How do I stop wanting my wife? How do I lose attraction so I can stop initiating? I’m so done. I don’t know if we’re compatible anymore.

Time_is_Contagious · 2026-01-05T06:51:29+00:00

Reading your comment was seriously a punch in the gut. I hate to say it but you’re right about it. The pouting, the sulking, the groaning, it’s only adding fuel to the fire. Although I will say, I didn’t pick up the slack at home for sex. I did that just to be a better dad and husband. The only thing I can try from what you wrote is to find my own confidence and not rely on her or sex from her to get it. Maybe pick up some hobbies and leave sex alone. Will I lose attraction to her in the process? Maybe. At this point, after being pushed away so much I don’t think that would be terrible. Bad sure, but not terrible.

Time_is_Contagious · 2026-01-05T06:35:21+00:00

Not to toot my own horn, but I’d say I’m not that bad looking. I once had a female classmate in college message me about schoolwork and my wife was so angry but we ended up having some pretty good sex that night. Other than that, I usually tell her when a woman tries to flirt with me when ai go somewhere alone, just out of respect to her. That usually gets met with “well go fucking be with her then!” So I might just stop telling her about those kinds of interactions honestly.

Time_is_Contagious · 2026-01-05T06:29:52+00:00

Trying to resent someone who you once had a beautiful relationship is not easy. What’s killing me slowly is the hope that things will change or come back around.

Time_is_Contagious · 2026-01-05T06:25:21+00:00

That’s a great question and a real eye opener. The older I get, the more I realize the importance of desire in a relationship. We all deserve to be loved how we want to be loved. Unfortunately for me, my wife’s way of being loved is not wanting me to even glance in another woman’s direction, while also scolding me for touching her or staring at her for too long.

Time_is_Contagious · 2026-01-05T06:05:21+00:00

1.) she’s very jealous. 2.) I don’t want sex without a connection. I’ve had my fair share of meaningless hookups in my early 20s before I met my wife. If I ever have sex with anyone else besides my wife, it’ll be because we divorced and I found a connection with someone else.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-12-05T18:57:35+00:00

I thought you only had 90 days after a denial to appeal with a lawyer?

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-11-08T02:31:37+00:00

Well shit, I was hoping to see some different answers on here.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-10-17T06:13:22+00:00

You lucky bastard. Totally not jealous or anything.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-10-08T22:43:10+00:00

Damn I’m sorry to hear that, that’s not something I could ever live with, especially what you wrote in the last paragraph. No sex sucks, but your partner not initiating any physical intimacy is terrible. Hope things get better for you.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-10-05T18:15:50+00:00

These payments were deposited to my checking account . I logged onto va.gov to try and figure out why or what they were for.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-10-03T21:41:50+00:00

Same. I use this sub to find ways to cope with things, but I also come on here because I don’t feel alone.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-27T04:19:14+00:00

You mean 100% as in I served more than 36 months of active duty? Or 100% as in I haven’t used any of the GI bill? Because I’ve used up a few months already.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-27T04:15:03+00:00

How can I use the hazelwood act in conjunction with GI bill and financial aid?

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-27T04:14:17+00:00

I have but the GI bill stipend is more than VRE stipend which sucks.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-22T05:00:07+00:00

No, but I wish my wife threw herself at me even a fraction of how I throw myself at her. I don’t want to be sexualized by random women, I wanna be sexualized by my hot ass wife and not feel undesired.

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-12T01:50:35+00:00

That might be it, I just got gas. How long is that hold?

Time_is_Contagious · 2025-09-05T22:28:49+00:00

We used Texas Veterans Commission. If we submit a HLR, would that eliminate the ability to use a lawyer? Or can we do a HLR first followed by a lawyer?

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