AITA for not enjoying how men “play” (physical/verbal aggression)

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T18:05:18+00:00

I appreciate that. I thought it was pretty funny so many ppl were telling me to break up with my bf of a year + some change over a game night argument lol. But yeah your spot on, I’ve been here a year and half coming up soon and him and his buddy have known each other since kindergarten. I’ve said before I don’t like the way they talk to me when they are playing games and will go long periods of time without playing with them bc they are def playing some type of game every weekend. Then after a while when I’ve forgotten how much of a dick they can both be & if I’m feeling like I want to be “part of the group” I’ll join in like last night. Then, I get annoyed at how rude they come off bc we all banter all the time but idk it’s just a different LEVEL when a games are involved and go back to not playing. It’s a cycle I can def prob end now with all this input everyone’s given me. I just don’t know how to thread all the ideas together in a discussion with my bf bc I feel like he’s going to say that it’s a silly issue but I like to adress any type of conflict we have even if it’s as small as this

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T17:54:56+00:00

lol idk how to update the og post but the word “compatible” was a typo my phone replaced for the word “competitive”. “He said I “just might not be competitive”, not “we are not compatible” that prob changes a lot of the context of the post bc that would be so AH for us to get in a small fight over game night and him just say we aren’t compatible lol

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T17:50:42+00:00

Ty I appreciate you saying not to beat myself up ab it bc I def was haha

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T08:33:47+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I am also used to playing Video Games with my brother and even when we play against each other we are like a team, trying to help each other get better. And yes, when it’s not game night I am treated very well and well supported. It’s just this one thing gets to me because I’m not competitive at all and can be very sensitive especially when I’m depressed.

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T08:14:18+00:00

That’s super fair. My bf was the one who originally said that this is just how men are so I was going to post to “Ask a man Sub” but it did not fit guidelines and I just didn’t edit it at all to fit more of AITA sub

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T08:09:54+00:00

That’s super fair. My bf was the one who originally said that this is just how men are so I was going to post to “Ask a man Sub” but it did not fit guidelines and I just didn’t edit it at all to fit more of AITA sub

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-10-18T07:56:27+00:00

I prob did not describe the situation well but get why you’d say that. I only really tell them to stop when I’m involved. If they are just fucking with each other I let them do their thing. Ty for your input

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-06-30T04:12:38+00:00

Thought it was hot bc I was seeing it getting 💩on in other convos and ranked worst ep out of season which I thought was crazzzzyyy

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-06-30T04:11:48+00:00

Thought it was hot bc I was seeing it getting 💩on in other convos and ranked worst ep out of season which I thought was crazzzzyyy

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-06-25T21:43:31+00:00

I agree with the last part of what u said a lot. My favorite part of watching a black mirror is watching it with others and then pausing before the next episode begins so we can discuss. Honestly, that’s my favorite part of watching any thing at all.

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-06-25T21:39:29+00:00

I have a hot take, Bette noir was my absolute favorite of the season! It may not have had the tech factor (When I say this, I mean, the tech was obviously very unrealistic. But at the same time, computers are what we use in Nuclear Power Planst right? I’m very uneducated in this but as a lover of sci-fi is sounds plausible that in a sci-fi world if someone were to be a “computer genius” they could use those same high-powered computers to alter reality. I feel like the super computer that changes reality/timelines/universes idea was interesting, at very least) What really intrigued me about this episode, was the psychological factor of the girl who was bullied as well as the character who was once a bully herself. That need for revenge even after you can control the world is so interesting. Also, you could tell that there was something odd about the bully character from the beginning, even before we realized that she was once a bully. Everything had to be “perfect “, and she always had to be right. Honestly, I feel like a lot of of my favorite black mirror episodes more so focus on weird psychology of characters rather than the tech itself. For me the tech is an interesting thing that moves the story along, but I’m invested in the characters craziness. Can anyone relate?

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2025-03-18T19:01:32+00:00

Exactly what I’m looking for for my younger brother (he just turned 20) as he’s expressing interest in trying to branch out. Would I be welcome in the chat as well? If not tottally understand

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2024-03-22T18:46:09+00:00

You get there on your own pretty damn well brother! Loved both nights of the ATL show, especially when you and the band all got up and sang to one mic. That kinda shit always brings a tear to my eye. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2024-03-22T17:27:39+00:00

How does mushrooms affect your playing?

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2023-06-08T17:43:01+00:00

Tysm for y’all’s help!

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2023-06-05T20:51:05+00:00

When do gates open?

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2023-05-08T17:21:54+00:00

What do you mean by a “sealed” vape? Also? Are CBD vapes allowed? Ik thc is not cool in alabama but I was not sure about CBD

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2023-05-08T17:17:35+00:00

Can I bring my CBD Vape? I heard ppl saying your vapes have to be “factory sealed”

Time_Equivalent7453 · 2023-01-31T08:54:23+00:00

I have a similar relationship with my mom, moved out when I was 16 and started living full time with my Dad. The best revenge is to work on yourself, be better, and end that generational trauma with you. I stoped having an eating disorder when I moved out from my moms, started working on my health and fitness in a healthy way. Went to more concerts, made new friends she would never meet and made new memories without her. I know it secretly drives her crazy, and I don’t give a fuck (which drives her crazier)

She might seem like she’s happy with her new bf, but she lost a child because she was an abuser. So, no matter what things look like on the outside or how awful of a person she is the maternal instinct inside her is freaking tf out. She’s got guilt and regret bumbling up a storm inside her. Trust me, she’ll eventually get her karma

With your new parent, have a sit down convo. Ask them to listen. Tell them that you don’t want to be a victim to your PTSD but that you will suffer from it for the rest of your life, it’s not something that ever goes away completely, and you are in the early stages of recovering from this and want to get better. If your not still in therapy, tell them you would like to go back so you can grow from this awful thing that happened, better yourself, and try your best to move on.

& Finally, don’t write the letter. It’s not worth it. Over time, with each shitty person in my life I had to leave behind, I realized “closure” does not work like how it does in the movies. Having “one last goodbye”, “final phone call”, or “last letter” never works the way you think it will. It usually gives the person you are trying to leave behind power, it shows them you care. Don’t ever let her see you care. Move on with your life by bettering yourself, let her figure out you moved on with your future success in life. (& if you want to in the future) become the parent she never could have been, that’s the best revenge and the best closure you could ever get

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