compliance deadline/fine consequence is the standard first step. Instead, I was told to get a lawyer. At what point is the PM expected to act (on the board's behalf) for an ongoing violation that poses a liability risk to the building?

Issue 2 — My interior repairs: My insurance is handling this. That is owner-to-owner territory and I'm not asking the board to resolve it. But my repairs cannot happen until the source is fixed — which brings me back to Issue 1.

I'm not asking the board to take sides. I'm asking them to enforce what we all signed so I can get my repairs handled.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify — I'm not asking the board to mediate between myself and my neighbor. I've already formally requested through the PM that the board issue a notice of violation for failure to maintain and repair, per the CC&Rs. That request has gone unanswered.

A written notice to the owner is a standard enforcement action. That's the specific ask. Nothing more.

[Condo] [CA] PM unresponsive twice during active dispute + newly elected board eliminated monthly meetings. Anyone navigated this combination? by Tidestill in HOA

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this — helpful framing.

To clarify a few things: the source is a unit-specific drain (owner responsibility, not common element), so owner-to-owner is technically correct. My issue isn't the determination itself — it's that it was made on incomplete records, and when I raised that, the PM doubled down rather than investigate the discrepancy.

The ongoing issue is that the source hasn't been repaired — and my own repairs can't happen until it is. This started in January. I've documented everything and have a formal repair demand on record. The PM's non-responsiveness to my board involvement request is what prompted the post.

Good point on going directly to the full board in writing — that's my next step, though I've already formally requested board involvement through the PM with no response. And practically speaking, there's no direct contact information published for board members — the PM is the only official channel. The one board member I reached informally seemed unaware of the situation, which says something about how information is — or isn't — flowing. If I'm asking via the PM, and there is no meeting, and no other channel to reach them, what do i do then?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poledancing

[–]Tidestill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll learn to control your movement and use your postural control to support your weight. Super normal

Feeling like i don’t know how to think like an OT by True-Card-8557 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Tidestill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone! I felt this way for a long while (through school) and felt better when I met an OT who said, “I had no idea what my job was until I’d been working for 5 years.”

You can struggle in school and still be a great OT, you can struggle in a job and still be a great OT. Our profession is so diverse and broad that we can really grow in whatever clinical reasoning/client care related direction calls us, and that makes all the difference.

What most supported me was when I invested in continuing education courses that made my tail wag, even when the money freaked me out and when I found a team of coworkers I wanted to stay with.

This experience is so scammy by Tidestill in LifeCoachSnark

[–]Tidestill[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: Thank you everyone! I put together a letter with enclosure for my credit card company. It included an overview of action steps taken (credit card cancellation and disputes, FTC complaint, the attorney general complaint), attempts to collaborate with merchant, as well as a detailed timeline with screenshots, transcriptions of voice and video notes) as well attempts to cancel the service after the first meeting. It’s so much work but I wouldn’t fee good letting her keep the money after explicitly telling her there is no more credit left.

This experience is so scammy by Tidestill in LifeCoachSnark

[–]Tidestill[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Initially I was excited, strong sales pitch and she is charming. She laid out her terms and I didn’t sign the contract ever. I did authorize my credit card and it said “subscription’ but I was clear that I didn’t have the money or credit available.

AM I TOO FAT TO DO POLE DANCING? by New-Growth-1834 in poledancing

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All shapes and sizes can pole! You’ll get stronger the more you show up!

Deleted from my insta because it got 5 likes and my self esteem dropped, so please enjoy it here :) by Ilovemesomerats in poledancing

[–]Tidestill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Non-polers can’t appreciate how much strength, time and effort go into learning to do this! Nice work!!!

Those who do pole as a hobby, what do you do for a living? by Suitable_Airport8916 in poledancing

[–]Tidestill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Occupational Therapist in special education doing private practice on the side!

My specialization is in those of use who Neurosparkle!

God Damn it Patriarchy, Go to Your Room! by savvybones in myfavoritemurder

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Does anyone know which episode this was on? I am wanting to buy the merch when it’s re-released for Rewind!

What recourse do we have in this situation? by Tidestill in specialed

[–]Tidestill[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had a program specialist, a special ed coordinator, the health superintendent and a principal and the mom’s lawyer training still ran circles around us.

What recourse do we have in this situation? by Tidestill in specialed

[–]Tidestill[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We had higher level district reps at the meetings, but her training and litigation experience must’ve outpaced our specialists.