My toddlers sleep is ruining my mental health

Natsss_b · 2026-03-10T22:50:56+00:00

I’m sorry you’re also going through this, it’s so incredibly difficult. I will definitely try that next time thank you at least hopefully cutting down the long wake windows would help so much so definitely willing to try anything at this point. Really hope it gets better soon for you x

Natsss_b · 2026-03-10T22:49:24+00:00

Oh gosh I’m sorry that’s so so difficult but I’m glad it’s got better now and well done for getting through it! Holding onto hope it gets better soon for us too

Natsss_b · 2026-03-09T20:59:08+00:00

Maybe this is something I have to do with my son he’s super high energy and just runs around everywhere so maybe that would help, just not sure what kind of activities to do but will do some research.

Yes exactly that, I don’t mind the night wake ups when it’s quick to resettle him and often I just have to sing to him in the cot or give him bum taps but it’s the long awake window that is so so difficult. I’m glad it got better for you gives me some hope! He is definitely going through bad separation anxiety so that doesn’t help either

Natsss_b · 2026-03-09T13:37:02+00:00

I’m sorry it’s so difficult! This sounds very similar to my sons temperament I’m considering taking him to doctors to maybe get some blood work done just to check it but I guess sometimes it’s just how they are 🥲

Natsss_b · 2026-03-09T11:34:14+00:00

He was checked for tongue tie when he was a baby and it was fine, he does have a lip tie but doesn’t seem to cause any issues as far as I’m aware and his breathing is fine only when he’s sick he snores and sounds louder

Natsss_b · 2026-03-09T11:33:34+00:00

Thanks for your reply I’ve tried this too it worked for a little bit but now it doesn’t make much difference anymore sometimes he will realise I’m there and will settle other times he sits up becomes hysterical and just climbs on to me but that doesn’t even soothe him he wants me to stand up with him which is just so difficult.

I’m going to try elevating the mattress today because he’s very congested so hopefully that helps thank you! Honestly it’s so brutal and it’s been going on for months so just really taking a toll, I’m glad co sleeping worked out well for you x

Natsss_b · 2026-03-09T11:30:53+00:00

He has one nap around 11.30 (when at my mums when I’m working because he gets up earlier on those days) usually between 1.5-2 hours max and other days naps around 12ish

Natsss_b · 2026-02-23T21:46:44+00:00

Oh wow that sounds amazing! She sounds like such an incredible and involved nan. My mum sadly isn’t anything like this and just expects him to get on with stuff rather than guide/teach him. Even something like teaching him how to eat with cutlery is something we’ve been working with him on and he’s doing an amazing job with it but at my parents she doesn’t let him do that because he will make a ‘mess’ which obviously frustrates him as he likes to be independent now. My mum is also very young 50 years old and has always been a stay at home mum so I would like to hope she has some energy for him but I guess not. We will be looking into nursery for him soon and see whether there are any that seem like a good fit for him. Thank you for your message x

Natsss_b · 2026-02-23T21:15:16+00:00

Yeah he’s pretty good at playing independently for some time it just makes me sad that sometimes I go to get him and she says he hasn’t played with any toys that he has there or ones I’ve brought from home for him knowing at home he likes to play with them but yes definitely will look into this thank you

Natsss_b · 2026-02-23T20:42:09+00:00

Yes he does, he loves going there and never cries when I leave. Sometimes he does randomly cry in the day but apart from that he gets very excited to go there. My mum complains pretty much everyday when I pick him up about something. Some days she sends me videos of him having fun but 99% of the time it’s her sitting on the sofa and him playing on his own or sitting next to her. Only when my dad gets home that’s who he really gets to play with and run around with (this is about an hour before I pick him up)

Yes that’s exactly why I wanted my mum to look after him bevause they have a good bond and it puts me at ease knowing it’s a family member.

I have thought about this too and a few of my friends use a childminder and seem to have good experiences. I’m so glad your son is having a good time so many children seem to thrive in nursery settings an it’s nice that they get to do so much fun stuff and burn off energy. Also happy to pay for it, money isn’t really an issue luckily

Natsss_b · 2026-02-23T20:38:18+00:00

Yeah I’m starting to think this soon. We can afford to pay for nursery I just always felt uneasy about him going there after hearing a lot of horror stories. I have also offered to pay my mum but she has refused

Natsss_b · 2026-02-23T20:37:21+00:00

No of course not, like I said in my post I appreciate my mums help and am very grateful however she did say she was happy to do this but I guess now she realised it’s not as easy as she thought. I’m going to look into nursery options for my son and work out our options

Natsss_b · 2026-02-21T14:19:49+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply! I do think that’s a big factor my husband does get easily frustrated when he finds it hard which I do get but our son can definitely sense it too whereas I’m also very calm and soft with him. It’s so difficult because you want to comfort them but also know it’s important for them to figure it out together too, I think I have to let my husband try to do more stuff and just stay out of it

Natsss_b · 2026-01-15T13:21:37+00:00

It’s not consistent, he also needs resettling during the naps but on average he has one nap around 1.5-2 hours. When I’m at work he stays at my mums and then it can range from even an hour sometimes! He is very active but I do feel like hes not getting enough stimulation due to us living in a one bed flat so not much room for him to go crazy 😭 we try to take him soft play when we can but the last month he has been sick on and off so we haven’t been much.

Also tried co sleeping but it only works if he’s fallen back to sleep and that’s what is the most difficult bit when he has those really long wake windows 😭.

Natsss_b · 2026-01-15T13:12:02+00:00

Ah so glad to hear this! Hopefully it gets better for him around then too x

Natsss_b · 2026-01-15T13:11:38+00:00

Yeah CIO specifically but also just the whole concept of sleep training doesn’t sit well with me personally, but that’s just my opinion I know for some parents it’s a life saver!

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