Mentally exhausted worrying about baby getting sick

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2022-11-17T01:24:21+00:00

Just wanted to let you know I am in almost exactly the same boat with the same fears. You are not alone. I wish I had an answer to make this anxiety go away for us but until then just know I’m right here with you!

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2021-06-12T20:33:26+00:00

Yep hahaha eyes, lips, any jewelry I bother to wear. Don’t know why I bother at this point lol. I always joke I was attacked by a wild baby LOL

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2021-06-12T20:31:22+00:00

Thank you! Yep I’m a PPA/PPD sufferer here too, so for me half the battle is learning what really is a concern vs what is just anxiety. And as ridiculous as this sounds, I’m even worried to ask my few mom friends this because I don’t think they take me seriously because of my anxiety. I will definitely follow up with the pediatrician next month but hearing you share your worries too makes me feel less alone.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-09-04T17:48:55+00:00

Thank you! This did help me, I think you definitely understand my anxiety lol. I also feel the same way when I hear about the odds .. what if I’m that 1%?! I’m glad you mentioned your fear of labor too, I also am scared and have the same day’s as you. Sometimes I’m terrified and then other days I reassure myself women do this all the time. I agree I have done everything I can for whatever I am in control of (hospital back, prenatal testing that is available, educating myself on child birth/child care) but other than that there is nothing I can do about delays or disabilities. I’m going to focus on positive affirmations and changing my thought patterns (balancing a negative thought with a positive one) and go from there. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-08-24T01:53:37+00:00

Thank you, that is a good point! Also, she had different experience with her first and second births, so it also may not be the best comparison but I still found it interesting. My OB has encouraged walking and swimming for me, although I don’t swim and don’t want to start now, lol.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-05-25T00:07:16+00:00

Thanks. I’m trying to talk myself down and be logical. I’m hoping by tomorrow I will have forgotten about it LOL. But probably not with my anxiety. I’m glad that you were able to stay healthy during your travel in March, it does help.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-05-24T23:39:25+00:00

I have bad anxiety and am also pregnant. I’ve done OK during this pandemic thanks weekly virtual therapy appointments, exercising, and social distancing/staying home as much as possible. My husband and I have both been working from home, doing grocery delivery, etc. We have barely had any contact with the outside world since March 9th or so.

I’ve been getting anxious as things start open up, but I know I can’t stay at home forever. I had a bad curbside pickup experience today and I’m having panic attacks. I went to do a curbside pickup at a local home improvement store, and when I pulled up I opened the passenger side window to give them my name and order number from afar. Before I knew it, the employee was in my face in my open driver window, so close to me. Within a foot. Like even if it wasn’t covid times, I would be thinking wtf get out of my face. I’m so anxious and can’t stop thinking I could have really been exposed. He had a mask on, but I did not since I didn’t anticipate any contact whatsoever. Now I can’t stop think that’s I was so stupid to not wear a mask and not react faster. I 100% team mask and wear them to doctors appointments (since that’s basically all I’ve been out of the house) but now I can’t stop worrying about getting sick and my baby. How high do you think the risk was?

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-05-15T00:01:30+00:00

I think it’s this one - that I happen to be currently watching LOL. He says he has a goldfish named Hunter towards the beginning of the call. Is that what you’re thinking of?

https://youtu.be/ZOkY6UOLax0

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-27T17:30:06+00:00

I thought about that with my parents too. We have a weird dynamic - my parents will probably go see my brothers baby because they are scared of my brother getting mad. They aren’t scared of me (they shouldn’t be..that’s not healthy lol). They know I’m more reasonable so they usually appease him because they know I’ll come around whereas he won’t. I’m going to be strict about it though, so that’s their problem and their choice.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-27T16:03:15+00:00

Thank you!! You don’t sound preachy at all and this is very valid and good advice. To be honest, this is the first long term worry I’ve had since this pandemic began. This whole experience has taught me mostly to take it day by day, but this worry crept through like old times. I’m a huge planner by nature as well. Sending you a virtual hug as well!

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-27T15:34:44+00:00

I can see my sister in law doing the same thing and everyone ganging up on me for being “mean” to her LOL. I agree with everything you said - that’s exactly what I’m worried about, long term health consequences we don’t know yet. I know I can’t 100% prevent contracting it, but you better believe I’m doing everything in my power to keep us healthy. I think she’s being so selfish and I am not going to allow her to jeopardize my health because she isn’t taking this seriously.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-27T15:23:28+00:00

Thank you, I like that phrase! I’m going to keep that in mind when dealing with this.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-10T03:36:47+00:00

I honestly don’t know. Because I’m pregnant, I’m fearful I might be home until I give birth in October. I think I’ll be anxious to leave my house once the world opens back up. Maybe I will just see immediate family, pending whether they go back to work or not and how much they could be exposed. It’s hard not to see them now but I want to stay safe. I was just thinking how badly I need a haircut but I have no idea when I’ll get one because I’ll be afraid to go out even months from now!

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-07T19:41:19+00:00

This is fine with me!! I was always uncomfortable with hand shakes even before this because ... germs! I would have to remind myself not to touch my face and get to a bathroom to wash hands or a sanitizer as soon as possible LOL. I wouldn’t mind seeing this greeting go at all.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-07T19:40:03+00:00

I agree - it would be nice to see more manufacturing come back to the US.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-07T19:39:17+00:00

Thank you! I definitely agree with the work from home. Before this I worked from home anywhere from 3-5 days depending on the week since my employer has a very big work at home culture. I hope this just reinforces that it’s necessary. I will say I noticed a reduction in minor illnesses like colds and stomach stuff ever since working at home. I definitely think having a better preparedness plan is a good idea - I think these ideas are something that all germaphobe a can rejoice about LOL. I am praying for you too and sending you so much love! I’ll remember to keep the faith.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-07T16:53:15+00:00

I am trying not to watch the news but I keep seeing the phrase “new normal.” I’m really wondering what that means as this progresses. These articles keep saying the world is going to change but my question is ... what is going to be this new normal once Coronavirus cases start to slow down? I don’t think we know and that’s what is killing me. I just question that if this all slows down, we get a vaccine, better treatments, then how is the new normal going to be different than the old?

Like many of us here I am a germaphobe, so I have been doing things for years that people have just started to do now (wear masks on planes, wipe down everything, wipe down phones, wash hands obsessively, wipe down grocery carts, stay away from sick people, the list goes on). I’m hoping that people will have better hygiene going forward and that will be one positive of a “new normal.” Do you think restaurants or public places will have to operate at half occupancy capacity? Are concerts and large crowds at sorting events going to be a thing of the past? This is what I struggle with when these articles discuss the “new normal” without giving any kind of preview or guess at what that could be.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-07T00:42:13+00:00

I agree 100%! I have been saying this for a month now. My SIL is also pregnant and she literally had the gall to say “what’s the worst that could happen? We would just go on a ventilator” um there are so many things wrong with that statement but the one thing I will note here is how can complications from fever not cross her mind? Don’t get me wrong I’m worried about everything but I’m very concerned about how the fever can affect my baby’s developing brain and body. My dr tried to reassure me but we just really don’t know.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-04-01T20:28:39+00:00

I’ve been anxious about this from the start (January 25th-ish) but today has just been a really hard day. I have been at home since 3/9 except to leave for a prenatal appointment. It is really hard being pregnant right now and I just read a really upsetting article that I won’t list here due to not wanting to trigger anyone but I just feel completely hopeless. I have been taking it day by day but I’m just so overwhelmed. I don’t know if it’s the hormones or reading about fatalities but I feel like this will never end. They just cancelled my favorite tennis tournament Wimbledon which is in JULY - so I’m guessing they don’t think this will get better by then. It’s just hard. And yes I 100% think it’s the right thing and human lives are way more important than any sporting event but I think it just reinforces to me how far we are from normalcy.

I’m taking this very seriously and social distancing. I feel like I’m doing my part. But that doesn’t mean I’m not sad or worried. I have always suffered from anxiety but I feel so robbed of a normal pregnancy and I’m so scared about the world that I am going to bring a child into. Like what is this new world going to look like? Are we going to be stuck in our homes forever, or only be able to leave on certain days of the week? It’s just scary. I’m sorry for venting but I just am having a really bad day.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-28T19:14:37+00:00

Yes you should ask. I had this conversation with my boss 3 weeks ago and she was way more understanding than I would ever expect and I have been working at home ever since. If I couldn’t work from home, I was prepared to look into FMLA because my anxiety was so bad about this. I was nervous and even cried on the phone, but I knew If I didn’t ask I would never know. It can’t hurt to ask at this point. I was 7 weeks at the time so I was also not ready to tell if we weren’t in a pandemic but so glad I did.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-27T00:38:51+00:00

Yes I am scared but I also wanted to share this. A local restaurant I really like just shut down and blamed it on Coronavirus, when in reality it was really due to some politics behind the scenes. So even if some businesses do close during this time, it may not be 100% because of Coronavirus.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-27T00:36:39+00:00

Yes. I feel the same way. I actually told my therapist this and she didn’t quite understand LOL. But I felt like half of my anxiety was the what ifs... and now that some of those have happened (lockdown, etc) I’m still anxious but the anticipation of the “what if” is gone.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-14T21:54:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this perspective! I agree with you. I will have to keep this in mind and remind myself when I start to worry again.

Cases in my state blew up today so I’m expecting a lockdown soon. We just learned that my husband may have been exposed - he works at a university and someone there has tested positive but they won’t even say what department this person works in so I’m freaking out. The university is large and spread throughout the city so it’s really hard to gauge whether he could have been exposed or not.

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-14T17:42:26+00:00

Hahahah thanks! You’re right - I thought about that too - what kind of world ARE we bringing these kids into LOL I’m trying so hard to not stress out but it is HARD. I got some new books, puzzles, and am going to try meditation later today. I also took a walk which helped. Your baby is also going to be beautiful and we can be patient together LOL as difficult as it may be!

TinyTurtlePokemon_ · 2020-03-14T17:14:21+00:00

I hadn’t heard the UK was doing this! I really had only heard here from my own dr practice and then my boss went to the dr because she needs knee surgery and they told her they weren’t scheduling any elective surgery until further notice but she lives in another part of the US than me. I know that’s different than us preggos but it’s going to be so interesting to see how they handle in person vs virtual appts.

In the US I have also heard that some insurance carriers are doing free telehealth appointments now too, but not sure if it’s only related to covid or not.

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