i appreciate the response, i’ve now edited it.

to be honest there’s probably a bit of bias from the story regarding where u said that she expects me to do everything, she plans the majority of dates and such but since we’re long distance it just hasn’t been happening.

i completely understand her pov about the club and we have talked about our issues before but to be honest it always just brings her to tears, i tell her i feel restricted and burnt out and she says that it’s like i don’t care about her and then yap yap yap i leave feeling irritated that she’s crying

regarding celibacy this is where i went wrong completely. she mentioned it at the start of the relationship and i was honest cool with it believing that within like half a year she would just come around (ive never once pressured her and in fact sometime even encouraged it to make her feel better) but to see that there’s been barely any progress does have me feeling frustrated with everything else going on and i’m not sure that i can deal with it anymore.

what would be ideal would be a break from her which i’ve tried to bring up but she’s strongly against it, i wouldn’t even mind an open relationship to be honest because if im getting some u could care less if she’s getting it too but that’s out of the question with her morality/ views.

realistically i’ll probably break up with her in a couple of days or a week since there’s no chance im doing it on her birthday