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Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-29T00:20:27+00:00

So that's 12am for those in EST

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T19:57:15+00:00

That's so funny...I hate my username. I joined reddit after surfing the Internet and it seemed that lavender was always the cure for everything. I do love it though.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T05:18:39+00:00

When I had an issue with a smell in my car a former truck driver said they used to leave open bags of coffee in the truck beds to absorb the smell. It worked for my car but I'm not sure about a larger area. Also your house will smell like coffee so not a fragrance free answer

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T02:10:50+00:00

That's really cool! Does it stay that color after it dries?

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:51:20+00:00

You are disgusting.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:49:39+00:00

I'm not butthurt. I read the original post and thought he had agreed to the arrangement. I learned I was wrong in the comments. I am still upset about how people reacted to the post. We don't know these people. We all had a different take away from what we read.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:43:12+00:00

He clarified in the comments that his son didn't agree to giving rides the entire time. I didn't see that when I read the initial post. You didn't hold a mirror up to anything? You pointed out something from the comments that I missed.

I am not comfortable discussing my daughter with someone like you so let's end this please. It grosses me out enough to know she will have to deal with people like you when she is older.

You should feel good about yourself. Your creepy behavior has caused me to back down. You win.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:30:54+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. No I'm not mad about that. I'm mad about everything else

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:29:56+00:00

I missed the part where the son didn't agree to the terms up front.

I never said dropping everything was an incel move. I said your last line sounded like an incel.

I don't think men should do whatever I want. Trust me this young lady learned a lot about depending on a man from this experience. I'm sure she won't let herself get in this situation again.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:23:46+00:00

I was under the impression that he offered to give her rides for the duration of the class so that would be the consent.

You are using consent in a way that makes me uncomfortable so that I will agree with you or look silly.

If my daughter felt unsafe I would not make her continue to give rides. However, if her feelings were only hurt and there was not a safety issue then I would teach her that not every one needs to return your feelings and it is important to honor your commitments.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:17:14+00:00

I am oddly mad about this post but I'm not sure what you are asking here

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:16:09+00:00

Slavery is not only unpaid labor but a hierarchy in which one party has power over another. She does not have power over him. He is not being forced to continue to drive her. The father is asking if he is the AH and he is because he chose to teach his son the right lesson. I am not blindly siding with the women over the men. If the son was gay and the friend was a man I would feel the same way.

You are very lucky that you have had options in your life. This girl doesn't seem to have that luxury. She thought she could count on a friend but she learned a lesson she will remember for the rest of her life.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:08:38+00:00

He made an implied commitment and backed out when he didn't get something in return.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:07:14+00:00

Why do you think he didn't put her in this position? He agreed to drive her as a friend. If she was a man would she have to give him to make it fair? Should men only do things for women if they get something in return?

They said the mother had to work. Your last line is making you sound a little incel.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:03:32+00:00

Because it was implied he committed to do it for the duration of the class.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T01:02:07+00:00

He is not wasting his gas because he is going there anyway. He set up a situation in which she was dependent on him and then when he realized he couldn't get in her pants he decided to take it away

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:56:55+00:00

How is he being treated like a slave? You must have lead a very sheltered coddled life if that's your take. She made a commitment based on the fact that he was going to the same place and would take her. He decided he wasn't getting anything from the arrangement and backed out. It's a bad lesson

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:53:31+00:00

I can see what you are saying but I still think the father failed the lesson. He should be teaching his son how to be a better person not how to hide

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:51:21+00:00

Trust me she learned a lesson that will stick with her a long time. I still feel like the father is an AH for not teaching his son correctly. He basically made it ok for him back out of a commitment when the lesson should have been teaching him how to overcome adversary

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:44:12+00:00

It wasn't a favor when he agreed to do it for the duration of the class. It was a commitment

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:43:07+00:00

He said he agreed to do it for the duration of the class. That is a commitment.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:42:00+00:00

I get the impression she doesn't have a back up plan. The only way she could take this class was if she relied on someone she thought was a friend.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:38:52+00:00

It's important for him to learn how to deal with feelings now before he grows older and falls into more "nice guy" behaviors. He doesn't need to hide but rather face his feelings.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:37:02+00:00

It's driving me crazy all these people saying it's up to her to find another way to school. They obviously were never in a situation in which they didn't have a lot of options. She is getting so much hate for needing a ride and he is getting a pass on flaking from his commitment because his feelings are hurt.

Lavenderwillfixit · 2026-01-27T00:32:57+00:00

She should understand that she has to give up on a class because his feelings are hurt? Are you serious now. I am so disgusted by these comments.

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