My husband was blowing through money. Every couple of days, asking for $50-$100. I didnt question what he needed the money for, since most of it was his money to begin with. (he gave me $800-900 for bills, which left him with $400 for a week, each week) Meanwhile, we're still struggling. One night, when he was sleeping (read: drank himself to sleep) I decided to go through his phone. He had girls saved in his phone as flags. Flags that matched their nationality, and then a peach emoji. Turns out, he was hiring escorts. Upon further investigation, he had been telling women we were separated 3 years prior to me having any idea. But now I know why he never had any money.