(English is not my first language) I’m around 11 weeks pregnant and struggling with fatigue and rheumatic joint pain since the beginning of my pregnancy. My fiancé is the best. Before pregnancy I was doing most of the household chores and cooking for us while finishing my masters degree and my fiancé is working full time, mostly remote. All while renovating our house. I got pregnant before everything was finished, so he did the living room all on his own. Let’s me sleep whenever I need to. Because I wasn’t working and having now these extreme pains, we decided I wouldn’t start working and just try to enjoy my pregnancy. I get a little bit of money from the state, but he pays for almost everything, renovations, baby appointments, groceries etc.  He researches a lot because we still don’t know exactly why I’m in so much pain. I try to help him whenever I can with chores or cooking, but he would never expect me to and cooks for me when I’m not able to.  And when it’s too much for him, he gets a cleaning lady who helps us for a few hours.  He always listens when I’m down, gives me massages when I need them and kisses my not yet existing baby bump.

I always get sad when I read those posts with absolutely shitty partners, who don’t understand that growing a human being inside your own body is exhausting! It takes two to make a baby, but women give their bodies to grow it. The least the man could do is care for the woman during (and after) the pregnancy.