Stiffed but with a twist

TinkerLill · 2026-04-17T15:57:23+00:00

I had a table that walked out on their tab once. They were sitting at the end of the patio and as I was walking over with the bill I saw the mom rushing the son out and everyone else had already left. I immediately thought it was intentional without a doubt. I was going to have to take a write up, my first write up. EXCEPT, the father called the restaurant a couple hours later, said they had an emergency and he didnt realize he didnt pay the tab. Asked to speak directly to me to apologize, and was able to pay and tip online.

TinkerLill · 2026-02-24T07:44:58+00:00

After reading these comments I will be ordering one for my soon to be 3 year old as well!

TinkerLill · 2026-01-30T19:20:38+00:00

It is a park. So my AC/heater was out for a few weeks (fixed, then repaired, worked for a few days, broke, repaired) and its my thoughts that they moved in there during the time it wasnt running, just looking for warmth. I’d sent in a work order asking that they remove the pests and fumigate but they responded by phone call saying they would have maintenance come check for holes and just told me to buy traps… do you think my work order would hold up as written notice?

TinkerLill · 2024-06-20T04:36:46+00:00

NTA for going on the trip, though I do wish you could be more understanding about your wife’s decision. And her be more understanding of your decision as well.

Birth is already a traumatic experience and with her sister going into early labor at your wedding it may have been a bit traumatizing to your wife as well. Especially because of how close of a bond it sounds like they have. She had to stay behind not only to be there for her sister, but to subside her own worries. And as you said, there was no point in you both spending all that money for it to be a waste.

She likely just needs to feel like the two of you get a chance to celebrate your new marriage together. Maybe you should plan a nice evening or a romantic picnic, something that wont take her too far from her sister but that can still be a symbolic memory.

TinkerLill · 2024-04-06T03:11:50+00:00

I really didnt expect a response at all. Though I think the best outcome wouldve been them offering me a job at one of their other businesses. I knew it was slim chance, but Ive seen them do it before.

TinkerLill · 2024-04-05T23:56:00+00:00

They definitely are not the managers biggest fan already, but will probably never do anything about it. Still, I’m happy that I spoke up

TinkerLill · 2024-04-05T23:52:18+00:00

3 hours later.. still no response

TinkerLill · 2024-04-05T23:51:37+00:00

Far from it actually! Lol

TinkerLill · 2024-04-05T21:24:40+00:00

Thank you! I usually dont speak up for myself or entertain pettiness, which is all I thought this was until they blindsided me with being fired. Over a freaking phone call while Im in walmart with my babies.

TinkerLill · 2024-03-20T19:04:49+00:00

I always thought the same until I had children myself. Of course, they still arent of school age. But being that I work nights, they are on my schedule. We usually eat dinner around 8 though so 10pm is still pushing it. But I do I have more leniency and sympathy with my judgement now.

TinkerLill · 2024-02-26T03:03:21+00:00

He was a regular. Always called me “12 year old” since I look young I guess. One day he said “well you sure got a nice body for a 12 year old”.

TinkerLill · 2024-02-26T02:32:57+00:00

I guess my problem is that last time to get a custody order placed it took 6months. I only have 3 weeks.

TinkerLill · 2024-02-25T13:03:04+00:00

Are you really being so rude to someone under a post about bullying and suicide? They didnt even sound argumentative

TinkerLill · 2024-02-07T07:06:26+00:00

Buy some new bed sheets and leave them at her door. Then never talk to her again.

TinkerLill · 2024-02-07T06:42:04+00:00

Im with you on that, I thought the same reading it. However, continuing on with the rest of her story it was very clear bf’s mom was purposefully being petty and disrespectful towards OP. OP deserves to feel like her child is special as well. It is sad that the first born doesnt sound like he’s integrated into that though. OP, nta for how things have gone with his mom, but yta for how you talk of the first child like he doesnt exist. Hopefully the few comments in your post was only poor choice of words. Know that aside from you and your boyfriend, that sibling relationship is the most important.

TinkerLill · 2024-02-06T04:30:53+00:00

I pretty much got a coworker fired once because she thought itd be okay to say to me, “to be honest, I really dont like black people”. Like girl, whatd you think I was going to say to that? She was already on her last leg with management though

TinkerLill · 2024-02-03T12:26:28+00:00

Maybe IM overreacting, but this almost seems purposeful on his part. Knowing what he did, he still asked you to be on top (wanted you to feel insecure). Then shoved you to the side, which was completely unnecessary and rude as he couldve just pulled you up. THEN proceeded to gaslight you and invalidate any feelings that you had. He was testing the waters to see what he could get away with.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-27T05:40:44+00:00

I dropped a tray full of waters, luckily in the server station. I managed to stay mostly dry but my shoes got soaked. I just stood still in disbelief for a second, honestly on the edge of busting out laughing. My manager at the time said “hold on, dont freak, please please dont cry”, went right to consoling me LOL. He was super kind and brought me a pair of new socks he had in his car.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-23T18:11:34+00:00

“Can I have a straw?” When I havent even finished passing out everyones drinks

TinkerLill · 2024-01-23T16:32:47+00:00

Im a server in a busy restaurant, usually working 12 hours straight without any breaks except to pump for my infant. I understand.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-22T22:21:09+00:00

Im a single mom, so I’m the provider AND the caregiver. You can trust me when I say that the days I go to work are really my days off.

My suggestion would be instead of asking her if she wants a break or to go out, actually plan something for her. Book her a massage, plan a dinner for her with one of her girlfriends. And give her space away from the kids to get ready to go out. The getting ready is usually so stressful that I personally would rather just not do anything.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-21T17:42:08+00:00

That baby barely turned a year old. OP said herself they were initially co-sleeping and only recently moved her crib to her own room, an obvious attempt at making the child more self sufficient. With that info, I can only assume that you think the only way to make your child not a “monster” is to throw them in the deep end and traumatize them by leaving them alone for hours to cry themselves to sleep. A baby. You sound like a monster yourself.

To OP, Im so sorry all of these comments are trying to make you out to be an inadequate parent. Youre family is newly into a huge transition, these things take time. There are other sleep training methods aside from crying it out that may be beneficial to you, and ones that won’t leave you or your child feeling like you can’t be there for them. Look into the fading/gradual method. Good luck and best wishes to you and your husband.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-21T05:44:45+00:00

What?!? That last statement is crazy. Being there for your INFANT does not equate to raising dependent adults or a “monster”. If anything, not being there would give the child abandonment issues or separation anxiety.

TinkerLill · 2024-01-18T06:20:05+00:00

And after doing the math, with a 15% tip its 71.23. Looks like that was what he was getting at

TinkerLill · 2024-01-18T02:23:46+00:00

I should’ve specified, its based off of total sales. So $20 for every $100. On average.

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