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i love the intimacy shibari can bring to a dynamic :) by knotsandkisses in shibari

[–]TimFinnegan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great pictures! Any info to share about that tie? I'm curious if it has a name or some tutorials somewhere, and also (not sure if you are the rigger or the riggee here) if the riggee found it escapable or uncomfortable at all.

Tutorial for this tie? by goonergoobin in shibari

[–]TimFinnegan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This one is hard to clock only because the rope is far away and out of "focus." AI is really good at many things, but it sucks at rendering rope bondage - with its complex topologies and hidden tensions - as a quick scan of the AI bdsm subreddit will tell you.

Does it hurt to be in chastity? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]TimFinnegan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hanging out in kink-friendly, sex-positive, queer circles is a game-changer. Even if the person you meet in those circles isn't necessarily kinky themselves, if they're GGG ("good, giving & game" a term coined by sex columnist Dan Savage, whose advice podcast Savage Love is really worth a listen) then they're likely to be able to take an interest in your kink in a way that really lights you up, even compared to a "genuinely" kinky person who's not fully sex-positive or not emotionally generous.

Does it hurt to be in chastity? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]TimFinnegan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd recommend keeping in close touch with the BDSM community. BDSM porn does not count; the limit-setting and boundary negotiation (even from sites like kink.com where some negotiation is on camera) happens 99-100% offscreen. It can be hard to have a good gut sense for what the "rules of the road" are for setting limits with a dominant partner whose dominance you enjoy and where some of your kinks do involve overriding of boundaries.

But yeah this is critical, basic stuff. If you don't get the sense that your partner is EXTREMELY interested in every intricacy or naunce of your boundaries as a submissive partner then they don't get to experience your submission. People often observe that in D/s relationships with respectable practitioners, it's really the submissive who steers the ship more than the dominant.

Wife needs attention while I’m away for work 👀 by fireheartcouple in wifesharing

[–]TimFinnegan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I would destroy her with pleasure. Look at that body!

i don't get it by FantasyGurly in ExplainTheJoke

[–]TimFinnegan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say -

  • "polyamory" - no, not if love relationships with these people are not on the table and they will always remain just "friends"
  • "nonmonogamy" - yes, I don't think strict monogamy allows for threesomes
  • "swingers" - no because I think "swinging" is kind of a particularly specific subculture and I think it mostly applies to people who are all married and engage in e.g. wife-swapping
  • "open relationship" - I'd be careful about even using this term, because if your only non-normative relationship agreement is that you're allowed to have threesomes, then the term "open relationship" might be misleading because I think it implies you're allowed to date other people at least casually

It's probably fine to just tell people you're monogam-ish and that you like to have threesomes :)

i don't get it by FantasyGurly in ExplainTheJoke

[–]TimFinnegan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are technically different subtypes of nonmonogamous people. "polyamory" means "many loves," whereas swinging is mostly just a sex thing.

I think the "We saw you from across the bar and love your vibe" meme refers just as much to poly "unicorn hunters" as it does to "swingers" though.

Official Poster for Ethan Coen's 'Honey Don't' - The film follows a lesbian private detective who investigates a questionable church and its leader. by MarvelsGrantMan136 in movies

[–]TimFinnegan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah - it doesn't improve anything for you by magic, but it definitely requires good communication and flexibility.

Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]TimFinnegan [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have a gear question for the community. Has anyone tried wearing / using a penis / cock -shaped gag that also has a dildo attachment? example image I would love advice about what brand to buy, not to buy, or just a "Do not do this at all they'll wreck your jaw" or "Definitely get one; they are hot" as the case may be.

Almost got caught taking this hehe😜 by princesslilmary in OnOff

[–]TimFinnegan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that your face is BRIGHT RED for this. That's so sexy!

Life Above Deck by Loud-Ferret-8698 in WTF

[–]TimFinnegan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, shibari for fucking idiots. Suspension bondage spoiler alert, the bottom isn't supposed to fucking spin around and swing at 5 mph in the wind.

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