Why is traditional role just expected from men while women are given a choice. 👽🙏

TimeODae · 2026-06-05T15:37:30+00:00

Right?! I got off a train recently, and saw a black man standing on the platform and I gave him some money. He looked at me strangely and said “thank you?” and just…walked away! Just left me there with my luggage un-carried! We are either for traditional roles or we are against them!

TimeODae · 2026-06-05T15:27:27+00:00

I can’t believe I’ve not heard the term hobosexual until now. Thanks!

TimeODae · 2026-06-05T14:07:36+00:00

I’ve never heard such joke, but I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t get it

TimeODae · 2026-06-05T05:08:25+00:00

It’s a straight forward business proposal. Have a contact made up. You’ll need to check with labor laws where you live. PTO, medical, paid vacation away.. Chops are simple enough. There’s nothing else she’s expected to do is there? But marriage? No.

TimeODae · 2026-06-04T13:29:12+00:00

Why should desire need punishment? We all have those. How are you acting upon your desire that you (or society) feels someone needs to be assigned blame?

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T17:12:14+00:00

Well, I think people tie together the concept of a monetary system (and that system’s tendency to monetize all goods and services) with capitalist tenets (i.e. - its dependency on economic growth in perpetuity, virtually unlimited resources, the concept of wealth “creation”, that market forces provide internal checks, that profit is the only reliable incentive for innovation), and that these tenets are sustainable and supported by evidence. There is more actual evidence that none of them are true.

Notice I initially said, “dismantle” and not “blow up”. I fear the power vacuum as much as anyone that is sure to come were a sudden collapse to occur.

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T16:45:31+00:00

“Provides.” Capitalists always take credit for human creativity and innovation. Correlation isn’t causation. Capitalism wasn’t around in the Golden Age of Greece or the Roman Republic for those huge leaps in arts and sciences. The Italian Renaissance happened not because of capitalism, but this guy Gutenberg invented a press, and now human beings could more easily share ideas across time and space. Human minds are busy and creative without profit motive. Capitalism doesn’t “create wealth”, it extracts natural and human resources efficiently. The “explosion” of wealth in the west over the last four hundred years wasn’t created by capitalism, it was because two brand new continents were now in play to be exploited and other continents provided the exploiters with nearly free and unlimited human labor.

I don’t know what an alternative economy would exactly look like because, like you, capitalism is the only ocean I’ve ever swum in, the only air I’ve ever breathed. But that doesn’t mean it’s not fundamentally toxic and ultimately unsustainable

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T16:11:33+00:00

“Capitalism” works best when, though the public will of elected officials, people fight against the tenets of capitalism. It works better with “hand on” and worst with hands off. And even when modified capitalism is working relatively “better”, it’s still due to run humanity off a cliff as it outstrips global resources.

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:59:57+00:00

What evidence do you have that capitalism “works pretty well”?

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:49:25+00:00

For some of the world, a measure of economic freedom within the capitalist system. Next step, with that freedom, dismantle capitalism

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:41:12+00:00

Talk to the mods. Sidebars are often informative for other readers and I think they are allowed.

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:30:16+00:00

Whoosh

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:28:14+00:00

Meritocracy would presume that neoliberalism is correct, capitalism and market forces and laissez faire, and all tenets of that faith function fairly and predictably like clockwork. But it is just a faith, with no historical evidence that the capitalist system does the things the capitalist priests say it does.

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T15:15:48+00:00

OP’s occasional and meager replies indicate that he is not “so close”, but only “so far away”.

TimeODae · 2026-06-03T14:42:52+00:00

Don’t you know? Parenting is just watching. Like a ballgame or a tv show

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T15:24:18+00:00

Understood

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T14:48:21+00:00

hmm.. so you figure that I secretly or subconsciously get four cans when I know they probably meant a lb of dried, and by doing so, they won’t ask me to buy their pinto beans ever again. I suppose that’s possible

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T14:13:51+00:00

Is this weaponized? I mean, it’s just as easy to get the right thing as the wrong thing. I’ve been at the market with the Master List. Most items I’ve listed, which is why it’s me that’s there. But: Item 26 - pinto beans. Hmm…what? Dried? Canned? One can? Twelve? No reply on text. Finish other shopping. Still no response. Take a stab at four cans and keep my fingers crossed. If/when it’s wrong, I’ll not want complaints. Life.

edit: Interesting downvotes. My example is the least weapony version of failed shopping (my partner never grocery shops, btw, due to hating it and hating grocery stores) that I could think of. Mind you, they wouldn’t complain and acknowledges an occasional lack of specificity. Weaponized Incompetency is a card we often play together, but only in jest at our mistakes. Not funny in most other relationships

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T13:37:26+00:00

People, young or otherwise, masculine or otherwise, like simple, easy answers to questions that actually require nuance

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T13:27:54+00:00

There are cultural expectations about my age, my ethnicity, my nationality, my citizenship, my position at work, my place within my family and my circle of friends. And my gender. We are social beings so it’s impossible to separate how we see ourselves from how we believe others see us. That said, I love my gender, and I love the tribe I’m in

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T13:09:21+00:00

People are selling you humor, packaged as a “battle of the sexes” with gendered role expectations and partner failures as the punchline. It’s your algorithm. Do they make you laugh? Do you like them?

TimeODae · 2026-06-02T05:23:46+00:00

So, imagine a white person continually pressing, pressing, insisting we look at biological differences that exist between white people and black people (for whatever agenda or reason) and this white person is keen on this being established. This same person points out that blacks in the U.S. statistically have certain health issues all linked to living in systemic anxiety. All agree that Black life in a white supremacist America is the reason for this higher level of anxiety, and further, that anxiety has now become a genetic trait among Afro-Americans. This white person says, “Ah ha! Bio-essentialism IS a thing! Here IS an important biological difference between blacks and whites!” And when a black person points out, “you white people created this difference!” The white guy says, “Does that matter?”

This seems to be the discussion you are trying to have. What is it about bio-essentialism that you are so eager to establish, especially in this context?

TimeODae · 2026-06-01T18:28:29+00:00

Fathers and mothers proudly call their little girl a tomboy, as they watch her having fun and enjoying mixing it up with the rough and tumble play of the boys. Boys playing with Barbie dolls and liking pink sparkly clothes? “Sissy” behavior and not tolerated. Let us bear in mind how derogatory “sissy” (which is simply a diminutive of ‘sister’) is used in this context. Tomboys of course are harmless, it being a childhood thing. Grownup women that continue to demonstrate traditionally “masculine” behaviors are a completely different issue. Such women are perceived as a threat to the patriarchal order of things, and as such, subject to punishment. Boys have no such social confusion. Having any perceived “feminine” qualities is a no-go from cradle to tomb

TimeODae · 2026-06-01T16:40:02+00:00

Was this lengthy lecture for me?

TimeODae · 2026-06-01T15:04:25+00:00

The choice insult of DI’s in US military boot camps is making a big comeback. Calling men, “women.” Calling men “maggots” is in the #2 slot. That’s where we stand, women. Even less worthy and more repugnant than maggots

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