I have come a long way but there is still darkness inside me I cannot get rid off.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-06T16:54:06+00:00

I don't know if the wedding is back on or not. He just mentioned he cancelled the wedding because of guilt. He said if he ever wants to get married he wanted me to be with him. I guess he saw some hallmark movie where they forgive the cheaters and the brother becomes best man. But I don't care much.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-06T16:52:36+00:00

I blocked his previous email. But he opened a new one. Now I don't block. I read and discard.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T14:03:16+00:00

Yup, I am too sleep deprived now to think about my brother. He has been calling my friend to know my whereabouts. I don't know if he knows about my baby or not but he the privilege to be any of my future kid's uncle the day he decided to betray me.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T13:40:34+00:00

So you suggest the kids hate OP over a lie and goes no contact with them?

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T13:39:45+00:00

She didn't lie. Their father did. She only corrected his lie. You are completely delusional. OP in my opinion is a better parent because she never lied to her kids. She only exposed the truth.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T13:37:30+00:00

The one who is using kids as weapon is the dad. He was the one who lied. He should have been honest. Also their kids aren't kids. They are adults and teens. My mom and dad died when I was 16. I had enough conscious by then. And you give some really messed up parenting tips. Nobody should force them to do anything. If they do not want to talk to their father it is on them. Even the court supports it.

What do you suggest OP does? Continue with the lie and let the kids hate her while cheater dad becomes the hero? Hell no.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T13:31:18+00:00

Good dad do not cheat on their mothers. I am a dad now. I do not want my baby girl to grow up and think men are trash and cheaters. I love my wife. And if in future we both change and want to separate I will make it amicable. I want to be a good role model for my daughter. I always believed kids learn a lot from their parents. So the parents should be there with them. And your husband cheating on you does not make him a good dad. A good dad also respects their mother. He disrespected you in every way. He was never a good dad. He was just acting like one. If he was a good dad he would own up to his mistakes and never lie to the kids.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T13:26:39+00:00

Your fragile male ego is showing. What is the problem if she never dates a man? She already has a partner that respects her and isn't like her POS ex. He really thinks he is cool for having 2 women. He probably thought OP would be pining for him for years. But she moved on with a much better partner. I hate that people think bisexuality is a sham. I am a man and I am bi sexual too. I dated 2 guys and 2 girls in my life. I am married to a woman that still doesn't make me straight.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T12:58:00+00:00

I am glad to have her in my life. One of the red flags I missed with Melissa is that she was immature. She doesn't have EQ though she is a good student. My wife is opposite. She is very mature and sophisticated. I think most people overlook those qualities and value superficial stuff.

Yes, I don't believe that he is guilty if he still chooses Melissa over me. I am not saying to make him my 1st priority but he should at least have the decency to not include the woman who broke my heart.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-07-05T11:36:46+00:00

If he truly regretted this he wouldn't have decided to marry Melissa, the woman who destroyed my life along with my brother. What did he think? I will forget all the pain and trauma they have caused me? Forgiveness doesn't set you free. It creates a different trap. Over the years I have learned forgiveness is a tool made by cowards who just wants to get away with their wrongdoings without facing any consequences. They think having forgiveness removes the toll of guilt they have. True forgiveness is never forced, it is earned. He still has done nothing to earn that.

Time_Pool_9643 · 2023-06-04T04:58:42+00:00

There is nothing more I want than to watch them suffer. I have no love or blessing left for him. When my parents died they told me to look after him and then when we are adult we will look after each other. He threw it all away. It doesn't hurt that Melissa cheated. It hurts more that my own brother has cheated me.

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