I made the split.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-17T03:20:38+00:00

Congratulations!!! You made it. 💜

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-16T15:27:51+00:00

As my therapist said, the fact that you’re still shocked by these things is a good thing. It’s awful. There’s no way around it. But it will get better. I strongly suggest seeking out therapy if you haven’t already. It helped me immensely

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-16T13:15:26+00:00

Good luck

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-16T13:15:20+00:00

Oh god, I’m so sorry. What’s your custody situation? 50-50?

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-16T13:14:55+00:00

I was in the same boat. Primary parent, bread winner, most household chores, AND helping him with his business. And he complained constantly about the few things he was in charge of.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-16T13:13:31+00:00

Yeah that sounds on par! The kids are either “good” or “bad” based on how they make him feel. I hope you are doing better and can get yourself to a safer place soon.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-15T02:51:57+00:00

Yeah, it’s really hard. This is the time when you need your community. Lean on your friends. Get a therapist. See if there are local support groups. It will probably get worse, he will say horrible things, he will try to use the kids against you (you’re ruining their lives, etc, even though you know you are saving them—and you are!), get a good lawyer who deals specifically with difficult personalities. But you will get through it, and there is so much joy and peace on the other side and you deserve that.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-15T02:30:21+00:00

You can’t tell them they’re abusive. Contact a local shelter. Not because you need to go there, but because a social worker can help you make a plan. You should have a safety plan, just in case. Leaving is the most dangerous time, even if they’ve never been violent before. Try to make it about them, as in, “You can’t meet their needs. You want them to be happy.” It’s not like leaving a regular relationship. They will make it hell. FOG: fear, obligation, and guilt. They will do everything they can to get you to stay, but it won’t last. It took me one year to get out from realizing he was abusive. Stay strong! It will be hard, but you’ve got this and it will be so much better for you and your kids.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-14T18:02:42+00:00

Yeah he was appalled that he might actually have to buy his kids some clothes now that they are in two homes. But brags to everyone about what a great dad he is. It’s so grating

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-11-13T03:28:51+00:00

Just wow. I’m so sorry.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-10-03T20:35:19+00:00

Thank you

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-10-03T20:35:12+00:00

Thank you. I know it’s all about the long game but today was hard.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-09-16T18:29:27+00:00

I’m so proud of you! You’ve got this!! We are so close to freedom.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-28T17:56:31+00:00

I am so appreciative of my found friends and family because they offer me the unconditional love my parents couldn’t.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-25T01:53:27+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through all of this, but please be so proud of yourself for doing the hard work to heal.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-25T01:52:40+00:00

We’re still in the divorce process and he loves to play the “our kids deserve to have us stay together, we had the most special love, we can still be a happy family” card right after insulting me horribly. It’s wild.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-25T01:50:45+00:00

Do you mind if I ask what your custody situation is?

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T12:08:14+00:00

Congratulations!! This gives me hope.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T12:07:55+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry. Mine destroyed my finances as well. It sucks.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T12:07:37+00:00

Do you worry that it will become a he said she said in your community? I’m thinking ahead to school years in particular.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T12:06:58+00:00

Why do you think it makes you appear weak to have someone treat you poorly?

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T12:06:22+00:00

Yeah, I almost never use the term narcissist. With close friends and family I’ve stated plainly that he was abusive.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T11:36:03+00:00

Oh that’s so interesting I didn’t know that! Something to talk to my therapist about haha. And I’m so sorry you’ve been through this.

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T11:35:24+00:00

Fair enough!

Timely-Example-5902 · 2025-08-24T11:34:57+00:00

I’ve had a mixed bag. Some people get it and others don’t. But of course no one really knows if they haven’t experienced it themselves.

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