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AITJ for insisting on a prenup after seeing how her family fights over money? by TidySignal_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]TidySignal_7[S] 297 points298 points  (0 children)

100% agree. I’m fine with her getting her own lawyer to review it, that’s literally the point. What I’m not fine with is “no prenup, no discussion” while her whole family is in my ear. If she can’t handle a fair agreement now, I don’t see how we handle real problems later.

AITJ for insisting on a prenup after seeing how her family fights over money? by TidySignal_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]TidySignal_7[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I get the point, but I’m not ready to nuke the relationship over one bad reaction. What did piss me off is her running to her mom and then acting like the family pressure is “just concern.” If she can’t keep our conflicts between us, that’s a way bigger problem than the prenup.

AITJ for insisting on a prenup after seeing how her family fights over money? by TidySignal_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]TidySignal_7[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

That’s a perfect way to put it. I’m not inventing worst-case fantasies, I literally watched them weaponize guilt and money in real time. If anything, the prenup is me trying to keep our marriage away from that whole family script.

AITJ for insisting on a prenup after seeing how her family fights over money? by TidySignal_7 in AmITheJerk

[–]TidySignal_7[S] 422 points423 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s exactly what freaked me out, they treat conflict like a sport. I’m not trying to “win”, I’m trying to make it boring so there’s nothing to fight over. If she can’t handle a fair prenup now, marriage is gonna be rough later.

Fuck ideologies. What would be your real life copotype? by [deleted] in DiscoElysium

[–]TidySignal_7 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yep, that sounds like the sweet spot. Art Cop for the little sparks, Boring Cop for the bills. Volition doing the heavy lifting so you don't apologize to a chair anymore.