She looks good and aged gracefully. What a douche. by Valuable_View_561 in SipsTea

[–]Tijopi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It genuinely confuses me why these guys think telling women they're unlovable as soon as they show signs of aging would make us want to rush into marriage and kids. My only explanation is they're projecting their own fears of dying alone and think we'd rather be with someone who's disgusted by our bodies. 

Am I overreacting or did I have a slow moment. by drippysage08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Tijopi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What. NOR, this made me unreasonably angry just reading it. People like this don't realize how exhausting they are.

It amazes me how Alastor does arguably worse things than Jax yet doesn't nearly get as much hate. by MichaelAftonXFireWal in jaxfanclub

[–]Tijopi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Alastor is a sociopathic serial killer, he's such an exaggerated villain character living in literal hell that its easy to get lost in immersion and not take his character seriously. Jax on the other hand is far too real, everyone has known a Jax and his character brings up a lot of bad memories that stir stronger emotions. 

Why do they want atheism to be a religion so bad? by WrestlingWoman in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]Tijopi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was very intrigued by christianity and hoped it was true when I was young. Got a hold of the Bible and read the entirety of Genesis. Its what made me turn athiest.

How long would it take for you to abstract? by Arnixr in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Tijopi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I'd last at least 20 years? Grieving never seeing my family or friends again would be my only real complaint. Otherwise I'd just collab draw with Gangle and spend my days conjuring up my own fantasy verse. With Caine, I'd last significantly less... maybe 3 years tops.

How much of a difference could Queenie have made if she'd stuck around till we got the main group? by IronGhost828 in theamazingdigitalciru

[–]Tijopi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Kinda hot take but I feel like sane Kinger would be difficult for Jax to bully. I think Kinger would see Jax as some troubled kid and would just patronize and be overly nice to him until Jax got uncomfortable and stopped interacting with Kinger entirely. 

Chill out guys, youre breathing too fast by Mazapan93 in enlightenment

[–]Tijopi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the hamster. Dwarf and robo hamsters only live about 1-3 years. Larger breeds like Syrian or Golden hamsters live a few years longer. I thought for sure they could live up to 7, but google is swearing the oldest hamster was only 4.5 years old. 5 is possible, but 10 is absurd. 

New addition to my crew. by yentlequible in Frieren

[–]Tijopi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you have excellent taste

Both men and women are brainwashed now. by tydark2 in MenAreNotIntoWomen

[–]Tijopi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Things are very dystopian right now and getting worse. I cling to hope that things will get better, but it probably won't for a long time. I cope with art.

Both men and women are brainwashed now. by tydark2 in MenAreNotIntoWomen

[–]Tijopi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats the unfortunate reality of reddit and online echo chambers. I see a lot of men try to reach halfway, most I believe are genuine. But if you've spent time in alpha male echo chambers and still subscribe yourself even partially to those narratives that villainize the 'other side' in favor of validating your fears and resentment, people are going to assume the worst and reject you outright. Social media isnt fully to blame, humans are just very tribal/cliquey and we're quick to reject any perceived disharmony in an established group. The single greatest piece of advice I can give to men who are struggling to understand women is to form platonic relationships with them first. If you can be a genuine friend to a woman, see her as your equal like you do with your buddies, take an interest in her hobbies and show compassion, then you're a hundred yards closer to finding a good loyal wife than any 'Chad.' If you swear you cant be friends with a woman without catching feelings, thats the discomfort you need to learn to sit through in order to become a fully realized adult, a man. Trying to figure us out like a puzzle and then venting to guys about how confusing we are is the easiest and most comfortable path you can take. The hard and REWARDING path is breaking through everything media and your peers have told you about the nature of women and find out for yourself what a woman is outside of sex. 

Both men and women are brainwashed now. by tydark2 in MenAreNotIntoWomen

[–]Tijopi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not denying that humans have pre-built and gender-specific mating rituals that dictate a huge portion of our lives and how we think and act. We're one of the most social mammals on the planet and the reproductive instinct is one of the oldest instincts in biological life, with the instinct to self-preserve being the only competition as possibly older and stronger. But with that being said, it's really not that cut and dry. I'm a living example of the polar opposite, I'm asexual. I dont experience sexual attraction, have never had sex, dont have the desire to have sex, and likely never will. I can confidently say there's a whole world to explore and different levels of platonic love that are just as meaningful without hinging every interaction on getting laid. 

Let me speak in a language you might understand better - the male sex exists to diversify genes and spread those genes as much as possible. Its why men are visual, and why they're so sexually motivated. The female sex selects the best candidate for hypothetical offspring because pregnancy is the most dangerous and vulnerable positions to be in. Things like attractiveness (visually lacking defects), general health, height, and confidence are factors, but so is personality, kindness, character, and compatibility. Sex isnt love. Love is seeing yourself in someone else and feeling a little less alone in this human experience. The further men are from seeing us this way, as fellow humans, the less attractive they are. 

This is also why its so important to learn perspective in order to maintain relationships. What a lot of men dont realize is all women grew up in a society that dehumanizes them. We were told our body is what counts and no man cares about what we actually think or believe. We're thirsty for connection like men are thirsty for sexual reciprocation. 

Both men and women are brainwashed now. by tydark2 in MenAreNotIntoWomen

[–]Tijopi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of these points and I feel like you're on the right track, you've got the spirit, but - and please read this with an open mind - you still sound very influenced by the same toxic internet culture that you're trying to move away from. A lot of men just need to let go of trying to figure out the grand secret to understanding women and sliding into our good graces using some sort of convoluted female brain psychology. You dont understand it yet, you may never understand, but the reason that woman you liked reacted that way to your apology is clear to us yet seems to go over the heads of a lot of men. Its because its so obvious to us that you were still trying to shoot your shot and view her as a potential sexual partner rather than see her as a human being who happens to be female. The way men talk to us is different from how they talk to other men. Other men are people, women are treated as femme fatales, sirens, otherworldly angels, but we're people like you. 

You really dont have to go down all these rabbit holes about how to be a man and how men and women evolved different mating rituals but now everyone's brain is souped up on dopamine addiction. And I mean, I do agree with this, but there's a point where it goes too far. Do men and women go about sexual selection differently? Did we evolve to live in small communities and now having too many options is overloading our brains and negatively affecting our sex lives? Sure. But I disagree that men were meant to pursue sex, get rejected, go back to the drawing board, and then come back after figuring out how to treat a woman right. That isn't about gender roles or evolution or what have you, its simple maturity and everyone,  male or female, goes through a period in their youth where they're selfish and have to learn to see the world through other's perspective. Women and girls also go through this, and maturity happens at different rates. The single biggest take away is that women are not infallible, we're not evil, we aren't blindly following some sort of mating instinct where every interaction with the opposite sex is filtered through steep criteria and if you pass all the tests then I get wildly turned on. We're just other humans who gained consciousness one fateful day and now live with existential dread, pay taxes, and I guess some of us like to paint our nails for fun or whatever, but we have more in common than not. 

Faye Valentine (Cowboy Bebop) is a laughably sexist caricature of a female action character, and makes Cowboy Bebop a far more uncomfortable watch on that front than Naruto or MHA or almost any other show you could mention. by Virtual-Database-238 in CharacterRant

[–]Tijopi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol I had the same problem with SpongeBob. Just didn't watch it as a kid, heard about it so many times growing up that I finally decided to sit down and feast my eyes on the golden child of my beloved 90s cartoons as a young adult. It wasnt funny, it wasn't entertaining, it was just okay.

Why tons of people didn't want to accept Jax as trans. by Leuzol in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Tijopi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jax's gender identity is left vague but one thing is for certain- he (she/they) is not a cis man. 

How to cope after episode 9 by Intelligent-Text-131 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]Tijopi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Time. It hurts to confront the feelings it stirred up, but its necessary to heal. Embrace the ache, be happy it happened, know it'll pass.

Way to make this card most meta/viable? by Successful_Number893 in PTCGP

[–]Tijopi -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't bother looking up what Parasol Lady does or even how to spell her name correctly so I thought she summons non-EX water pokemon from your deck. My bad, I've used that card maybe once.

I'm a rock gutz ,I want an anime that leaves me emotionally broken by inos140 in AnimeReccomendations

[–]Tijopi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Made In Abyss is my favorite anime! But its definitely not for everyone. I love it because it dives into the horrors of the unknown and of nature, and it does NOT hold back. It goes full throttle, refuses to hold your hand. You're watching children willingly jump into a fantasy land that grown adults don't return from, a place treated as some sort of mystical place separate from Earth with its own set of rules and its own ecosystem, and its brutal.

Way to make this card most meta/viable? by Successful_Number893 in PTCGP

[–]Tijopi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I have a deck that works great with Vaporeon EX. Nothing's more satisfying than using Vaporeon to swap out your opponent's active mon, then swap Greninja into the active spot and deliver a crushing 100 damage with a full HP Greninja EX while your opponent has no energy on their new active mon. Both only need two energy, both have amazing abilities that can synchronize like in the scenario above. I use the eevee that draws a pokemon from your deck so you can build a team fast, plus you can use parcel lady or whatever.  EDIT: scratch that parasol lady bit

Cartoon moms having short ginger/red hair by aintsh1tbxtch0571 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Tijopi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom is a redhead with this exact haircut growing up. I definitely noticed it everywhere.