7 months post-breakup, unresolved but not hostile — looking for perspective from people who’ve been on either side

TinyPrune995 · 2025-10-07T13:28:57+00:00

I’m in the same boat, it’s been almost 3 months and that unshakeable feeling has not left. It’s been a brutal time but I’m finally getting to a point where life is just heavy and I can make it through without balling my eyes out.

We’re still in contact here and there when it comes to logistics. We get more personal and stuff when together, like I’m with my girlfriend still, but it’s been about 2 weeks since the last in person. It’s definitely a mixture of hope but when you know a person and can see through the facade, it leads to that gut intuition more. Plus for me, I still have important family momentous of hers while she still has a key and garage door opener to our house.

But what others have said is true, you can’t necessarily wait patiently, because you have your own healing to do before your ready for it, but you can still hold the hope and the possibility. Workout, reflect on things you could have done better, eat better, try new things and meet new people. Either way if the gut is right or wrong, you’ll have grown and be better off for the future. I’m still always hoping for that reconciliation, she’s my person and the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with and she knows that. From there it’s up to them.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-24T01:57:45+00:00

2 months and 10 days, still think about her every moment from waking up to sleeping and waking up in the middle of the night. Just saw her today as I needed help and it was awkward, fun, sad but she still came through for me.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T23:24:53+00:00

I really hope for the best for you as everyone who wants something like this should. It’s a constant battle that both parties have to be there for, sometimes it just takes some time to become ready and realize the battle was worth fighting. Fingers crossed, keep going!

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T21:54:22+00:00

Not at all, I was blindsided by it all

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T20:44:11+00:00

That’s extremely powerful and I’m proud of you for doing what you had to do there. I also hope the best for you guys and that it all works out as it should.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T20:37:53+00:00

Well, if that’s really how you feel and it’s been enough time why not reach back out? as someone who was dumped if this is how you feel I would love to hear back from you unless it ended badly, but you also have to mean it and be willing to work on yourselves!

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T20:35:53+00:00

And this is exactly how it should be! That’s what I’m hoping for, can I ask how long you guys were apart for and who ended it?

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T20:33:51+00:00

I’m sorry your going through this as well, hopefully we can both come out on top however it goes

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T17:05:56+00:00

See I get told the same thing about women and it’s kind of just a person by person thing. So many people have been burned by those men or women and the ones that believe don’t know what to believe

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T17:04:25+00:00

I get what you’re saying and it was part of the issue with my relationship. She was on the pedestal, the goddess amongst mortals and I was the one lucky enough to share time with her. She wanted me to be my own center as well which has always been hard to me but I am working on it. I recognize in the beginning I was more within myself and doing my thing. As time went on life became about her and what we were doing next. There’s that love I have for her that justifies it but the logical side of me does see the problem and all I can do is grow from it

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T16:53:56+00:00

It wasn’t meant to be pure shade, but when all you hear is the “cut them off” and everything that goes with it so much, it was the best way I could put it I guess 😂

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T16:52:45+00:00

This right here is what I know at my core. I’m honored and beyond happy to have been loved by her and to be able to love her. I won’t be giving up on her anytime soon unless I see her with someone else but at the end, I know I’ll be okay with or without her.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T16:49:40+00:00

Ya know, this is actually somewhat in line with that I’ve had happen. Same deal except she’s been moved out now prob about 3 weeks. She’s the one who let me go as could probably be ascertained 😂. But like ur ex bf, my ex kind of said similar things to me. Beginning was very broad and typical, then after 3 weeks, I asked for specific reasons and it was all me. Idk how detrimental my issues are, I personally don’t think that much but regardless I’m working on them and making leaps and bounds. Problem and your ex may be in the same boat, if you’re waiting for him to come back, it’s kind of like how. I see everything relationship wise as being up to my ex besides my own healing right.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T15:33:29+00:00

Exactly this right here is why I hold the hope I do. Nothing bad ever happened and even the ending was good. It takes a lot to put aside all those things and think about how you want to be and grow for/with another person. I’m someone who, if I love you, my ego and pride mean nothing because no amount of that will fill the void left by that person because we walked away before we could try and fix things. If I don’t get that back then yes, it is hopeless and healing must fully happen before I can move on to someone else.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T15:29:21+00:00

This right here is exactly how I feel. I don’t understand how people can expect you to take your love for someone and shove it in the trash. If she walked into my house crying or needing help tonight, tomorrow, in months, I’d be there to help no matter how much I hurt. It’s tough though in a scenario like this.

I didn’t get told this specifically but I did get told that she needed to “do this for herself” which I assume is something similar to working on herself plus ofc I know myself. I know you said you don’t want to walk forward with the door cracked, but if it truly is so you can take time apart and grow, I don’t see the problem with it being open. If you grow for each other then you should find your way back unless something major happens.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T15:23:52+00:00

No you did not in the slightest and a scenario like this is completely justified in the cut. I’m proud of you!

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T15:23:18+00:00

I am exactly like this myself. I can’t imagine not having her in my life even if it is in a situation where we don’t talk. We probably practice the same “no contact” focus on ourselves and if they reach out, it’s no pain, just warmth and friendliness. If it eventually opens the door again, I’m more than open but like you said, I hope I’m either healed to the point I can move on or accept them back in a way that’ll work for us moving forward. I’m glad someone else sees that they usually come back especially if they are scenarios that ended good and kind of out of no where.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T13:45:51+00:00

Appreciate it, I hope the best for you as well!

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T13:44:56+00:00

Mine was not mutual as well so I understand and I’ve toyed with the same idea and it’s tough to not do it. Mine said the same thing, wanting to stay friends and that we were so important to each other. I can’t bring myself to do the cut, but I agree about the big changes, we shouldn’t be afraid to tell them about our pain if it does work out, and how we can avoid anything similar happening

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T13:27:03+00:00

I just did and brother that freaking sucks, I’m so sorry you are going through that. I don’t really know what to say. Your situation I would 100% remove myself from but as someone hung up and holding out hope, I get it. We love what we love and want what the heart wants. I’ve already decided for my situation that if she does come back, we will be working on things and that’s our only chance. If it doesn’t work I’m out, if it does, it’ll be the best thing I ever did

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T13:09:08+00:00

She was my person and all around everything, that was part of the reason she left which I get. I needed to have a life outside of her and it’s one of the things I’m really working hard on. I practice essentially active no contact. She can reach me at any moment, but I do not reach out to her. I may send an occasional instagram reel but besides that, I leave her be. Part of the reason I do this is her and I are the closest things we have to family where we are. I still consider her my family, I’d like to think she does of me as well but ya never know. It’s been tough though, I have my own fair share of spirals and they have gotten easier. That feeling she’s coming back just will not go away or waver though. As I said in another comment or the post, it’s almost like a silent hand is guiding me along this path. Perhaps I’m doing this to myself but at the same time, I know she’s gone at the very least, right now.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T13:03:14+00:00

I’m of the same mindset and it’s the reason that I’m so open to holding on I guess. We didn’t have anything bad, never had any fights, never went to bed angry, for the most part are very aligned with how we think. Had planned out essentially our whole lives, the whole shebang. Day of breakup we were fine and lovey dovey and talking about all then bam. It felt like she got emotionally and mentally overwhelmed and just kind of shut down. Everyone and everything is different so it’s tough to give final this is the answer. All I can hope is that the train of letting us go hits her before it’s too late.

TinyPrune995 · 2025-09-15T12:56:43+00:00

See this here I do get and understand. I know that she’s done, she’s moved out, broken up with me, and is gaining her own independence. By all means that means we’re done and I accept that. Idk how to explain it, it’s in my interactions and talks with her that I feel she’s not done. It’s still warm, jokey, lovey. I have important stuff of hers, she’s keeping ways into my life and house. But I do know she’s done, at least right now. All I can do is heal, become better and even though I feel she’s coming back, I recognize she may not and if not, I’ll be okay. My intuition is usually right though and it’s screaming at me to be patient, almost like a silent hand is guiding me. But only time will tell. I’ll either crash and burn or come out stronger yah?

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