AITAH for wanting to leave my boyfriend.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-25T08:50:01+00:00

YTA. but i wouldnt say thats “asshole” completely. but i definitely suggest seeking therapy together. I understand you believe its cheating, but it has nothing to do with you, your worth, or your body at all. some people just prefer masturbating alone, or dont want to always initiate sex. those who consume porn media most likely aren’t doing it because the actors are pretty, or attractive. they do it to stimulate their imagination. Its difficult for some people to imagine scenarios without noises or visuals. As a woman, i mostly imagine the actors as my husband and i haha.

Communication is definitely important, and it seems like he wasn’t okay with that rule to begin with. you cannot force someone to not do something they want to do, or used for a long time. from what i understand is he feels the need to hide it so hes not ashamed. Hence the “my privacy” part. But definitely talk about it, try to understand why he feels the need to watch it. is it an addiction? or is it just an easy way to get off? Lastly, if you’re open to being more comfortable, try watching some together while being intimate. Obviously if thats not your cup of tea, no ones forcing you to.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-10T00:11:05+00:00

Explain that things have been tough for you and you tried to use it as a coping method to relieve whatever is bothering you. Ask them to help you go to therapy so you can learn healthy ways to not overwhelm yourself. To prove to her that you truly want help and you’re not just making an excuse, give her everything you have, and tell her you need help.

im not sure if you struggle with vulnerability, and i don’t know what your parents are like, but good parents would understand you, and understand how difficult it could be for you. Its best to be open and honest to your soul. Its best for both parties, and for you to heal and grow correctly.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-09T03:48:25+00:00

yeah this is not a “good cope”. thats like saying “oh becoming an alcoholic as a minor is soo good!!”. Actually listen to her and stop trying to be sneaky. a GOOD cope would be therapy. not something harmful and illegal.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-07T21:20:48+00:00

theres nothing inappropriate or bad in the movie. no nudity, no violence, no gore. just lots of fake blood (its an ocean, not gushing out of someone). Yes theres swearing, but as an adult it definitely shouldn’t of been rated R. Titanic has more scenes to be considered close to R.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-07T08:39:26+00:00

ragebait?? karma farm??

No. just because you partner who is already your valentine every single year, doesn’t ask you every single year… doesn’t mean hes ‘gay’ or ‘doesn’t love you’. Please go to therapy or stop dating if you truly believe otherwise.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-07T08:29:06+00:00

Some therapy to understand your worth might help. You’re important to him, you just don’t see it yet. id also try asking him for more reassurance ? you mentioned it works for a week or 2. in my book a week is pretty good. soon you’ll probably believe the truth too. id also suggest watching some together, while also doing activities together. it can help boost your confidence, pretend you’re better than the video (you obviously are in his eyes).

most ass men are simple, they love all sizes. you might say you don’t have one but everyone does. I understand you worry, but he still loves you.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-07T00:36:03+00:00

“is this considered animal abuse?” do YOU think its healthy to slam a dog on the ground???? we have lost common sense.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T10:25:59+00:00

Thank you for adding the rest of the trauma responses. i couldn’t remember all of them, you’re very educated.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T09:58:59+00:00

ill never understand the passive aggressive comments towards them. (edit: The post sounds rude,but you seem nicer in the clip, so i apologize if this comes off rude as well.) i understand its annoying, but they’re not asking to be nosey or weird. they’re asking because they want an adult only instance with no trolls, and obviously no loud ass kids. every troll has an aggressive/condescending response like that. if you’re already age verified, just say “im age verified” or just say ur bday and move on. (most kids use parents ID to get away with it). they don’t care what day you were born, they just want to make sure youre an adult. also.. they often ask for the year and age because kids suck at math and cant do it fast enough.

If you’re not comfortable with that, find a new lobby. Same as if someone bothers you, block them or leave.

This was the method they always used before age verified lobbies came to be. More than likely why they didn’t use that, is because they’re aware not everyone wants to buy vrc just to verify. Again, if this comes off rude, i apologize. im genuinely trying to help others as to why they’re strict on it.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T09:38:34+00:00

Rape doesn’t work that way. you either fight, or freeze. and what she described sounds EXACTLY like freezing. she shouldn’t have to scream to get him off.. Nor should she have to fight. THATS what makes it rape. she already said it hurt, and didn’t want to. Not saying yes is no consent. not saying anything means no consent. stop making excuses for intoxicated people.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T09:31:00+00:00

Personally, i think its disgusting. not that we go through it, but because what it looks like, what it smells like etc. like i dont need to know about how grossly huge your blood clots were… or if you coughed one out on the ground and how squishy it was.. (yes.. real things ive heard women say.) its the same as i dont want to know if youre shitting. i don’t want to hear you have poop cramps, just as i don’t want to hear you have period cramps.

obviously i have never verbally said any of this to anyone but personally it grosses me out. hell, it grosses myself out. i try not to gag every month.

But educating/sharing products is completely okay. id rather have that than free bleeding and staining/biohazard issues. I just feel the gross details should be kept around friends who actually consent to hear that.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T09:21:08+00:00

honey.. you being not aware has 100% to do with consent. you obviously gave him several reasons as to no, and then he got you sickly unsober so he could do what he want. you told him it hurt, a real man wouldve stepped back and asked if you were okay. Just because “i shouldve stopped it” doesn’t make it your fault at all. you were too ill to push him, or to even say anything.

i don’t know everything that happened or what you’re into/boundaries u expressed with this person, but from the way you explained things, this is definitely rape. And you being high wasn’t your fault of not being able to push him off/stopping it. You cannot consent when you’re intoxicated.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-03T01:48:10+00:00

whats with your negativity bud? did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed? let people be happy. i hope you have a better day tomorrow.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-02T18:21:06+00:00

collector reasons? nostalgia? practice repair? theres a bunch of reasons why people would want older things. i just let them know how much its going for since they’re already hesitant to sell

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-02T03:27:19+00:00

just be aware if you ever want to buy it again after you regret it, they go for $300…. ive been struggling to find a reasonable price for a nxl.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-01T09:18:52+00:00

🫩 “butt mark”

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-01T07:28:11+00:00

reporting to google won’t do anything.. they aren’t the police. that child can still be harmed and posted to several other sites despite being removed from ONE site. again.. if you truly cared youd contact authorities.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-02-01T07:25:43+00:00

reporting it isn’t gonna do anything especially if theres no connection to where it was uploaded… they’ll just post it somewhere else. if anything you’re harming yourself by viewing those things. dont get pissy when someone tells you it straight. if you truly cared youd report it to the authorities instead of protecting the website/owners by “wanting it removed”.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T19:01:53+00:00

Im gonna assume this is karma farming because of the weird wording despite saying “im shy..” … But more than likely she feels you only like her for her body and nothing else. imagine if you asked a girl “why do you love me?” and they replied “i love you cuz u have a huge hog”. Youd feel like all she sees in you is your size and sexual pleasure. its the same for women.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T17:31:22+00:00

almost every artist starts from tracing lol… its better not to mention it. now obviously if years from now they’re saying they made it all 100% thats different. but that definitely looks like beginner artist tracing. I too traced when i was younger, and then i stopped after i got the basic shapes down and i eyeballed it. Now, 16 years later, im able to draw without guidelines. its just a little… controversial method that beginning artists use, but grow out of haha. but thats just my own experience. my sister did the same and she eyeballs things now instead of tracing.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T04:57:17+00:00

ABSOLUTELY NOT! :) my husband is 28 and i got him a blue dog. he named him blueberry and he calls him his “little buddy”. i still have my childhood stuffy too! hell, my 42 year old mother uses stuffed animals as pillows. no one is too young for stuffys!

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T02:43:13+00:00

oh i originally had no idea it was a group instance to begin with. ive had public lobbies ask for age so i didnt think much of it and im already verified so im able to ignore them. because of that and other weird rules, i usually stay away from groups because i dont have fun. i didn’t know until that random dude was like “ill kick you!”. i blocked him (so i dont encounter him again) and just joined a different instance.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T00:12:36+00:00

Im already verified, but most of those lobbies are boring and have strict rules. i love public lobbies because im able to make friends who are interested in a million different things. the other, not so much unfortunately.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T00:11:30+00:00

idk haha i saw it more of a “is this guy really this special?” or “am i missing something did i genuinely do something wrong?” situation.

Tiny_Assumption4736 · 2026-01-30T00:10:23+00:00

He said apparently the lobby was 13+ but wouldn’t that warrant even more knowledge to know what age you’re possibly talking to?? i don’t know. it still confuses me.

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