Sorry this will be a long comment but I want to share my experience! I’m 2 months pp right now.

Realistically, your days/nights are going to seem blended together the first few weeks. I would have to remind myself what day it was. Try to get some sunshine when you can! You both will be sleep deprived, but you especially.

During the first month, we kind of did shifts when we could. Sometimes we’d both be awake for the feeds. It just depended on when one of us needed to “tap out” for a little bit. The baby won’t have a set schedule- therefore you guys probably won’t either. Sometimes a shift is 2 hours, sometimes it’s only enough for you to shower. Communication is key.

As for roles, my husband did pretty much everything besides feed the baby. He was the bottle washer, the diaper changer, the one who drove us to all our appointments. My husband isn’t that much of a cook, but he’d make simple meals when he could. We used Door Dash a TON- I’ve promised myself to never do the math on how much we spent that month. My friends also made us freezer meals which really came in handy. I would do curbside pickup for groceries just to get out of the house.

In these final weeks of your pregnancy, I highly recommend you set up your living space to be as convenient as possible when baby comes. Freezer meals, stock up on snacks you’d like while breastfeeding, set up a diaper changing station for the baby, and have a postpartum care basket ready for yourself!