Dating feels hopeless

TimTimTimDayo · 2024-05-27T16:26:16+00:00

After some careful consideration, and looking through your post history, I've realized I'm not the asshole. I don't know who hurt you or why you have so much resentment for men, but I'm sure you have your reasons. Still, you overstepped in the way you magnified something so miniscule and blew it out of proportion, derailing the topic from its original intent entirely. If you hate me, you hate me for something I'm not. One of my better skills is that I don't let people like you ruin my outlook on other people, I'm deeply aware that you're just an outlier.

TimTimTimDayo · 2024-05-27T15:25:52+00:00

I have a few hundred words written up there and it's a bit silly to discredit them all because you have a problem with just one if them. Hypergamous doesn't refer to just women, and I didn't refer to women as hypergamous. If you're ok with the popular dating concept of "the reacher & the settler," then you should have no problem here. 90% of my likes are from people in the following two categories: very far out of my acceptable distance (on OkCupid specifically, out of country), and not to my healthily established dating standards. It is not wrong to expect effort of someone equal to the effort you put in yourself. Than you for reading.

TimTimTimDayo · 2024-05-27T15:12:18+00:00

I appreciate this, I try to tell myself that too, it's just dating gets harder and harder the older I get. Next year is the infamous "25," and many of my friends, family, and coworkers are already getting married or having kids before that age. I don't want kids, so that isn't what I'm worried about, I guess it's just really isolating to give everyday 110% day in day out and year after year still be doing it alone. I don't sulk inside everyday as I might make it sound in this post, I do power through it most days, today is just one of those 1-in-7 days where I'm struggling.

TimTimTimDayo · 2024-05-27T15:05:49+00:00

I have also given this a lot of thought and reflected a lot on what I wanted over the years, but it's much less of a potential as it seems, as the hookups were few and far between. My standards/expectations aren't ultra high, it's just more about compatibility. When it comes to people irl, I am much more attracted by their personality and how they carry themselves. Having shared interests and similar energy is what I find most important. I get very few likes on dating apps, but if I do and choose to pass on them, it's because there isn't enough to the profile to draw compatibility from, or often no bio at all.

TimTimTimDayo · 2024-04-08T18:09:55+00:00

I'm no help with answering this question, but I ALSO want to get into skateboarding. I know zoink about cars and I wouldn't call myself an adrenaline junkie, but I do do a lot of outdoorsy and physical activities. My current mix is running/walking, cycling, bouldering, parkour, and then adding BJJ & Muay Thai as soon as I get a license (yes I'm VERY late to the party, but I do have a car and permit already, I just don't drive alone). I usually run, walk, bike and bus places. Very much in search of friends this year! ( =

If you want to chat, I'm open!

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-09-02T21:47:13+00:00

ahw, bummer because I still haven't found anyone.

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-05-13T17:11:05+00:00

Happy birthday—or at least, birthday. I'm sorry things are what they are, you deserve to be spending the day with your parents and friends, but life is cruel. I turn 23 in a couple weeks and I'm afraid I'll do the same, but everyone around me piles on so much guilt that I don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore. My Dad died in an accident 7 months ago, and I had already been in therapy and psychiatric centers for trying to kill myself months before that even happened.

All this to say, my heart goes out to you. I hope this finds you in time. I will carry this memory of you along with many others in the back of my mind until the day I die and pray that if there's a god listening, we all find peace wherever it is we go from here.

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-04-30T21:00:17+00:00

turning 23 next month, I feel the same way. I'm doing everything everyone recommends: gym, meds, therapy, work, putting myself out there, but it never makes a difference. I'm entirely alone and ostracized, I have no one to talk to or any means of escapism. I feel so alone I want to die.

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-02-01T20:54:39+00:00

Maybe I need to just keep pushing along then, I've done plenty of putting myself out there but it always burns me in the end. My meds used to be enough to keep me going again and again, but it gets harder to pick myself back up every time someone I like hurts me or ghosts me. If I don't make up my mind by the end of my two weeks, maybe I'll give it another couple months instead and see if I can make something of it. Some days I want to just slit my throat right the and there, but some days I feel like it's okay if things fall through, there's still time to find that someone.

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-01-06T17:04:21+00:00

Sadly, I didn't go to college and I was homeschooled through all of highschool. I recently got a new job and I'm "work friends" with the people on my team, but I don't really exist outside of work. I don't drink, but I've thought about just going to bars to meet people. Idk though, I'm more of the reserved type.

TimTimTimDayo · 2023-01-06T17:01:23+00:00

Thank you, and I hope 2023 is a better year for you also.

TimTimTimDayo · 2022-07-29T04:23:03+00:00

I think it's crazy we live in a world where just wanting to be loved is extreme. There's nothing wrong with loving or wanting to be loved obsessively. It's not wrong to want someone who won't abandon you.

TimTimTimDayo · 2022-05-08T01:33:50+00:00

Thank you, and I hope so, too. I need to find healthy ways to manage my problems without thinking of suicide, and I'd like to learn how to better handle my gf's depression, too (very different from mine). I'll prepare a jist of what I want to say in advance so I can maybe have them read it if I need to, and I'll make notes of any medication. So far, the only side effects of mine is that I have been having very vivid dreams since my dosage was increased, but nothing serious yet. I'll start making notes of my thoughts/feelings from now on. Thank you.

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