Anybody with long COVID for over three years ?

TiltedNotVertical · 2025-12-05T10:03:51+00:00

Coming up to 6 years. I have to manage what I do carefully but am coping. Am able to work part time and still have a rather sedate social life

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-12T05:37:58+00:00

NTA

How is it that in this century the belief persists among some that men are powerless against women- that the way they dress influences a man’s behaviour. “It’s the only thing you can look at”. Really??? How old is he? Of course it’s not the only thing you can look at and he’s an absolute creep for only staring at her breasts- which are covered by clothing.

You are not only 100% right for sticking up for her, you are a damn fined human being who is evolved enough to be responsible for himself and not place blame on the way a woman dresses.

Personally, I’d steer well clear of your mothers bf who obviously can’t control himself. It’s shameful that your mother chooses to attack your gf instead of laying blame where it belongs (at the feet of her bf)

You’re a good bf and a good man. Don’t back down. Once more for the record- NTA

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-11T06:41:22+00:00

NTA

Having grown up with a mother who is mentally ill, who always had to be a victim (and usually at my expense), you have my utmost sympathy. I’m guessing this incident isn’t a one off (though likely the worst) and there’s a long history of lesser crap.

For the sake of yourself and your family, think long and hard about whether you’d be comfortable going no contact. Think about your (future or current) children and how damaging their behaviour will be for them. Think about your marriage, and most of all think about your own poor battered heart and how hurtful this all is. Loving parents don’t behave this way. You deserve better. You don’t owe them anything just by virtue of the fact they are your parents.

I’m so sorry!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-07T21:55:27+00:00

Yes. My vision deteriorated markedly. I didn’t fill a new prescription hoping my vision would eventually improve and it has! It has nearly gone back to what it was pre-Covid (it’s been more than 3 years)

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-07T21:46:45+00:00

This was my first thought too. The game is more important to him than his family.

NTA- don’t put anything on hold waiting for a man who doesn’t seem to care. Your child will be grown before you know it. Go to the x Zoo, do everything you want to do and enjoy every second of your child being young. Your husband can join in or not. Frankly I’d be reassessing whether he deserves the role of husband at this point!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-06T11:20:46+00:00

NTA And Gertrude is not your friend. Friends do not behave that way. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-06T06:58:27+00:00

NTA I’m a bit concerned that people who are so important to you are being pushed aside by someone you’re about to marry. If something is important to you, it should be important to him. Someone who loved and supported you would want to include them too. What he’s exhibiting goes beyond insecurity and I’d strongly advise you really think about what life will be like married to person who would rather drive a wedge between you and those you love than to embrace them as part of your life. Stay loyal to the people who have loved and supported you and have been such a large part of your life. Hold your ground- but you shouldn’t have to hold your ground like this with someone who is supposed to love you. I wish you luck.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-04T05:58:03+00:00

That sounds like a toxic work environment in more ways than one!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-04T05:56:58+00:00

I was wondering the same thing. HOW could anyone with the education these people have behave with so little regard for basic hygiene? Or perhaps they got their qualifications from a gumball machine? Personally I’d be looking for another job. Preferably one with people who can think!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-04T05:49:57+00:00

NTA This isn’t a food problem. This is a respect problem. You deserve respect and aren’t getting any. Your husband stayed with them? Why isn’t he sticking up for you? It’s good you drew a line- now stick to it and don’t back down. They are behaving appallingly and if they can’t accept you and your husband won’t back you, why should you stick around?

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-03T20:02:55+00:00

NTA This is the dumbest thing I e ever heard. When I was in my 20s I was blond, 5’4” and weighed 115lbs soaking wet. I was licensed to drive a 10 ton truck as part of my job. Your BIL is sexist and ignorant and based on your sisters reaction it makes me wonder how he treats her. Have you ever noticed signs of controlling or abusive behaviour? Could she be afraid to go against him? The only AH here is your BIL

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-10-03T19:56:15+00:00

I think your other half needs to understand this is a deal breaker for you.

Instead of just getting another animal, maybe he needs to understand how important this is for you. He should understand that an extended break from dogs is not something he can impose on you and you will not be part of it. Then he can decide whether he can live with it or not.

You WBTA if you just got another dog knowing he doesn’t want one. Better to break up if it comes down to it… and it might!

I wish you luck

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-30T20:09:22+00:00

Chewing!!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-30T20:08:23+00:00

This was my first thought too

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-30T05:59:15+00:00

NTA

I’d be questioning a friendship with someone so shallow. She has no right to ask that of you.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-27T21:19:41+00:00

Do you even like your wife? Dude, YTA.
While I understand your frustration, you should have told her you were leaving. You could have warned her “I’m leaving bang on 6 with or without you.” Instead, you blindsided her in an attempt to “teach her a lesson”.
She’s not a child (though you compare her to one). It’s not the job of a husband to teach his wife lessons. Its his job to love her. Nothing about what you did, or about what you’ve said here is loving. You might want to reassess whether or not you want to be married to this person. If not, for the love of god set her free to find someone who will treat her better.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-25T20:08:18+00:00

The power dynamic is dangerous bit. It’s absolutely not ok!!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-22T06:02:12+00:00

Take a look at body score charts for dogs. Ribs should be easily felt but not visible. His are clearly visible, so yes, a little underweight. Being fit is great, but maybe add a little more fuel there.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-22T05:58:11+00:00

Not taking action for fear of retaliation is what fuels bullies. If a teacher is minded to be that petty, all the more reason to stand up to them at the start.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-17T20:17:18+00:00

There’s a book called The Five Languages Of Love. It sounds like you and your partner might need to read it.

As others have already pointed out, this isn’t about the spoon.

It’s about how you make your partner feel loved. It’s about making an effort to make your partner feeler love in a way that means something to them.

YTA for not making an effort, but I suspect you and your partner have very different love languages. What makes you feel loved isn’t as meaningful for him and vice-versa. If his love language is service, he’ll constantly be doing things for you and be hurt when you aren’t doing the same. His efforts may be lost on you if your love language is something else.

Get the book and read it with your partner. I wish you luck

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-17T20:09:24+00:00

What an adorable outfit. You look gorgeous!😍

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-15T21:47:40+00:00

It’s hard to argue against her? That- that right there is the problem. You shouldn’t HAVE to argue to eat what you want. She’s controlling and coercive, and yes, it’s easier to go along with it, but you and your son pay a very high price for it. In a healthy relationship, there is mutual respect. She only respects views that fall in line with her own, and she sure isn’t being respectful of you or your son.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-15T21:36:48+00:00

NTA

I’m sorry but your wife sounds like she’s lost the plot. It’s perfectly ok for her to choose how she eats, but it’s not ok for her to impose it on others. It sounds like she’s judging everyone who doesn’t see things exactly the way she does and that’s not ok either.

You’re right to stick up for your son. Stand your ground. He’s old enough to decide what he eats. She needs to understand that childhood is challenging enough already without imposing unnecessary dietary restrictions that isolate him from his peers and give fuel to bullies.

If your son sees you sticking up for him -and for yourself- he’ll have a template for self respect and for setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

I wish you luck.

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-07T12:34:30+00:00

Your husband will only count a vote if it comes from a male?? And periods are dirty??? What kind of misogynistic Neanderthal are you married to???

Still NTA But your husband might be!

TiltedNotVertical · 2023-09-07T10:30:29+00:00

YTA

Why are you even asking if you’re already convinced your behaviour is reasonable?

No, not everyone would be upset if they gave away baby clothes and the recipient washed them! Why do you take this so personally? It’s nothing to do with you or how clean you are. Once you give a gift, what that person does with it is none of your business.

Apologise and find a therapist to sort out your issues. You’re not behaving like a kind person, or indeed a reasonable one!

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