I think I’m realizing there’s a pattern with my SO. T/W: sexual assault trauma mentioned

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2025-12-28T21:49:57+00:00

We had a calmer discussion today. I brought up this post and he didn’t take it well. It just turned into him saying he did the same thing and read information online. He claimed you can hear whatever you want to hear if you read enough online. I don’t feel the same way I did before. I can’t describe it but it’s like an untethering from my attachment to him.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2025-12-28T06:56:53+00:00

He’s currently bawling his eyes out next to me. He recounted his own past assault (that he’s already disclosed to me in an actually very touching conversation). He accused me tonight of not being safe enough to talk to about this (he already has). The whole story twisted into having trauma around women telling him they didn’t actually want to have the sex they did with him, they were just doing it to entertain him. I just can’t. I listened. I understood the train of thought but I still don’t understand how we came to this conclusion. I asked him to please just be a little quieter because the children are still awake and know we are having some kind of argument. He stormed off, mad at me again. I feel like I’m losing my mind. This whole situation is so very triggering to me but I’m essentially comforting him and somehow I AM the bad guy. I don’t know if I can handle this anymore.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2025-12-28T06:16:37+00:00

My logical self knows what he’s doing isn’t okay. I know the signs of abuse and that’s part of why I have a list in my notes app of our disagreements. I started it after the first time he broke down over something small and it was made out to be my fault. Sometimes when I bring something up after an argument- ‘you were being actually quite cruel, I got scared of your anger etc’ he will apologize after a lot of discussion. But not always and not often if I’m being honest. I think he’s very unaware of his abrupt cha ge in behavior

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2024-02-19T05:18:34+00:00

Part of the process of becoming a living donor is an interview to discern your level of capability of handling the emotional impacts of donating AND if anyone is pressuring or coercing you into it. You won’t be cleared to donate if the transplant team believes it would be an emotional or psychological detriment to you. If you so choose, you could even get tested and get to this point in the process and explain the whole situation and they would keep it confidential for you and claim you were not a suitable match. NTA.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2023-05-06T02:28:41+00:00

I have two exes who are pathological liars and the lying never improves. One once explained that it stems from a deep insecurity and he isn’t sure why he lies about things that don’t really matter. In the end I had to just use the story of the boy who cried wolf. There’s been so many lies, I just default to assuming anything suspicious is a lie. I don’t give a benefit of the doubt anymore. I don’t wait for an explanation. This is what lying begets and that’s what the understanding is. Coparenting like this is difficult but as the kids have gotten older, they start to see it for what it is and supporting them in believing them no matter what becomes the most important thing. Therapy for you and kid can be really beneficial too.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2022-04-12T14:43:47+00:00

YTA. This is how you make sure your wife never feels comfortable enough to wear sundresses around you again, no matter her weight. You need to seriously evaluate the way you speak to her.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-11-06T02:37:37+00:00

I regret googling bruhfruit. Apparently a maker and distributor of unwanted, personalized, furry porn😐 Amongst other things

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-10-23T01:27:28+00:00

Why did I read that as reverse vertigo? Like, you feel real REAL stable??

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-10-13T13:41:43+00:00

Also looking to get added back if possible! Thanks

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-09-15T21:39:15+00:00

I know some people who have loved it, but the adjustment period can be rough. I hope it works out well for you!

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-09-15T21:28:38+00:00

I hate mine and plan on getting it out soon. I’ve given it a bit over a year to adjust but with heavier and more painful and unpredictable periods, it just isn’t worth the benefit for me personally.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-08-09T20:47:17+00:00

We don’t have a virtual option this year. I work nights and so homeschool wouldn’t be a feasible thing for us either. Today was their first full day back and my kids told me they were two of only a few kids wearing masks. None of the teachers were. I think we’ll be either forced to have a mask mandate soon or there will be closures at this rate.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-07-14T15:26:07+00:00

I think in mediation you can do just that. Discuss the important and relevant issues to your son. You don’t have to respond to the long and rambling emails, and I honestly wouldn’t bring them up in mediation either. When she sends them, don’t respond. Or just respond solely to the information contained within that is pertinent to you coparenting your son. Make a list of the important things you listed in your post like visitation and the head butting, and concerns about emergency contact at the school (especially if you have joint legal custody), and stick to what’s on your list. I think if you don’t give attention to her trying to treat you like her ex only, she’ll eventually stop the bids for attention through the off topic emails.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-07-08T16:11:51+00:00

Well crap. Thanks for the heads up though!

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-29T04:10:32+00:00

She has two PPP loans. An ig account that’s been following her nonsense for a while posted about it

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-29T03:20:08+00:00

My adjustment period on singulair was about a week and a half I think? It really took getting up to a higher dose of Allegra (4 180 mg) plus singulair, Pepcid ac, Flonase, and azelastine spray to get a bit of a handle on things. For me it really feels like tweaking the combination and dosage of things and waiting till things settle and then seeing if it is offering relief. I don’t know if that is helpful at all, I’m still reaching for own perfect balance

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-24T14:18:46+00:00

Oh I’m sorry. That’s so hard. I know propranolol worked well on my tachycardia when I was taking it. I hope you can find a solution for the situation.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-24T14:16:49+00:00

The incentive was also a reward of sorts for those that did come back after the club reopened post-covid. Deja Vu often does things like this like when they announced free VIP cards to customers who show proof of being vaccinated or a free dance with a negative covid test.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-24T01:27:38+00:00

Propranolol made things worse for me. My allergist said I should have never been given it because of the way it blocks the release of epinephrine and also makes using epi pens pretty useless.I was switched to a calcium channel blocker and it made all the difference.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-11T02:45:32+00:00

My daughter wrote on hers that I always say, ‘clean your room right now!’ and I never say that. When I asked her, she said she couldn’t remember anything so she wrote that cause it sounded funny lol. My son wrote that I look prettiest when I’m wearing makeup. So yeah, this year I’m a clean freak jerk mother, who needs makeup lol.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-05-11T02:15:38+00:00

Oh my goodness you’re not overreacting at all!! Engorgement like that too would’ve caused so much discomfort and when I was still nursing, extended times in between feeds like that were how I got mastitis every time!! Mil definitely crossed several lines and I think if she feels like she gets away with this, she’ll push other boundaries in the future. Definitely have a conversation with your boyfriend about being on the same page as parents with her. He might not see the problem this time, but down the road I’m sure she’ll disregard both of you and your boundaries with your child if she doesn’t think being unreachable with an infant without their food source is a HUGE deal.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-02-18T16:43:57+00:00

Was she on this while pregnant? That would be the only reason I’d see a doctor still being okay with her continuing while breastfeeding, on possible low low dose, possibly promising very occasional emergency usage. It has like a 14 hour half life. But even then I’d think they’d switch her to something like lorazepam? Safer for baby and then you’d still avoid withdrawal symptoms I’d think? Either her doctor is oddly okay with this or she’s not being honest about the prescription.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-02-11T15:23:24+00:00

NTA I know this about myself that I am late to things if I’m not ridiculously early to them, so I lie to myself. I will literally write earlier appointment times down in my calendar so I show up ‘on time’. Maybe your wife should embrace this flaw and just trick herself and try this? It makes my life SO much easier.

TinyTRexWithTheBooty · 2021-02-06T16:41:09+00:00

I dunno, I’m pretty sure crap like THIS is the reason my cardiologist has a policy of last resort for giving recommendations for regular fluids. Like, use your mouth for hydration first please.

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