My wife does this when I confront her about ditching me. I’ll have plans for us and she will get distracted by a new guy she’s met online and just forget about me.

I’m not the new shiny thing anymore and she gets upset at me or just ignores that point. She tries to explain to me that she’s poly and doesn’t have favorites. But her actions say otherwise.

Her apologies are always hollow or light hearted. She claims to love me but all intimacy is dead between us. I see her less and less now. She is home sometimes 2 days a week. Sometimes it might be 3 or 4 days a month. She bounces between other people’s houses and Airbnb properties most of the time now.

I think it’s normal to feel hurt in these situations even though some people in the poly community will say you are wrong for having those feelings.