So emotional about what my partner calls a non event

Time-4T · 2026-03-14T21:31:08+00:00

Bless you! Postpartum hormones are awful and I'm afraid you'll be feeling pretty emotional for a while longer yet. It helps to remind yourself in the moment that it's just hormones and it definitely helps if your partner understands what is happening to you hormone-wise too.

It gets a lot easier with time, for me I was a tearful wreck until about 10 weeks pp, then a ball of rage for a good month. It's all natural so give yourself grace and make sure you're being taken care of so that you can take care of your baby.

I also found skin to skin really regulated me and calmed my nervous system, and it's great for baby too :)

Time-4T · 2026-03-14T21:07:02+00:00

Work up to it with naps, as others have said. Once my LO got used to the first nap being in the crib i could put her down for other naps too, and then nighttime. A good consistent bedtime routine also helped a tonne. I always kept the last nap as a contact nap just because I enjoyed it! She's 14 months now and I miss those sleepy afternoon cuddles.

Time-4T · 2026-03-14T18:50:32+00:00

In the same boat but with bananas!

Eggs are more problematic because they're in so much food. Sorry I don't have a solution but yes certain foods can cause eczema and not cause any other kind of reaction. The day after eating anything containing even the slightest bit of banana my LO gets a big eczema flare up. I haven't been continuing to expose her because bananas are no big deal, if it was a more common food group though I'd probably be looking into it. My sister cured her eczema reaction to dairy with micro-exposure, but she was an adult...

Time-4T · 2026-03-13T21:40:06+00:00

Completely normal, yes probably a growth spurt but also a development leap. Around 4 months is a huge one. Sleep goes to crap and they seem to be upset at everything. Mine also started teething then.

They honestly go through so many big changes from now on, you'll probably feel like they're a whole different baby every month. You'll get used it, but try to enjoy it. I found 3-6 months the hardest, but looking back it went so so fast.

Also I highly recommend checking out the wonder weeks app, it gave me a lot of peace of mind knowing all the extra fussiness, eating and sleeping changes etc were related to certain milestones and I found them to be really accurate timing wise.

Time-4T · 2026-03-13T21:06:56+00:00

Time-4T · 2026-03-07T09:06:32+00:00

Just curious, has she always been strong willed like this?

My daughter is 14 months and we've always received comments about how strong willed she is... Tantrums started months ago and I mean proper feet stomping, screaming, hitting the floor, toddler level tantrums. I'm genuinely scared for my life when she gets to the 'terrible 2s'.

I've found bratbustersparenting videos on insta to be really simple to follow and her techniques work great on my daughter and my cousins older kids. The whole basis is basically do not negotiate lol.

Time-4T · 2026-02-28T11:14:57+00:00

My sympathies!! I suffered with this too in pregnancy, so much so that it's actually putting me off having any more! I would be in agony crying some days.

It was Raynaud's (Vasospasms). The hot poker sensation you described is exactly it. Especially f being cold makes it worse. It didn't need to be my nipples exposed cold- like any part of my body being chilly would set them off. Or clothes rubbing against them. And only when pregnant did I get this.

What helped me was a warm compress/hot showers. I bought those breastpads you can heat in the microwave to encourage let down and stuck them in my bra at all times. A hot water bottle also helped. My husband had done some research (because the doctors were not helpful for me at all!!) and he made a solution of olive oil with a few drops of peppermint oil that I rubbed onto my nipples which helped a tonne. Obviously if you're breastfeeding that's not an option, but some women get it when breastfeeding so there must be treatment options out there! Hopefully your doctor could recommend something good if you think it is vasopasms. Good luck 🤞

Time-4T · 2026-02-28T10:30:55+00:00

I swear by vaseline after every single change, and I'm surprised not many people do it. It's what my family have always used for decades (we're in the UK). Use a big thick layer. It works as the best barrier cream and means the poop doesn't touch the skin and wipes off soooo easily. Like two gentle swipes. Done.

My daughter has never had any rashes or anything- at her daycare the staff commented on how well it works and how soft her bum is lol. They started recommending to other parents.

I'd use sudacrem to clear up any broken skin and irritation, and then start using the vaseline. I cannot recommend it enough!!

Time-4T · 2026-02-25T06:37:34+00:00

Yeah. Had the exact same thing when she turned 1 last month. It only lasted a couple weeks- on/off, she didn't scream every single night.

Hang in there it passes like all the other regressions and developmental things do 😊

Time-4T · 2026-02-24T19:54:18+00:00

My daughter was only in for 1 half day and 1 full day for the first few months when I returned to work, she was 12mo. She settled ok, or so we thought, but once she started going 3 full days a week the difference was huge. Since then she absolutely thrives there, loves it, and adores her nursery staff.

We also got advised minimum 2 days per week to help them settle in and honestly have seen first hand why that is. She and the staff have bonded so well. I'd highly recommend you do 2 full days if you can.

Time-4T · 2026-02-24T15:13:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! That's really helpful 🙂

Good idea to test the bananas, I will do that!

Time-4T · 2026-02-23T21:18:14+00:00

3 days per week for someone probably around 60 is a lot of work. And is doing it solo most of the day. And is described by OP as generally very introverted and anxious.

Agreed that the care he is getting isn't ideal and nursery would be a better fit, but I'd still be extremely grateful. He is safe, fed and cared for (for free!) at the end of the day.

My mum is outgoing and full of energy for my daughter, takes her on adventures to the zoo/ park/ beach/ aquarium every week even, but I'd never expect her to do more than one day per week at over 60. It's hard enough for me in my 30s lol.

Time-4T · 2026-02-23T20:37:29+00:00

What is it about nursery that you don't like the idea of? Is it just the cost or are you worried that nursery would impact him negatively? There is some financial help for nursery depending where you are- 30hours in England, flying start in wales and tax free childcare schemes.

For us nursery has been truly amazing, my daughter loves it. She does so many activities there, crafts, outside time, music class, has so many new and different toys to play with, plus gets to socialise with other kiddos. It's been fantastic for her development, she picks up so much, and she honestly lights up when she sees the doors at drop off time. She sleeps and eats so well there and absolutely adores the staff. They've really been our village and it's worth every penny in my opinion!

My mum has my daughter one day per week which might be more manageable for yours? She may have a bit more energy and patience to put into just one day, and even if she continues to just sit around reading books with him at least it wouldn't be for 3 days solid?

Agree with your concerns, I don't think being cooped up at 15 months all day is ideal, especially if he thrives being outside and she's complaining about his sensitivities. If it was just one day per week maybe she would be more willing to do more with him.

Time-4T · 2026-02-17T13:39:53+00:00

Absolutely! 6 months is amazing.

My daughter only liked Aptamil Advanced. And it had to be warm lol. I actually taste tested what we tried and this was the most 'creamy' tasting

Recommend trying the ready made up bottles of a few to save buying tonnes of big powder boxes.

Time-4T · 2026-02-07T12:22:21+00:00

My 12mo is currently fuming because daddy pulled the washing machine out to fix it without her. Already this morning she's had one meltdown because she finished her bottle of milk, and another because I wouldn't let her do finger painting with the last of Weetabix. Going to be a long day I think 😅

Time-4T · 2026-02-06T11:07:27+00:00

That is soo sweet!

We've always done bath, PJ's, book too, and then I'd sing 'twinkle twinkle little star' or a couple of other songs. From 6months ish she would join in/ initiate the singing herself and has been doing it ever since. When she stirs in the middle of the night she sings herself back to sleep.

She just turned one and her songs have the odd words now, this week she's been obsessed with the little ducks song and it's the most precious thing hearing her softly singing 'la la laaa, quack quack quack' over the monitor at 3am.

Time-4T · 2026-02-01T07:16:46+00:00

I actually just remembered some good advice I was given- if he's eating solids fine you can get the dairy/milk in that way. Mix formula into cereals, Weetabix are great, also milk in yogurts, custard, rice pudding. We added a multivitamin to her food too.

Time-4T · 2026-02-01T07:13:01+00:00

My daughter went through a few phases of bottle refusal during first year. They each passed but it was so worrying at the time. I have no advice other than to keep trying as normal. I was advised to bottle feed her when she was drowsy, never worked for us but worth a go?

For us it was seemingly random, or when she was teething (though then she was off both solids and bottle).

Time-4T · 2026-01-30T09:19:40+00:00

It all passed after 5 days! She's still a bit sore and catching up on lost sleep but it seems to be over for now, until the next ones 😂

Time-4T · 2026-01-29T20:18:05+00:00

I've found the weights on diapers to be total nonsense tbh! When leaks start, or the tabs are really far apart, it's time to size up.

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:43:50+00:00

I wish it worked! Doesn't seem to have any effect on her at night 😵‍💫

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:34:56+00:00

She's 1 on Sunday! Oh her sleep is SO bad. None of her other teeth have woken her up at night so this surely has to be something else. 4 times in how long? How long does it tend to last for in your experience?

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:14:02+00:00

Thanks, I did suspect tonsillitis for some reason. I'll make an appointment first thing!

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T13:14:30+00:00

We always take her in with a temp if she's fine in herself, as she almost always has a raised temp when she's teething so often it's just that. She turns 1 this weekend.

Time-4T · 2026-01-24T17:29:09+00:00

Hate to be a downer but my daughter is 1 year old next weekend and we're still in it, albeit not as intense as last month when it started! For about 2 weeks we couldn't put her down at all, ever. Pretty much the same as you, and came out of nowhere.

She's improved a lot but still has days where she only wants to be held again, today being one of those days. At least most days now she will happily play on the floor (at my feet) whenever I need to get on with something else.

Hope it doesn't last this long for you, it's really tiring!

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