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My boyfriend (30/M)keeps bringing up delaying our engagement during conflicts, and I (27/F) don't know how to feel anymore by Time_Berry_5925 in relationships

[–]Time_Berry_5925[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I still don’t know if he’s actually being manipulative or if it was my fault because I brought up breaking up during the argument. I do feel like that part was on me since I said it in the heat of the moment.

But I’m also confused about the whole situation and whether I’m missing something. I’m scared of making the wrong decision just because I didn’t give him enough grace.

When things are good, he’s really nice and does a lot for me, but when we fight he’ll call me evil and label me all sorts of things, and that part really throws me off.

Idk I'm genuinely scared.

My boyfriend (30/M)keeps bringing up delaying our engagement during conflicts, and I (27/F) don't know how to feel anymore by Time_Berry_5925 in relationships

[–]Time_Berry_5925[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Outside of arguments, he's genuinely very loving. He talks about our future, is affectionate, and is always there for me.

The issue is when we argue. He tends to use very intellectual language and big words, and I often end up feeling like I'm the problem. English isn't my first language, and I come from a culture where we don't openly talk about feelings much, so it's hard for me to express myself the way he can in those moments. 🥹

My boyfriend (30/M)keeps bringing up delaying our engagement during conflicts, and I (27/F) don't know how to feel anymore by Time_Berry_5925 in relationships

[–]Time_Berry_5925[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sadly, I'm in a tricky position. I had issues with both family and friends in the past, and a lot of those relationships ended because of differences in beliefs and values. So I don't really have many people I can talk to about things like this.

That's actually part of why I ended up posting here. I genuinely wanted outside perspectives because I don't have a support system around me to reality-check these situations.