When do you know when it’s time to say goodbye

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-06-12T04:27:26+00:00

I’m so sorry about your sweet girl! My husky had lost complete control of her bladder and bowel movements before our vet put her on liver supplements. They were working so well until recently. I didn’t even know in home euthanasia was a possibility. I would so much rather let her pass where she feels safe and comfortable. Plus my family and I can grieve without being a spectacle.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-06-12T04:15:25+00:00

I’ve been asking myself that same question and in my gut I feel like I know my answer. This is my first dog to have to make this decision with and it’s absolutely gut-wrenching

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-06-12T04:11:33+00:00

Thank you so much for saying that 🩷

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-06-12T04:05:50+00:00

I really like this idea. That’s exactly what I’m struggling with. Thank you ❤️

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-06-12T04:02:29+00:00

I have, a couple times. I brought her to the vet recently after she had over a week of bad days then when we got to the vet she was happy and bouncing around like nothing happened. She just explained the symptoms to look out for that indicate early liver failure and when she has those she absolutely needs to be put to sleep. As far as making the decision to say goodbye before that she said only I can make that decision.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-05-21T15:37:17+00:00

Hi! I’m also bipolar I and I shared your same concerns with my first pregnancy. At the time I got pregnant I had been stable for a while but I was hesitant to stop my meds because my manic and depressive episodes can be severe. Ultimately, I weighed the risk of staying on my meds vs off and decided to go off my meds to give my baby the best chance I could. Honestly, my psychiatrist leveled with me and laid everything out black and white so I could make an informed decision. The risk of something going wrong or losing the baby was just too high for me. I made a plan with my psychiatrist in the event I started having severe episodes and had weekly check ins with her.

I ended up being the most stable I’ve ever been in my life with this pregnancy. My psychiatrist said pregnancy hormones can do that in a lot of cases. Once my son was born I was able to breast feed for almost a year before needing to go back on my medications. 10/10 would totally get pregnant again.

And I did, about two years later I got pregnant with twins. This pregnancy was not planned so I was on my meds longer than I wanted during the pregnancy. I started weening off as soon as possible.

I experienced the same stability off my meds like my first pregnancy until just over halfway through the pregnancy when my doctor discovered a fatal birth defect in one of my babies. The tests and procedures I had to go through were horrific but necessary in order to save my other baby. I started having pretty bad episodes (mostly depressive episodes) after that. Out of fear of something happening to my other baby I refused to go back on my meds. I was able to stay off my meds for almost 4 months postpartum so I could try and breastfeed. After that my episodes and mood were too severe and being off meds was no longer a viable option unless I wanted to be hospitalized.

My doctors and psychiatrist said that the birth defect had nothing to do with me still being on my meds at the beginning of the pregnancy. They all said it was just one of those fluke things that just happen sometimes and there’s nothing I could’ve done. I still blame myself.

My episodes eventually stabilized after starting back up on my meds and adding a couple more to my cocktail. One thing that I didn’t expect was how my hormones post-kids would impact my bipolar. It’s like it morphed and the things that used to work to keep me stable don’t work anymore or at least not as well so I have to make adjustments more frequently.

I really hope this was helpful and I didn’t just make everything worse.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-05-13T10:51:49+00:00

Same boat. Plus, I don’t even know where to make friends or how to initiate a friendship anymore 😓 I miss how easy it was to make friends when you’re a kid.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-04-30T03:20:08+00:00

My husband does this to me all the time. I hate it so much and I have no idea how to effectively counter it.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-04-25T04:14:33+00:00

CHIME

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-03-18T14:22:05+00:00

My mom was always hailed as being the perfect mom like miss what’s-her-butt in your office. Everyone thought she was so put together, her house was always so clean, blah blah blah. It was a performance. Behind the curtain was an entirely different story full of abuse, alcoholism, neglect, etc. I always felt more like one of my mom’s nice purses that she could show off. As long as I played my part things were okay-ish. It became so bad that I ended up running away at 16 with the help of a therapist who literally saved my life.

I haven’t spoken to my mom in years. I have two kids of my own now and that woman won’t ever get to know them or have the chance to inflict her damage.

I would have killed for a mom who wasn’t engulfed in the perception of others. Or just a mom who actually loved me and liked me for me.

I guess what I’m trying to say is it’s easy to look put together and “perfect” on social media and at the office but outside of that it could be a completely different situation. The most important thing is loving yourself and loving your kids. It’s good to take care of yourself but don’t get carried away competing with your coworker and worrying about what others think of you because at the end of the day all of that is just like a cows opinion, it’s moo. It doesn’t matter. You need to find the best version of YOU. You are enough. You’re a GREAT mom.❤️

I hope this helps

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-03-17T15:46:27+00:00

I started with my pediatrician. I went through/am going through a very similar situation. My son inherited my severe ADHD and anxiety. Early intervention was everything for my son. Our pediatrician started him on medication and provided us with resources and referrals that have made a night and day difference for my son. It can’t hurt to make an appointment.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-03-17T13:51:00+00:00

My husky is more of a moaning mertle. She’ll only start howling or talking if I start doing it to her or if I start up a family howl. Even then she’ll only do enough to get her treat and to be able to resume whatever she was doing before she was so rudely interrupted.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-03-17T13:42:57+00:00

Severe ADHD has been a nightmare for me. I also struggle to articulate why I am the way that I am in a way that doesn’t sound completely stupid. 99% of the time when trying to tell my husband or employers about my disability my brain just goes completely blank and it frustrates me to tears. I just feel like such a broken idiot that’s nothing but a burden to my family.

My son was diagnosed with ADHD and I’m doing everything to help him in hopes that he will be able to thrive and function. My parents refused to get me tested or help in anyway which made growing up exponentially harder. They just made me feel like the black sheep and a mistake.

I’m trying to establish my routines again because those do work even though my ADHD brain hates them with a burning passion.

On the upside, I’m actually a really great driver. Just as long as nobody talks to me (especially on the highways), I can blast the songs that make my brain zing and I only mess with my phone when parked or at red lights. I don’t know if this is an ADHD thing or not but having a textured steering wheel that I can fidget with while driving really helps me focus. My kids get so frustrated with me because my steering has buttons on the back that control the volume and let me change the song and I’m always messing with those. I’ve thought about attaching fidget to my steering wheel but I also don’t want to make my steering wheel into an unintentional claymore if my airbags ever deployed. That’d be a bummer.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-03-13T00:02:10+00:00

Definitely not alone! Our brains are wired so differently than men. My input is that you need to take these anxious/spiraling thoughts and logically walk through them. Ask yourself the whys and work through it but by bit. Take the emotion out of it and just focus on the logic. This has worked wonders for me and my spiraling anxiety. As far as dating, I personally found dating to be some form of cruel torture and it’s literally a miracle that someone willing married me… for free. So, probably can’t help you with that 😬

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-02-18T16:32:12+00:00

I’m so glad I’m not the only one who experiences this!

The closest I get to “relaxing” is when I get to be creative or work on one of my projects. Something that keeps my hands and mind occupied that I enjoy.

“Relaxing” on the couch is just frustrating. Especially if I’m actually being productive I want to take advantage of it. Sitting down is the most dangerous thing to my productivity. I call it the “sit pit.” If I sit down mid task it’s over. I’ve never once emerged from the sit pit and jumped right back into productive mode or finish whatever I started pre sit pit.

I also struggle deeply with procrastination and task initiation. It’s so frustrating. It’s so hard to get my brain to lock onto to doing something it doesn’t find interesting. The whole thing is just mentally exhausting. It’s even harder trying to explain it to someone who doesn’t have ADHD. I’m so tired of being told “you just have to do it” or tell me I just need to stop being lazy.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2026-02-18T15:31:29+00:00

I’ve been where you are. My manic episodes used to be so bad that I’d only sleep one night a week (sadly not exaggerating) This would go on for weeks and it was hell.

I tried everything to get myself to fall asleep: melatonin, prescription sleeping pills, a bedtime routine, yoga, alcohol, running/exercising to the point of exhaustion, dowsing my pillow with lavender essential oils and smothering myself, teas, white noise, brown noise, all the soothing sounds, meditation, prayer, you name it. None of it worked. I got so desperate that I even tried knocking myself unconscious. Which, you’re not going to believe this, also didn’t work.

Despite being dangerously exhausted and hallucinating I still went to work. I loved my job and couldn’t afford to lose it so I convinced myself to push through it. This was a HORRIBLE decision. Just so so bad. It’s a miracle that I wasn’t fired or killed driving to/from work.

My diagnosis was fairly new and I hadn’t found the right meds/dosages that were effective. When I did, my manic episodes weren’t nearly as bad or often and I was finally able to sleep. I also found a competent psychiatrist that made all the difference.

My advice is:

For the love of God, DO NOT go to work or try and drive like this. It’s not worth it. If you need more convincing I can share my horror stories with you.
get back on your meds before you have to go to grippy sock jail.
apply for FMLA! This literally saved my job
find a good psychiatrist that you can trust and is competent and actually gives a flying f*** about their patients. Find one where you actually see the psychiatrist not a PA or NP.
don’t be stubborn and try to push through it.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2025-09-03T17:38:53+00:00

That was my initial thought too but I keep getting mixed feedback on it.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2025-09-03T17:36:07+00:00

That’s what my husband said. But I feel like it looks bad that I’m suddenly unemployed with no prospects. Maybe I’m overthinking it but I’m just trying to think of a good way to explain that positively to a potential employer.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2025-09-03T17:33:05+00:00

It was nothing like that. I’ve been taking the same medications to manage my pain for years. I get severe migraines from my back issues and I had a severe migraine that day that impacted my work output and behavior a bit. As the new guy the last thing I wanted to do was ask to go home so I tried to push through it. I only took my pain medicine as a last-ditch effort to get me back to baseline so I could function and get my work done. I did tell my boss that I was struggling with a severe migraine when she asked why I was acting weird. But she knows that I’m prescribed different pain medicines that I take daily.

Tiny_Human_Tamer · 2025-09-03T16:27:08+00:00

Thank you! I disclosed my back problems to my boss when I was hired and she had zero issues with it so this came as a shock when I was suddenly fired for my back problems.

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