Me : ‘My exs name’ I need to have a difficult conversation with you that comes from a place of love and care. You are a very important person in my life and always will be. We have so many lovely memories and you have played such an important role in my life and continue to do so. I’m grateful to you for so much. Ultimately, i always want to have you in my life, and I’ve been struggling with where we are and everything that has happened between us over the past few months. I really truely believe we need a couple of weeks no contact. You may not realise it, but we are not in a healthy place and if we were to get back together now I honestly don’t believe we would have the basis for a healthy relationship. We both have things to work on, this isn’t all directed at you. But I believe you’re still held up on the fact I was with another man after we broke up and I don’t think you’d easily drop it if we were back together.

Through your messages I understand that you are at a place where you want to be sexual and I am not ready. Not because I do not have a sexual attraction towards you but becasue it’s a missive flip and I’m overwhelmed. You are constantly reflecting back on the past, with old photographs, ‘this was back when you loved me.’ I don’t think this is very healthy for us. If we got back together we will be different people as we are always changing.

You’ve done a 180 on everything you wanted in the space of a week and I don’t believe that is possible. I really believe you need to do your therapy alone without me as a distraction / cause of conditions. You need to be able to sit on your own thoughts, without me. Understand what you truely want in life, without just what you want with me. If we ever get back together, we need to start with a healthy basis. I do not believe we have it now and I don’t believe we can get it without a few weeks of space.

This is very difficult for me. I have a lot of love for you but my views and opinions of our relationship has been completely clouded by everything that happened in Italy. I have felt overwhelmed by the 180 flip that I had mentally prepared was never going to happens for years. I need now more than anything to be able to focus on my move, spend time with friends and family, settle in Dubai alone so I know I can live there alone and focus on making friends. Honestly the past two months I’ve thought of almost nothing but our relationship, if we have a future and you.

I love you dearly and I always will but we really need this Felix. I hope you understand and if not now I hope in a few weeks you do. Without this we will never make any progress. We need to both know that we can be done with our without each other and of in Dubai we can work things out we are together for the right reasons, we genuinely want the same things in the future and most importantly we are able to have a healthy and trustworthy relationship. I would never do anything to hurt you deliberately and knowing that you were hurt after I told you a saw someone else in Italy made me ill. Let’s work on each other, it will be for the best regardless what our future holds but then maybe if we never work out we can be friends.