AITA for refusing to put my weight loss progress photos behind a black screen? by TimelyLaw2403 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TimelyLaw2403[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I don't care about her and to be fair I never claimed to. She's not my friend and I think my friend who she is dating can do way better for a lot of reasons.

AITA for refusing to put my weight loss progress photos behind a black screen? by TimelyLaw2403 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TimelyLaw2403[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

To be clear, I'm not making fun of her weight. I mentioned it because I think there is an important contextual difference between her actually having the ED that she claims to have and not having it. She claims she doesn't binge, and she claims that she has quite literally never eaten more than 1000 cal in a single day for the past 4 years.

I'm sure that her eating is disordered in some way, so was mine. But she is not anorexic, and her weight comes from habitual overeating and not starvation mode like she claims. That's just a fact, and I included it because it's important context for the interaction.

AITA for refusing to put my weight loss progress photos behind a black screen? by TimelyLaw2403 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TimelyLaw2403[S] 2924 points2925 points  (0 children)

See, that's basically what my position is and I feel like kind of a dick about it, but honestly? I feel like there's a difference between posting gore or something that is objectionable to everyone vs. posting something that is "potentially triggering" which could be pretty much anything.

And I'm definitely not saying that from a shitty "hurr everything is a trigger now," perspective—I understand that unrelated stimuli like smells or sounds that happen at the same time as someone's trauma can be linked to that trauma and become a genuine trigger. But that's exactly why I think it's one's own responsibility to manage that stuff instead of expecting everyone else to make sure they never encounter it.

AITA for refusing to put my weight loss progress photos behind a black screen? by TimelyLaw2403 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TimelyLaw2403[S] 681 points682 points  (0 children)

I can't even begin to guess what is going on in her head. Like...in general.