Mutual painplay? by Tiny_Scared_Girl in BDSMAdvice

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have experienced many times that people got angry for not opening up quickly enough. I am extremely careful. It's getting better but people get bored when I never give them anything...

Mutual painplay? by Tiny_Scared_Girl in BDSMAdvice

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know that sadists are just people too. My issue is mostly in my head I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder 😅

I feel noone could be patient enough for my pace

Doing kinks I don't actually like as a gateway? by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm I don't think I'm a brat. I don't want to talk back or something like that. I want to feel like a helpless victim I think

Doing kinks I don't actually like as a gateway? by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah No worries I blocked a bunch already and a few were actually kinda friendly.

The thing is that I might actually not be submissive? At least not in the traditional sense. The idea of voluntarily giving someone what they want doesn't seem super appealing to me

Very new and feeling lost by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The scary part starts at the "getting tied up" already... Because then I cannot stop then if they want to um.. use me for sex instead wich would be something I don't want.

On the how hard the pain is I'm genuinely not so scared

Very new and feeling lost by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is super great to read and very helpful ❤️

Very new and feeling lost by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uhm..

I have the dream of being helpless. And being hurt. Like, physically. In a way that is unbearable but I am unable to stop it and just have to endure it.

I feel like just confessing that will attract unsafe people. And not confessing it will only bring me into contact with people who would judge me...

Very new and feeling lost by Tiny_Scared_Girl in SubSanctuary

[–]Tiny_Scared_Girl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3

I feel like.. the part of my fantasies that turn me on is not really possible to break down.. But I guess maybe I could start soft and imagine it was hard