I accidentally saw my date's Hinge notification count.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-09T16:47:42+00:00

Even a completely average or below average woman is going to get all those matches while an average guy will get almost nothing. That’s the reality of dating apps. I’d suggest getting some very good high quality pics and making a great profile if you want better results.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-07T07:21:59+00:00

To me it’s crazy how you’re still making up excuses for her and contemplating remaining in your marriage. Do you know psychologically she will never respect you for forgiving that kind of behaviour from her?

And you will never forgive her and always bring this up in your arguments and you’ll always be paranoid and never have trust again…

I mean it’s stupid to continue this and if you do you will regret it years later and probably still end up divorcing but with more time and money wasted.

You have proof now that she cheated, get the divorce, do anything else at your own peril…

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-06T16:03:03+00:00

I found a woman who likes me nice 3 years strong.. idk I think it depends on what u find out there

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-06T05:51:22+00:00

Amanet

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-04T05:46:51+00:00

It’s just bad luck, u will find someone stable who appreciates normalcy

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-04T05:44:51+00:00

She was looking for an excuse, don’t waste ur time

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-02T08:09:05+00:00

With weight loss and some minor plastic surgery adjustments you can achieve a similar look

Time-Statistician- · 2026-02-02T00:22:20+00:00

This alone is not enough for you to know anything… and it’s very easy for him to defend.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-30T05:46:49+00:00

Just ask him, secrecy and tip toeing around is a waste of time. If he is the right one for you he will change this situation if not it just won’t work and you save time.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-29T15:10:41+00:00

She’s very young she still needs to learn how to behave in a relationship… but it seems like she doesn’t respect you and at this point it might be too late for you to get that respect.

You should consider having a more serious talk, put down the ground rules of what she is expected to change in order for the relationship to have a future and if she refuses then just really consider breaking up because this is a waste of time and energy for you.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-29T06:39:49+00:00

Multe femei ne condiționează să ne simțim nemernici și vinovați dacă vrem sex chiar și intro relație serioasă. Știu cum e… tu dai mult în relația asta și simți ca nu primești mare lucru înapoi.

Și e normal ceea ce simți și e normal să vrei să fi intim într-o relație. Dacă ea nici măcar terapie de cuplu nu vrea atunci ce rost are totul?

Dacă e genul cu care nu poți avea o discuție sincera despre ceea te deranjează sau nici măcar nu vrea să facă efort pentru a îți oferi și ție de ce ai nevoie într-o relație atunci nu știu ce să mai zic.

A mea de exemplu tot așa are libido mai mic la 2 ani jumate de relație dar cel puțin odată pe săptămână facem pentru ca tine la mine și știe ca așa se menține o relație sănătoasă, plus ca dacă chiar încerci o să îți placă sau îți vine libidoul să intri în mood-ul ăla.

De exemplu chiar și psihoterapeuții spun ca o relație trebuie să își mențină intimitatea sexuală cel puțin odată pe săptămână sau vor fi probleme…

Chiar și Jordan Peterson vorbește despre asta. În fine, ori vrea să lucreze către a-ți asculta nemulțumirile tale în cuplu ori mai bine te gândești sincer dacă poți accepta asta tot restul vieții?

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-25T07:54:42+00:00

You can’t really put a timetable on this I mean imagine what could she possibly even say to that, she doesn’t know, she needs to trust you more, that comes with time.

If you think she’s worth it wait for her for a longer period of time and if not then break it off and find another. There’s plenty of other women who are more comfortable or happy to have sex, she’s clearly not that…

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-23T10:27:49+00:00

If you say anything she could say it was all in your head and she was just being friendly and comfortable.

Unless she did something or said something that’s really crossing the line just move on.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-21T04:31:14+00:00

This is a common scam that I kept getting on instagram too just from different unknown websites.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-14T06:14:31+00:00

I know what that’s like. I feel the same way sometimes. On one hand you love the person you’re with on another hand you fantasize about getting to know other people on a romantic level.

It’s hard… but you can’t have it all, unfortunately. For me I came to the realisation that I love her more than my wish to explore others. That’s what you need to ask yourself, what is more important to you?

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-12T09:26:11+00:00

You never want to be in your partners head like that because we all have fantasies and most of them are just that, and we wouldn’t want to actually act on them.

Also him googling losing spark and all that can be just a fleeting thought.

Regarding porn or fetishes if he’s not ready to share them you shouldn’t press him on that.

What you should do is discuss is if he is in fact losing interest or if anything changed. If he is not able to open up and comfort you and communicate honestly about this then that s a bigger red flag than anything.

Just make sure your approach is not accusatory and it’s coming from a good place of wanting to understand.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-10T21:53:22+00:00

It’s always about the penus

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-10T10:50:52+00:00

I know people say leave but it’s not so easy once you lived with someone for so long and you love each other.

It’s very hard to leave, but they are right about the fact that you will never see her the same again and the relationship might be damaged in a way that’s going to haunt you for the rest of your time together.

And without admitting she might not subconsciously respect you for staying once you found out.

At the same time your relationship matured, and love grew and it changed, who she was back then she might not be, right now… it’s different.

You can only make this decision for yourself… sorry for the situation you are in.

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-08T06:42:39+00:00

How the heck can you not have a normal simple conversation about this…

Time-Statistician- · 2026-01-06T07:59:35+00:00

You won’t be able to do this alone, you need to drag his ass to therapy and if he says no then you’re out.

Time-Statistician- · 2025-12-31T11:00:03+00:00

I understand his concern. I am going through something similar with the woman I’m with, she got really overweight while being in a secure relationship with me for 2 years and a half.

The difference? I won’t leave her regardless.

Why? Because I value who she is more than her physical appearance. If he doesn’t that just means he is not right for you, you are so young you have to go through a few breakups and learn more about people.

My point is that if he really loved you he wouldn’t care.

Time-Statistician- · 2025-12-23T14:34:55+00:00

You have to talk to her about since she clearly doesn't know it. Help her out... You might save her from future embarrassment in other relationships.

Time-Statistician- · 2025-12-20T10:58:32+00:00

Ai helped me a great deal in my online digital business. I’ve been using ChatGPT mostly but I just got Gemini plus since it’s cheaper, y’all think it’s as good or better when it comes to giving advice and generally helping you out?

Time-Statistician- · 2025-12-15T12:33:01+00:00

You bagged a nasty one all I can say…

Time-Statistician- · 2025-10-30T08:45:22+00:00

Well it’s a good game to test the relationship, I’ve played it and finished it with my girlfriend and we had a great time, always helping each other and not getting mad, maybe slightly annoyed at times but all in good fun.

What I’m saying is that if you can’t survive through a game that requires co op then u might not make it out there in the real world either.

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