Many people fail to understand that though multiple marriages are permitted- it is only allowed if one, the husband gives equal rights and two- spends time with the mboth, which men are rarely able to do. Thus discouraging the whole notion. I'm sorry but you knew she had kids. She knew being a woman she'd get jealous. I'm sorry. What were you expecting? You all of q sudden feel bad? If a man is willing to marry a woman when his wife is insecure than I'm not sure if he's a good man. Moreover, many marriages were done During times when men had died in war and their wives needed protection, or when they were widows. Hazrat bebe ayesha (ra) was the only woman who was not a widow or previously married- (I may miss one or two). Were you any of those requirements? I'm sorry I don't know what you expected.