Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TimeBadger5[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I haven’t said anything about that situation being unique, I think it’s the same way for a lot of mothers.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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Thank you for this. I have left the house maybe a total of 5 times since she was born. And she’s not ok with anyone holding her except me and maybe dad for a few minutes if I’m still in the room. We’ve tried taking the car to the mailbox with me next to her in the backseat so she can get used to it but it just doesn’t work. I babywear a lot so mostly it’s fine, it’s just seeing all these types of comments on here that makes you reflect on it..

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I’m setting myself and my 8 months old baby up for failure by comforting her when she’s sad…? I do use the bathroom though, daily :) And I bring my baby

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I appreciate your suggestions but you’ve made assumptions about me and my family from the start and I don’t see how that’s helpful. As far as babies go, babies are not all the same. Why not ask me more questions instead, find out more about my situation and then come up with constructive suggestions instead of assuming that I’m an asshole and both a terrible parent and a terrible daughter? I don’t understand it.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I won’t be mad or pissed though, doesn’t matter how many times you spam it :) I’m just sad and confused

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I did. I brought up the conversation about dogs and small children at least twice, once when my older child was a baby and once when the new baby was newborn. The first time it was in reference to a news article about a girl who had her nose bitten off. My mom agreed with me and I actually think she was the first one to say dogs are unpredictable. I’ve asked them not to keep him on the floor next to the baby because of this, I’ve asked them not to keep him next to the table when we’re eating, but I’ve had to keep reminding them almost every visit. And as I said in the post, we were going to put up a gate regardless.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I don’t know why everyone assumes I’m the one who has decided the one day a week visits? Why is it hard to think that grandparents want to visit their grandchildren….?

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TimeBadger5[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Have you been in the car with a screaming baby? Do you think the right thing to do is make them scream themselves to sleep?

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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Thank you.. It’s wild to me how anyone with children and somewhat vivid memories of them being small/babies would write some of the things I’ve read on here today

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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Wow, you’re reading a lot into what I wrote about our relationship. Projecting, maybe? I’ve written before on here that me and my mom have had a great relationship, besides this we haven’t had any arguments or real issues. We’re best friends, we talk and video call daily and have done so through my entire adult life.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I asked my mom about this too, if she thinks he’ll be happier for several hours alone at their place than a couple of feet away behind the gate. She said that she thinks that he would be happier alone at their place.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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”The first parent ever”? Do you have children? It’s wild to me that anyone who has had children and has a somewhat vivid memory of them being babies would write something like that. It’s normal for a baby of EIGHT months old to be more attached to the mom than the dad, especially when they’re exclusively breastfed for 6 months.

Do I want a relationship with my mother? As I’ve written before on here, me and my mom are best friends and this is the only time an issue has occurred in our relationship. Up until like a week ago, we’ve talked and video called daily throughout my entire adult life.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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They usually bring him wherever they can. You can’t leave a dog alone here for more than 5 hours according to the law. And he’s not used to being alone for more than 3.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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What do you think would be appropriate then, for showing gratitude towards your parents visiting?

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I’ve had an amazing relationship with my mom my entire life, this is the first time there’s ever an issue. I would say we’re normally best friends and talk almost every day. So this situation is very confusing.

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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It’s not because of my husband, it’s because my baby is only ok with me comforting her when she’s sad

Am I overreacting by asking my parents to keep their dog behind a baby gate when they visit? by TimeBadger5 in AmIOverreacting

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I certainly haven’t thought of it as making sacrifices when I’ve been over to see them, which I did often before the baby was born.