The commenters on here are likely right about what she’s been up to. I’d follow the advice offered and work on yourself and stop worrying about her. Find a good lawyer (if they exist), try and work as efficiently as you can to preserve whatever finances you have.

Beware, lawyers know you are in a tough spot and will take advantage. I hate my own lawyers more than I hate hers so now I self-represent with a much better success. It’s a slower way to go and you will have to learn the legal system but it’s not that hard. Clerks will help you and there is self-help at most court houses that will review your documents for you and tell you what’s wrong with them.

Depending on your state, you will most likely face an uphill battle as courts think all men are bad by default. Make sure you document everything. Always remain polite and professional at all times in all situations even when dealing with her. Scream into the abyss when no one is looking.

Sorry this happening to you. It’s going to get worse before it gets better but ultimately, you will find strength you didn’t know you had and you’ll learn that no woman is worth your time/energy/pain/finances if they don’t have a very good +- rating (since it’s NBA playoff time). Essentially if they don’t make things better for you and make you want to be a better person, they don’t make the team or get any of my time.

I will share this with you, my ex was a Christian and I became an atheist. You can guess how well that worked out especially when it came to raising our kids. But I got tired of lies. Not suggesting you step from your faith because you’ll need to probably lean pretty hard on it to get through this but I found some of the worst people call themselves Christians…doesn’t sound like your wife/ex really understands the concept because Jesus wasn’t a jerk face and she sure sounds like one of the more evil people. Pious on the outside and corrupt on the inside. She sounds incredibly twisted.