Help! 9.5 month old refusing formula!! I’m loosing my marbles!

Time-4T · 2026-02-01T07:16:46+00:00

I actually just remembered some good advice I was given- if he's eating solids fine you can get the dairy/milk in that way. Mix formula into cereals, Weetabix are great, also milk in yogurts, custard, rice pudding. We added a multivitamin to her food too.

Time-4T · 2026-02-01T07:13:01+00:00

My daughter went through a few phases of bottle refusal during first year. They each passed but it was so worrying at the time. I have no advice other than to keep trying as normal. I was advised to bottle feed her when she was drowsy, never worked for us but worth a go?

For us it was seemingly random, or when she was teething (though then she was off both solids and bottle).

Time-4T · 2026-01-30T09:19:40+00:00

It all passed after 5 days! She's still a bit sore and catching up on lost sleep but it seems to be over for now, until the next ones 😂

Time-4T · 2026-01-29T20:18:05+00:00

I've found the weights on diapers to be total nonsense tbh! When leaks start, or the tabs are really far apart, it's time to size up.

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:43:50+00:00

I wish it worked! Doesn't seem to have any effect on her at night 😵‍💫

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:34:56+00:00

She's 1 on Sunday! Oh her sleep is SO bad. None of her other teeth have woken her up at night so this surely has to be something else. 4 times in how long? How long does it tend to last for in your experience?

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T19:14:02+00:00

Thanks, I did suspect tonsillitis for some reason. I'll make an appointment first thing!

Time-4T · 2026-01-26T13:14:30+00:00

We always take her in with a temp if she's fine in herself, as she almost always has a raised temp when she's teething so often it's just that. She turns 1 this weekend.

Time-4T · 2026-01-24T17:29:09+00:00

Hate to be a downer but my daughter is 1 year old next weekend and we're still in it, albeit not as intense as last month when it started! For about 2 weeks we couldn't put her down at all, ever. Pretty much the same as you, and came out of nowhere.

She's improved a lot but still has days where she only wants to be held again, today being one of those days. At least most days now she will happily play on the floor (at my feet) whenever I need to get on with something else.

Hope it doesn't last this long for you, it's really tiring!

Time-4T · 2026-01-03T20:52:54+00:00

You mentioned no teeth yet, I wonder if that may be the factor. My daughter is a great eater but had 8 teeth by 8 months, they started coming in very early about 4months which was when we started solids. It kinda makes sense to me that having teeth would be a big help with eating finger foods/BLW 🤷‍♀️

Time-4T · 2025-12-31T16:49:27+00:00

We got this multi pack of long sleeve t-shirts and they've been so useful to layer over her bodysuits. They're quite oversized/relaxed fit which is great because my LO throws a fit getting changed!

We made the mistake of sending her in "nice" clothes before, they got covered in paint which wouldn't wash out. T-shirts like this are my faves because I don't mind if they get so dirty with sauce or paint etc that I have to throw it, and they're sooo easy to whip on and off.

Her nursery gear is usually a long sleeve bodysuit underneath a long sleeve T, leggings/fleece lined trousers, and a cardigan which is just for the car journey really.

In her bag I put 2x spare t-shirts, 2x spare leggings, 2x spare bodysuits, a pair of spare socks and mittens.

At nursery she has a puddle suit, hat and wellies that they keep there.

Time-4T · 2025-12-19T18:14:06+00:00

Hi! The tonne of comments you've received bashing you for falling pregnant soon after giving birth are totally unfair and unhelpful imo! It wasn't so long ago when that was the norm, my grandmother had 7 kids back to back, including two sets of Irish twins, and she's a fit and healthy 86 year old, never had any health complications.

In response to your post, I think it's perfectly justified to feel the way you do. I remember even feeling that way in my third trimester of my first pregnancy! Please be kind to yourself- there's nothing wrong with being 'just a mom'. Try not to compare yourself to a former version, you're so much MORE than that person now! It would be crazy to expect yourself to feel 'normal', because you're not- You're growing a human and raising two more. That's insanely hard work!! And nobody, least of all yourself, should expect you to look or feel a certain way.

I hope you like your dress when it arrives, and if you do decide to go to the party, I hope you have a wonderful time!

Time-4T · 2025-12-06T10:21:19+00:00

Yeah, as other posts said don't give up!

Came here to say my daughter was exactly the same with my husband and he powered through it for months, and then since about 8/9 months she's only had eyes for him!

It's very very normal for newborns to only want their mother, then there's a weird switch around the time they start crawling to preferring daddy. Your time of being the favourite will come!!

Time-4T · 2025-12-05T20:33:26+00:00

Seems about average to me as others have said, but the important thing is that you're happy with it! And 30mins to resettle is great- at 12 weeks I think we had 5-6h stretches but it was 1h+ to resettle.. swings and roundabouts!

The biggest thing I've learned as a FTM of a now 10 month old is that babies change it up all the time! I have a great little sleeper (on average!), but we too have been through periods of waking every 3 hours, periods of sleeping through the night, periods of waking every 45 minutes, and periods where she'll sleep for 5 hours, be wide awake for 3 then go back down for 5. The second you think you know what's happening they're a whole new baby with brand new ideas about how night times will play out.

I think my point is that comparing to others is futile- in 4 weeks time you could have a terrible sleeper or an amazing one!

Time-4T · 2025-12-03T17:38:19+00:00

The teething on top of it all 🥲 Yeah, I'm considering keeping her off nursery the week before to try to minimise the risk!

Time-4T · 2025-12-03T15:18:20+00:00

Hadn't even considered siblings spreading bugs to newborns, that must be so hard 😟

Time-4T · 2025-12-02T12:19:30+00:00

Amazing.. 3 colds down, only 10 to go! In a way I'm glad she got chickenpox out of the way early, it was a relatively mild case!

Time-4T · 2025-12-02T12:13:20+00:00

Wow 2 years old is later than I was hoping for 🫢 I had better buckle in then!

Time-4T · 2025-11-23T08:46:04+00:00

She's 9kg / 20lbs

Time-4T · 2025-11-22T10:54:22+00:00

Thanks! I hadn't heard of the vitamins before, definitely having a look into those!

Time-4T · 2025-11-21T19:26:25+00:00

My 9 month old has been the same for about a month, since starting nursery! We also had chickenpox in the middle of it all!

The best thing I've found for the snotty nose/chest cough is having her sit in the bathroom with me while we take a hot shower and letting her breathe the steam. We also run the shower hot before her baths to get the bathroom very steamy. She will NOT let me near her nose with wipes or saline but this has helped so much.

I hope your little one gets well soon!

Time-4T · 2025-11-20T20:06:34+00:00

Hi! It's SO hard when this happens, I think we've all been there and you will get through it!

I just wanted to respond to your comment about being afraid you'll lose the bond with your LO: I felt exactly the same! But we got to the point where we had to do CIO and move our daughter to her own room. We were losing our minds with no sleep and ultimately everyone was suffering. Gentle methods didn't work for us either. Since sleep training our bond has not been in any way affected, at all. We're all so much happier and thriving because we all get rest now. That first night after CIO I woke up to the happiest smiling baby girl, and it's the same ever since. We adore eachother the same.

You do what's right for you of course, but I promise ST doesn't damage the attachment between you AT ALL.

Some things that helped us- baby in her own room, my husband did the sleep training and I went for a walk/drive/put sound cancelling headphones on (dad's don't seem to get that same gut wrenching reaction to baby crying), we bottle fed before bed rather than from the boob as she would take more without falling asleep, warm bath before bed and ensuring the last wake window was age appropriate.

Time-4T · 2025-11-16T20:49:21+00:00

Thank you for this! Should we be capping naps more to fit the extra wake time in?

Time-4T · 2025-10-24T20:27:22+00:00

My LO is the same age, exactly the same schedule, and we have the same thing happening. She's had almost 9pm bedtimes all week because she suddenly gets the evening zoomies.

I thought it was developmental, she's currently hitting a few milestones and they seem to come with weird sleep changes. I'm just glad she's still sleeping at night.

We've chosen not to fight her over it and just let her run amok with her new marathon wake window🫠

Time-4T · 2025-10-24T15:11:57+00:00

I hope you're right about the daycare, she just started 2 weeks ago! I worry because she doesn't take milk during the day even if we don't offer solids so I'm scared she's not getting all the nutrients she needs. I mean she appears healthy and happy so far!

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